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Choosing your loved one over friends

  • 25-08-2011 3:55pm
    #1
    7sr2z3fely84g5
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    in the dump your friends thread,one poster said they would rather spend time with their gf instead, love can make people do what they wish.other times their other half can dictate who can they see or where they go.

    Sometimes ask how can a person put up with this but as long as they are happy no one should complain right?.


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  • #2
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Unfortunately many relationships involve a controlling partner, either male or female.
    Sad when you lose friends to these relationships but hopefully they'll be back once they realise their mistake and break up.


  • #3
    SheFiend
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 362 ✭✭SheFiend


    Bigtime echo the above statement. I've seen a few mates grow very unhappy because of controlling girlfriends / boyfriends who get annoyed when they want to meet their friends. It's horrible to watch a friend becoming a loner through trying to please their selfish partner.


  • #4
    Rocky_Dennis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 433 ✭✭Rocky_Dennis


    SheFiend wrote: »
    Bigtime echo the above statement. I've seen a few mates grow very unhappy because of controlling girlfriends / boyfriends who get annoyed when they want to meet their friends. It's horrible to watch a friend becoming a loner through trying to please their selfish partner.
    I've seen this happen too and to be honest I have no sympathy whatsoever. These people choose to be with a controlling OH, if someone is controlling, the signs arise early in a relationship and then it is time to get out.


  • #5
    SheFiend
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 362 ✭✭SheFiend


    Absolutely agree with you Andrew. It is their own choice.


  • #6
    hatrickpatrick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,797 ✭✭✭✭hatrickpatrick


    That is pretty much the one and only "not a chance" factor for me.
    If you ask me to choose between you or my life, you may as well just leave.

    The happiest relationships I know are those where people become friends with their partner's friends as well and hang out with them sometimes.


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  • #7
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,228 ✭✭✭epgc3fyqirnbsx


    Some people seem to need or want a controlling partner. I've seen lads move from one relationship to the other where they were always completely subservient and under the thumb, and seldom treated all that well.
    But, it has to be said, they usual seem quite content like that.

    Some people seem to crave authority...


  • #8
    CardBordWindow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,199 ✭✭✭CardBordWindow


    You've known your friends for years. The OH is only a blow-in by comparison. I can understand wanting to spend time with the OH,especially at the start of the relationship/honeymoon period, but you can't forget the people who have always been there for you.
    People who dump their friends completely will find it very lonely when they have nobody left to turn to if the relationship goes belly-up!


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