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easy mark

  • 27-08-2011 12:44am
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    LegacyUser
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    I seem to strike everyone as a bit of a "loser", an easy mark, someone to feel sorry for. I have no idea why this is and obviously it really p*sses me off.
    I've often felt like the "consolation prize" for people, as if they would rather spend time with someone else but will spend time with me rather than be alone. I regularly seem to come across as someone who doesn't command too much respect.

    I have no idea why this is. Ok, I'm quiet and look younger than I am but I don't self deprecate, I'm happy enough in my own company, I have good friends, I've travelled alone and lived abroad, I'm educated, have a good job.

    Even when I think I'm doing "fine" someone will say or do something to show that they feel sorry for me and see me as a loser.
    Just tonight at a party, a girl came over to me saying that she didn't want me sitting by myself and began to chat with me mentioning several times that I shouldn't have to sit by myself. She then said I was welcome to join them when they were going to X club, I thanked her for the invitation and she said "no problem at all". I know in writing it looks like she was being really nice, and she was in a way, but if you'd heard her tone of voice, it seemed like she wasn't talking to me because she wanted to, it was because she felt sorry for me and the way she responded after I thanked her made me realize she thought I was very grateful that I had been invited somewhere. Do you know what I mean?

    This has also happened with some men. They seem to just think I'm easy pickings. Again, I don't know why, like I said I don't self deprecate and I have a good sense of humour.

    I just don't know what I'm doing to create this impression of myself. While I'm not the most confident person in the world, I know I have many talents and good qualities and I don't know why I seem to have a big "target" sign on my head. Anyone had similar experiences?


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