Dont want to reply. Do i block number?

Mrs Garth Brooks

Not a major issue but its bothering me all the same.
I lived in a house share a couple of months ago. There was one housemate i found was just to nosey. She wanted to know my every move. Who i was with, how long, where i went, why i was home early or late, basically everything about my life. Not just that but all during the college year she pressurised me to get part time work. Even though i lived fine of savings. Her nagging got worse in march as i was almost finished the year.
She also refused to pay some bills, so i was out of there.
I didnt want to create a bad atmosphere so never said anything. I gave her as little information as possible.
As im gone now, this is someone i do not want to stay in touch with. I cant bear to be quizzed on every aspect of my life and to be given advice where i dont need it or ask for it.
She texted me once about a month ago with about 8 questions in 3 texts long. Rather than being a bitch i replied with 'things are great with me' and left it like that.
A couple of days ago i got another one of her 3 text long messages with about 8 questions. I didnt reply as its just nosiness and it'll just fuel her into texting me again.
I woke up to a nice message this morning, whats up, are u not talking to me?
Its killing her not knowing but how do i get her to stop? Is it possible to block numbers?

meditraitor

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

Not a major issue but its bothering me all the same.
I lived in a house share a couple of months ago. There was one housemate i found was just to nosey. She wanted to know my every move. Who i was with, how long, where i went, why i was home early or late, basically everything about my life. Not just that but all during the college year she pressurised me to get part time work. Even though i lived fine of savings. Her nagging got worse in march as i was almost finished the year.
She also refused to pay some bills, so i was out of there.
I didnt want to create a bad atmosphere so never said anything. I gave her as little information as possible.
As im gone now, this is someone i do not want to stay in touch with. I cant bear to be quizzed on every aspect of my life and to be given advice where i dont need it or ask for it.
She texted me once about a month ago with about 8 questions in 3 texts long. Rather than being a bitch i replied with 'things are great with me' and left it like that.
A couple of days ago i got another one of her 3 text long messages with about 8 questions. I didnt reply as its just nosiness and it'll just fuel her into texting me again.
I woke up to a nice message this morning, whats up, are u not talking to me?
Its killing her not knowing but how do i get her to stop? Is it possible to block numbers?

most smart phones have this capability but I think you need to bit the bullet and tell her you don't want any contact...

Dan133269

OP you could have some great fun with this situation. Give her short and vague answers to her questions, also bait her with other info that you'll know she'll find very interesting, but don't give her the full details, then when you digs for more just ignore her!

Little Miss Lady

If it was me I'd just reply with..
Did I not text you back?
Sorry been mental lately. I will chat to you when it calms down..

Cue lack of contact and phasing out

Good luck!!

OS119

sunflower27 wrote: »

Sounds like a total nightmare. I can imagine you don't want to be rude, but telling her she is too full-on is actually doing her a favour.

while i agree with this advice in principle, i'd have to ask if someone so obviously un-self aware (she wrote out a 1000 character text with half a dozen questions, got a fairly curt 'yeah, i'm fine' reply, and didn't take that as a hint) would be able to understand 'you're a bit too full-on' and go about her life like a normal person.

me, i'd block the number - which doesn't mean she can't just use another number to contact the OP to see if she's being blocked - or get a new SIM, which solves the problem.

the only caveat is whether you have any non-phone contact with this irritation/loon - if you live on the other side of the country, great - if you see her in the pub or there's a chance she might turn up on your doorstep demanding to know why you don't respond to her texts, then you may have to just have it out with her and demand that she doesn't contact you again.

Miss Fluff

Nip this in the bud. You don't owe her anything. Which service provider are you with? I was being hassled by someone about 18months ago and O2 blocked his number for me. That way you won't know if she has texted or not as you won't receive them. Don't reply to her, you managed to free yourself from her when you moved out so don't let her start annoying you again!

Penn

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

I woke up to a nice message this morning, whats up, are u not talking to me?
Its killing her not knowing but how do i get her to stop? Is it possible to block numbers?

To be honest, it sounds like she's getting the message. I'd say just don't respond. She'll probably text you once more in the coming weeks saying something similar again. After that, she should get the message. If not, call your mobile company and get her number blocked.

rugbug86

I'd say it to her tbh rather than block the number. Just say
"Listen, Mary, I'm really sorry but I would rather if you didn't text me as often as you do. We're not exactly best of friends and while I don't mind the odd "hey how are ya?" every so often, the extent at which you're texting me is approaching stalker levels. So I'm asking you nicely to put a halt to it, and if it doesn't stop I'll look into getting your number blocked cos I just can't deal with the level of contact."

I think blocking the number without giving her a chance to redeem her ways is kind of harsh and could result in her getting rather irate and it could potentially cause issues if there were any mutual friends etc etc etc.

jimmycrackcorm

Don't pussy foot around. Text her she is being obtrusive and don't text again.

John Mason

why cant you just delete the messages as soon as they come in? and just get on with your life ?

i hardly think this is something to be getting worked up about unless you fear for your safety

LegacyUser

OP, was this the nutcase who was going through your bins etc? I think I remember you telling us the story. She was a total nightmare when you lived there obsessing over your every move and blatantly asking you twenty questions that were none of her business. IIRC she took something very personal from your bin and stuck her nose into personal things that were none of her business?

If it is the same woman do NOT reply and yes block her and do not feel one bit bad. She seemed a very troubled woman and I do not think hints will work.

Firetrap

The OP's former housemate got in under her skin which is why she posted here before. So I guess having those texts coming in is annoying her and you have to respect that.

She's got two choices really. She can either have her number blocked and say nothing to this woman.
Or she can text her, tell her not to contact her anymore and hope that that's where it stays. And perhaps block her number then.

I suppose the right thing to do for the housemate's benefit is to let her know that she's been overstepping the mark big time. It will be a shock to her but perhaps in a good way. She might learn from it and perhaps not become so fixated on people she meets in the future. Maybe.

On the other hand, the OP owes this woman nothing. She doesn't like her, she wishes she'd just get the hint and feck off and she dreads the sight of these nosey texts coming in. If she blocks her number, that's the end of the matter. Let the housemate figure out for herself that she's being ignored.

Mrs Garth Brooks

To the user who suggested that most smart phones can block these messages. Thank you, i never knew i could. Downloaded an application to the phone and blocked her number. So i hope thats the end of that. Although i do wish i could tell her she's too nosey. But she's been all her life at it, i cant stop her. I never in my life ever had to feel i had to block someone but one thing that gets to me is nosiness and i cant have these messages.
I hope i dont meet her her on the street now. Although came across another application that can give you a fake call! I never knew phones can do all this.

Firetrap

At least if you do meet her on the street, you can be honest and say you haven't received any texts from her