Ascertaining Etiquette for a new forum

keanooo

I am a relatively infrequent poster, who has, by my own admission, put my foot in it in the past when posting. Since this rocky start I make it a rule to read and (as best I can) comply with posting guidelines. I have recently been considering posting in tLL so that the forum may be kept abreast of my worldview. I am aware that this can be a bit of a minefield and that many of the regulars there are quite touchy about the kind of poster that contributes.

So as to head off any potential fireworks I put out a thread out on AH looking for guidance. I wished to be advised, from more experienced boardsies than myself, as to what is appropriate/inappropriate in tLL. I asked that AHers relate what they have found in their experience posting there, and how they thought I should approach tLL's various topics/threads. Before I could get any helpful insight (apart from one poster saying tLL is a protected species) I found the thread locked. I then found that it has been deleted completely. I wasn't notified as to why this happened by any moderator*.

Speaking candidly, this over-arching protectiveness of tLL reeks of the worst kind of male chauvinism. I would have more than welcomed a bit of direction from tLLers who also post in AH. But apparently "the ladies" (in the view of some male moderators) aren't able to defend themselves. I can't believe some men still think this way in the 21st century...:rolleyes:.

How is a newbie to a forum meant to ascertain the requisite etiquette with this kind of behaviour from our moderating betters?

* Received a PM while drafting this post. Permanently banned from AH for "trolling".

Cicero

Can you explain your rationale why you asked a question in one forum, about the procedures & process of another forum?
This doesn't make sense to me.

Tom Dunne

keanooo wrote: »

So as to head off any potential fireworks I put out a thread out on AH looking for guidance. I wished to be advised, from more experienced boardsies than myself, as to what is appropriate/inappropriate in tLL.

Well there's your problem straight away. Most people would lurk in a forum, get a feel for what is/is not acceptable and then ease themselves in.

keanooo wrote: »

Speaking candidly, this over-arching protectiveness of tLL reeks of the worst kind of male chauvinism. I would have more than welcomed a bit of direction from tLLers who also post in AH. But apparently "the ladies" (in the view of some male moderators) aren't able to defend themselves. I can't believe some men still think this way in the 21st century...:rolleyes:.

Male chauvinism? Yes, that's what it is.

keanooo wrote: »

* Received a PM while drafting this post. Permanently banned from AH for "trolling".

So, AH mods see through you, tGC mods see through you and I am donning my x-ray specs as we speak.

The bottom line if you don't like the way a forum is run, stay out of it.

And no, this is not turning into another tLL bashing thread.

keanooo

Cicero wrote: »

Can you explain your rationale why you asked a question in one forum, about the procedures & process of another forum?
This doesn't make sense to me.

I am fundamentally against the idea of men posting in tLL and, all things being equal, I would leave it that way. But, as far as I can make out the place has really lost it's way and is removed from it's original intent; whether it be the preponderance of male contributions, the use of the place as a photo gallery to ply your wares or the thinly-veiled bragging about breast size. I think the place requires an injection of sane contributions. But I'm still unsure if it's the right thing to do.

I posted in AH, because it has a wide readership and I was fairly certain (absent a lock) of getting a wide diversity of opinion on the matter.

keanooo

Tom Dunne wrote: »

Well there's your problem straight away. Most people would lurk in a forum, get a feel for what is/is not acceptable and then ease themselves in.



Male chauvinism? Yes, that's what it is.



So, AH mods see through you, tGC mods see through you and I am donning my x-ray specs as we speak.

The bottom line if you don't like the way a forum is run, stay out of it.

And no, this is not turning into another tLL bashing thread.

Fair point on the lurking Tom, but that tGC ban was a joke.

Tom Dunne

I think I've read enough.