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Friend's drinking

  • 29-08-2011 9:38pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I know there's a few other threads here about people with drinking issues, but every context is different, hence a new thread.

    I live with one of my best friends, and have done so for a couple of years. We get on well, never have fights or arguments and are generally very easy going. In the last couple of months, I've noticed him developing a drinking habit. It started out fairly innocuously - we'd have people over to watch a movie, and he'd be the only one drinking (having a few cans). Recently, though, it's got much worse. Any time he's at home, he's drinking whiskey (morning, noon, night). It's relatively recent, but it's constant, and I'm worried it'll develop into something more serious. I tried to say something to him, but he just joked about it. Am I overreacting, or should I do something?


Comments

  • #2
    TwoShedsJackson
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,438 ✭✭✭TwoShedsJackson


    If you've already said something, then leave it at that. I was in a similar situation a while back and a friend's mentioning of the amount I drank was what got me started on an eventual path to drinking an awful lot less.

    This may or may not happen with your friend, but someone with a drinking problem will not be able to change until they realise they have a problem and decide to do something about it.


  • #3
    Magicmatilda
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 601 ✭✭✭Magicmatilda


    If he is drinking whisky morning, noon and night how much more serious can it get. Sounds like alcoholic drinking to me. Others might disagree but anyone getting up and drinking first thing has a problem.

    You can't control or change his behaviour, he has to accept he has a problem and deal with it. You can look at your own behaviour. If you are living together maybe its time to move out because this will only get worse and anyway there is nothing worse than watching someone you care about destroy themselves. You need to mind yourself in the situation.

    If I were you I would broach it one more time and if he makes a joke I would make it clear that it is not funny, it is not a joke, it is very serious.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Is he holding down a job? If so I presume he's drinking before work? Tell him you're terrified of him losing his job and having to move out.


  • #5
    lace
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 400 ✭✭lace


    Hi OP! You've raised the issue once so wait and see. If the trend continues or his drinking worsens then consider saying it once more, in a more serious tone. There's no point in mentioning it to him any more than that because he's the only one who can sort out his problem. He has to realize it's a problem and seek help. I know he's your friend and you want to be there for him but there's not much you can do if he's got a serious drinking problem.


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