Enagagement present.

dubtom

I'm going to an engagement party next week and I'm wondering,what's the norm re a present. An actual gift? tbh I wouldn't have a clue what they'd actually need, or just money. I've never been to an actually organised engagement party before so really haven't a clue. Their a couple in the V early twenties if that helps.
Cheers.

LadyTBolt

Restaurant Voucher?

fro9etb8j5qsl2

Had ours a few months ago and genuinely weren't expecting any presents, we just wanted a good auld knees up tbh! got a fair few presents, everything from scratch cards to photo frames to hotel vouchers to beautiful glass sets. Delighted with all of them

bills

Dont get wine glasses. We got way too many of these! you only need so many.

+1 for the hotel voucher.

winterlight

We'll be having our engagement party soon and I wasn't really expecting presents to be honest- I would be delighted with a card!

Obviously if the party is in a house do not turn up on the doorstep without a bottle of wine/bubbly/beers.

By all means, get them a present. I do think a voucher for a hotel stay as suggested by a previous poster is a bit OTT- I wouldn't be expecting anything of the sort! I think a card and a bottle is enough. If they're good friends of yours you could get them a bottle of champagne or prosecco. You'll be giving them a substantial present at the wedding anyway.

Redonblonde

We got cards and 3 casserole dishes...and lots of money from some people, and then from others we got nothing, not a card even, it's so varying. I would have been happy with just a card tbh...small, takes up no space but a lovely reminder for years later

missmoo

+1 on no wine glasses. and no photo frames that say engagement, we got loads of these!!!

we got vouchers for marco pierre whites, one for all vouchers, arnotts vouchers, bottles of bubbly, champagne flutes, newbridge cutlery, think resraurant vouchers are the best bet, means the couple can have a treat!!

really wasn't expecting anything, love keeping all the cards we got, so was delighted to get so many of them, have them stored in a pretty box

Bride2012

We didn't have a party but got various cheesy nicnacs (don't do this) from people. The most useful presents were restaurant vouchers, one said in the card 'I know that you'll be saving like mad for a while so treat yourselves to a night out on me'. I thought that it was very sweet and thoughtful.

Monife

+1 on a bottle of something if it is in a house.

Tbh, I do not see the need for engagement presents. You are already going to be getting them a present for their wedding. I think a nice card with a personal message inside is lovely.

We never had an engagement party but got a couple of cards, which we were very happy with. It is nice to just mark the occasion with a card but I think a present is a bit excessive when it will cost a bit to attend the wedding and give a wedding present.

If you really feel the need to get a present, then like other posters said, a voucher for a restaurant or something similar would be really nice.

tinkerbell

^^ I agree on the no point for engagement presents - I do not do engagement presents. The couple will already be getting a wedding present. Expecting an engagement present too is just greed.

winterlight

tinkerbell wrote: »

^^ I agree on the no point for engagement presents - I do not do engagement presents. The couple will already be getting a wedding present. Expecting an engagement present too is just greed.

I agree. I am acutely aware that it will cost people money to attend our wedding and give us a wedding present. In this day and age, I do think expecting expensive restaurant vouchers and the like for engagement presents is just milking it!

HairMonster

+1 on a bottle of something if it is in a house.
And absolutely +1 on no cheesy knick-knacks!
I understand the wine glasses thing, but if you're as clumsy as me a big supply of glassware is not a bad thing

I guess whether they expect something depends on the party. If its just a get together in a pub or something "free", I'm sure nothing is expected. If they hired a venue or had to pay for food/a caterer then I would bring some token.
IMO a hotel voucher is way OTT though, and you'd have to get a restaurant voucher for the cost of a meal for 2 which is still a lot. Do you know anyone else going, and you could club together to buy a voucher?

Or how about a bottle of bubbly, even if it is in a venue? We didn't have a party but we got loads of bottles from close friends & family, but at least its something they can use up.

paulbok

I didn't expect any engagement presents when we had our party, (didn't want any to be honest) as there is enough cost involved for those coming to the wedding. A card is fine (perhaps throw in a lotto ticket) or a bottle of wine if the party in in a house (not a pub though).
If you do want to give something, the voucher idea is great, as like with weddig presents, most people have everything they need.
Or, maybe a group present where evereyone chips in for a weekend away in a hotel somewhere.