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Meeting an ex

  • 29-08-2011 10:28pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My BF broke up with me three weeks today, it feels like three years.I am feeling lost without him. We broke up as he had alot of emotional issues he needed to deal with. We have had very little contact bar 5/6 texts but i am aching to see him, how long should i wait to see him? I dont want to seem like im pining for him even though i am, but i still want to be able to have a conversation with him, without me crying or getting angry.I'm not naive and i know that you cant make someone be with you but i do have some things i need to say and i need to get some pieces of clothes/Jewlery that he has.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Hey OP, sorry to hear about your troubles. While its important to get what you want off your chest and to get your stuff back, I would avoid meeting up for now. Maybe in a few months which will give you both perspective. Things are too raw and believe it or not if you keep contact in the short-term you will just reset yourself back to square one. Not sure who broke up with or who, or whether it was mutual of course which might colour my response a little, but overall my own opinion is to steer clear and let yourself heal a little. Feel better.


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
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    If you get in touch with him or meet with him you're going to set yourself back so badly it will feel like he only broke up with you yesterday. Why put yourself through that? And you know if you look deep inside yourseld that you only really want to meet up with him in the hope that he'll see you and change his mind. Don't do that to yourself hon.

    Ask a friend to pick up your clothes and jewelry. Anything that needs to be said can wait until you're healed. You will most probably find that you no longer need to say the stuff that seems so pressing now.

    I can understand how hurt you are and how much you need to see him but staying away from him is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.


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