Men who bring home women from Thailand

Jaq_Draco

What is your opinion of men who bring home women from Thailand?

Would you view it in the same negative light as someone who would use the services of escorts?

kfallon

'Women' from Thailand you mean

*hums The Crying Game*

Caveman1

Well the women live a better life and the men enjoy themselves so it's a win win situation for both concerned IMO

hondasam

Jaq_Draco wrote: »

What is your opinion of men who bring home women from Thailand?

Would you view it in the same negative light as someone who would use the services of escorts?

Depends if they brought them to Thailand in the first place.

Mr. Rager

There are women in Thailand?

orourkeda

There seems to be a phenomenon that is common among, but not entirely exclusive to women whereby they marry men who are in prison or are on death row.

This appears to be a male equivalent. Blokes falling in love with lap dancers, strippers, hookers etc.

willmunny1990

Nothing wrong with it i suppose,as long as both parties are happy its not a problem.

Although id expect a thai women would lower her standards to get out of there for a better life.

KeithM89_old

Re-reg banned.
Continue on

JayTi

Dont know about Thailand - but my wifes chinese but we met here. As to a better life here we will be moving to China as soon as we can sell our house!
A mate of mine has a Thai wife and they live in Thailand.

Nodin

Jaq_Draco wrote: »

What is your opinion of men who bring home women from Thailand?

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Bit much shoving a woman in suitcase for that many hours, even if they are a bit small.

Stinicker

Handsome man we love you long time!

Kevin Duffy

Pilots? They're just doing their job, it's not up to them who gets on the 'plane.

W.Shakes-Beer

I'll be honest and say that when I see a middle aged man with a young thai woman I instantly think "mail order" or the likes. I know its fairly shallow of me to think it and if they're happy thats the main thing, but there is just something I'm missing.

Gummy Panda

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9R5oI3RGunk

Links234

kfallon wrote: »

'Women' from Thailand you mean

*hums The Crying Game*

:rolleyes:

IrishEyes19

Hmmm tough one. I get the whole better life thing, but my problem with it, is, if things could be different for them in Thailand, would they truly be happy with a middle aged bachelor, possibly having no English and coming to a foreign country completely different to their own culture. I would guess no. for that reason Im against it. I saw a program about it on the late late once and I was really repulsed watching it from what I remember. So sleazy.

Celly Smunt

long term prostitute?

charlemont

A former mayor of Clonmel,
I never saw him with a woman in his life, He went to Bangkok came back with a wife.

Sam Vimes

JayTi wrote: »

Dont know about Thailand - but my wifes chinese but we met here. As to a better life here we will be moving to China as soon as we can sell our house!
A mate of mine has a Thai wife and they live in Thailand.

Couldn't find yerselves some nice Irish girls eh? EH?

/Irish mammy

Snakeblood

charlemont wrote: »

A former mayor of Clonmel,
I never saw him with a woman in his life, He went to Bangkok came back with a wife.

Think you are missing the rest of the limerick.

Alopex

Some sanctimonious clowns on this thread.

These women are human beings like. They aren't just a nation of underclass f*ckdolls. Its perfectly plausible a white guy could meet a girl in Thailand and she just likes him for him.

dark crystal

How much can someone have in common with a person they hardly know, can barely communicate with and haven't fallen in love with before they get married?

I don't know, something about the whole buying a wife thing creeps me out. I feel sad for the women, a lot of whom are raised to think they are simply commodities who can be bought by lonely foreign men who haven't managed to find a proper relationship in their own country.

Same goes for the older ladies who fly out to the Gambia or Turkey, looking for young men to fulfill something lacking in their lives.

Not saying some of these relationships end up working in the longterm, but it's a pretty sad basis for a marriage, imo.

Celly Smunt

Alopex wrote: »

Some sanctimonious clowns on this thread.

These women are human beings like. They aren't just a nation of underclass f*ckdolls. Its perfectly plausible a white guy could meet a girl in Thailand and she just likes him for him.

how much was yours?

ottostreet

I occasionally get comments along the lines of 'mail order' because I'm an ugly ****, and my girlfriend is a pretty hong kong girl.
Irritating, because she's almost as Irish as me!

Jesus Wept

Well played.

Cee-Jay-Cee

It seems to be getting quite common/popular and i know of several men who have thai wives however i think the number of truely genuine cases is very very small. Most are men who are socially awkward and shy who were/are unable to meet anyone over here....but their money/wealth make them very attractive to thai women who hold their own families wellbeing/future in such high regard that they are willing to marry these men and move away from their families. I personally have nothing against it but find it a little ridiculous that some thick irish man who has never had a girlfriend in his life all of a sudden is able to meet and woo some young (and in many cases, beautiful) thai girl half his age and expects people to believe that it was a mutually established relationship and his wealth/money had nothing to do with it....yeah right!!

The King of Moo

I'm a bit conflicted about it.

Louis Theroux did a great documentary on it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRCDGw_qVkA

I felt sorry for both the men and women. The women seemed to be getting themselves into an old-fashioned relationship where love wasn't important, and they played a very subservient.

And some of the men just seemed bitter and lonely and simply looking for attention. Like one guy who'd tell any girl he met that he loved her and wanted her to marry him on the first date. He clearly had issues with women, as he was always going on about how modern women were too independent and disrespectful.

But then, no-one's forcing them into it, and if it makes both sides happy, who am I to judge?

sunflower27

The King of Moo wrote: »

I'm a bit conflicted about it.

Louis Theroux did a great documentary on it:

I felt sorry for both the men and women. The women seemed to be getting themselves into an old-fashioned relationship where love wasn't important, and they played a very subservient.

But then, no-one's forcing them into it, and if it makes both sides happy, who am I to judge?

Hahaha. Cheers for that video

"What if I come back and I want 10"

And that Louis is kinda cute

bambera

Had a big long conversation with a Thai woman about this before.

According to her, in a lot of cases, young Thai women marry Thai men in Buddhist ceremonies but are not legally married. They have children but the man then goes off with someone younger and prettier (no need for divorce because they're not legally married) and the man doesn't have to pay maintenance.

With a western man, Thai women feel they have more security and are treated with more respect.

It's almost like a contract of sorts, it may not be out of love, but it's a better life than living on the streets with your children because your husband has gone off with someone else.

Alopex

CJC999 wrote: »

It seems to be getting quite common/popular and i know of several men who have thai wives however i think the number of truely genuine cases is very very small. Most are men who are socially awkward and shy who were/are unable to meet anyone over here....but their money/wealth make them very attractive to thai women who hold their own families wellbeing/future in such high regard that they are willing to marry these men and move away from their families. I personally have nothing against it but find it a little ridiculous that some thick irish man who has never had a girlfriend in his life all of a sudden is able to meet and woo some young (and in many cases, beautiful) thai girl half his age and expects people to believe that it was a mutually established relationship and his wealth/money had nothing to do with it....yeah right!!

same thing happens with irish girls and very rich irish guys. you're talking as if wealth and money has nothing to do with relationships in europe.

fairly uncommon you get a middle class irish girl going out with a working class irish guy. The reverse pretty normal though. funny that seems a lot like the way you talk about thai brides

sunflower27

Just finished the video. The guy has been married three times so this will be wife number 4, they met 6 days ago and she is 21.

He reckons it took her three hours to fall in love with him...

He is creepy, 'don't ever lose your beautiful smile'.. cccccccringe.

Love that Louis is so honest

The King of Moo

sunflower27 wrote: »

Just finished the video. The guy has been married three times so this will be wife number 4, they met 6 days ago and she is 21.

He reckons it took her three hours to fall in love with him...

He is creepy, 'don't ever lose your beautiful smile'.. cccccccringe.

Love that Louis is so honest

Here's part 4 (for some reason parts 2 and 3 aren't on youtube)

The guy in this with the red hair and glasses is also very creepy but I also feel sorry for him.
Lots of anger issues and problems with "modern" women. The poor guy would think he'd fallen in love with every girl he met on the first date and promise to adore them and treat them likes princesses if they'd marry them (as long as they did the housework I'd say ).

Creepy, but the poor guy's also just lonely

Richard Dower

^ i hate the way folks label people [usually guys] as creepy....these men have long standing issues, in many cases it's BECAUSE society/women JUDGE them on how they look, ergo they are rejected....that over years impacts on their personality, it makes them as people say "creepy", in many cases this creepy thing is related to issues, insecurity, desparation and lonelyness......they crave intimacy and a relationship, like we all do.

wild_cat

I used to be weirded out by it until a friend of the family arrived home with a lovely Thai lady. She didn't depend on him for money or anything as she began nursing in Dublin where they settled when she moved over.

He ended up getting very ill and died a short while later. She treated and minded him like a king up until the day he passed. I think it was more of a friendship situation that a sexual one but it was nice to see that he was cared for so well after 40 something years of being single before he died.

He wasn't a sleaze or anything like that, just a very shy and quiet man... Who I'd say was probably gay but was too catholic to admit it. I also just want to add that she wasn't a young thai or anything like that, she was the same age as himself.

aaronjumper

Damn all the good jokes were taken. . .

The King of Moo

Richard Dower wrote: »

^ i hate the way folks label people [usually guys] as creepy....these men have long standing issues, in many cases it's BECAUSE society/women JUDGE them on how they look, ergo they are rejected....that over years impacts on their personality, it makes them as people say "creepy", in many cases this creepy thing is related to issues, insecurity, desparation and lonelyness......they crave intimacy and a relationship, like we all do.

Fair point, I'll amend it to they come across as creepy.

Lord TSC

Feel as if this is a copy/paste job from the prostitute topic <_<

People go into relationships with a list of pros and cons, and wether a relationship survives depends on if both people are able to get something of worth out of the relationship. The guys typically get a woman to call a wife and who they can sex up. The woman gets a "better" life out of the deal.

Balances out. Provided both are happy, I see no problem. It's no different than other relationships where the positives are different but more commonly accepted by people.

Killer Pigeon

I hear you can buy them for cheap in the duty-free at Bangkok International Airport.

Richard Dower

The King of Moo wrote: »

Fair point, I'll amend it to they come across as creepy.

I'm reminded of poor Jonty from BB8....labeled a creeper and peadophile, but the guy was just barmy and childlike....totally harmless.

sunflower27

Richard Dower wrote: »

^ i hate the way folks label people [usually guys] as creepy....these men have long standing issues, in many cases it's BECAUSE society/women JUDGE them on how they look, ergo they are rejected....that over years impacts on their personality, it makes them as people say "creepy", in many cases this creepy thing is related to issues, insecurity, desparation and lonelyness......they crave intimacy and a relationship, like we all do.

He is creepy, the wife-to-be is 21 and he is what 60-something?

booboo88

Alopex wrote: »

Some sanctimonious clowns on this thread.

These women are human beings like. They aren't just a nation of underclass f*ckdolls. Its perfectly plausible a white guy could meet a girl in Thailand and she just likes him for him.

hahahahahaha.....

ottostreet wrote: »

I occasionally get comments along the lines of 'mail order' because I'm an ugly ****, and my girlfriend is a pretty hong kong girl.
Irritating, because she's almost as Irish as me!

But she hot, and your not? (your words not mine)

wild_cat

dark crystal wrote: »

How much can someone have in common with a person they hardly know, can barely communicate with and haven't fallen in love with before they get married?

I don't know, something about the whole buying a wife thing creeps me out. I feel sad for the women, a lot of whom are raised to think they are simply commodities who can be bought by lonely foreign men who haven't managed to find a proper relationship in their own country.

Same goes for the older ladies who fly out to the Gambia or Turkey, looking for young men to fulfill something lacking in their lives.

Not saying some of these relationships end up working in the longterm, but it's a pretty sad basis for a marriage, imo.

See my post.

Richard Dower

Teamshadowclan wrote: »

Feel as if this is a copy/paste job from the prostitute topic <_<

People go into relationships with a list of pros and cons, and wether a relationship survives depends on if both people are able to get something of worth out of the relationship. The guys typically get a woman to call a wife and who they can sex up. The woman gets a "better" life out of the deal.

Balances out. Provided both are happy, I see no problem. It's no different than other relationships where the positives are different but more commonly accepted by people.

+1...is a Thai wife ANY different to an Irish relationship?....i think not!!!
Many relationships are based on give and receive, many on status and financial reasons, i'm not listening to any guff about love and soulmates :rolleyes:

Keep that crap for the romance section.

Panty_thief

Its cutting to the chase imho. we know how society works - in general - and how men and women assess each other. in society youre pretty much given a score based on factors such as a nice face, rich, a nice rack, good job, not a bloater etc.
a lot of this is just poorly hidden behind a thin veil of romanticized bullsht about love. to an extent the majority of relationships are just contracted prostitution, women use sex as a weapon and men are known for getting their truncheon attended to elsewhere when terms aren't being met.
this is no creepier than women saying they want a rich husband.
sex is paid for in many ways - some more direct than others.

sunflower27

The King of Moo wrote: »

Here's part 4 (for some reason parts 2 and 3 aren't on youtube)

The guy in this with the red hair and glasses is also very creepy but I also feel sorry for him.
Lots of anger issues and problems with "modern" women. The poor guy would think he'd fallen in love with every girl he met on the first date and promise to adore them and treat them likes princesses if they'd marry them (as long as they did the housework I'd say ).

Creepy, but the poor guy's also just lonely

Homework, you mean?

I get they are lonely. It is all kind of sad, really.

'Meeting of minds' after meeting for three hours and then they are getting married. Unreal.

dark crystal

Richard Dower wrote: »

+1...is a Thai wife ANY different to an Irish relationship?....i think not!!!
Many relationships are based on give and receive, many on status and financial reasons, i'm not listening to any guff about love and soulmates :rolleyes:

Keep that crap for the romance section.

What's 'guff' about marrying for love?

Is this an outdated concept these days or something?

4leto

I know of someone who did get a "mail order bride" and they are still together and I have to say happy after at least 25years. So it does work out for some.

bazza1

Men of a certain age returning with young Thai brides is the same as women of a certain age retuning with young Turkish grooms.

The King of Moo

sunflower27 wrote: »

Homework, you mean?

I get they are lonely. It is all kind of sad, really.

'Meeting of minds' after meeting for three hours and then they are getting married. Unreal.

I mean all the chores around the house. He seemed like the old-fashioned type who wouldn't touch a hoover!

I felt sorry for him, and I hope things worked out.
I'd love to know what they're up to now.

sunflower27

The King of Moo wrote: »

I mean all the chores around the house. He seemed like the old-fashioned type who wouldn't touch a hoover!

I felt sorry for him, and I hope things worked out.
I'd love to know what they're up to now.

Well, the first one's marriage lasted 8 days. Suppose a 40-year gap can have its downsides.

The red-hair guy... gawd only knows. It made for uncomfortable viewing all the 'I love you' and Louis cringing and the woman giggling nervously. Be interesting to know if they lasted.

Lanaier

OP never specified if he was talking about buying a woman...he said bringing home.

Alopex wrote: »

Some sanctimonious clowns on this thread.

These women are human beings like. They aren't just a nation of underclass f*ckdolls. Its perfectly plausible a white guy could meet a girl in Thailand and she just likes him for him.

Indeed, I'm having a good chuckle at all these "She's getting a better life" comments.... because life is so terrible in Thailand :pac:

If she's after the bankbook she's better off keeping him where he is lads.
You guys are actually IN Ireland yes?