Need help stalking!

ardinn

Ok so I was friendly with a girl about 10 years ago when I was in collage, Not intimate just good mates, she had a rough time and I used to like kinda looking out for her (in my own head I was, she was easily influenced and a bit of a nutter, but i cant say I didnt think very fondly of her)

Anyway, I moved away - phones/numbers got lost/broken, people get busy etc etc etc.

So I was back in that town about 4 years ago and decided to call over, I was on an errand so I could only stop by and say hi - and as I had no number for her just called by the house - No-one home

So a year after that, same thing.

Next year, same thing.

I was beginning to think this girl had maybe moved away, as her parents had bought her the house and she was having trouble finding work etc, or maybe she just sold it and bought somewhere else or moved to the moon or something.

So I was in the town again today, and did my little yearly road trip by her house, no-one home!!! But - the front was done up with a new fence, and lovely potted plants and bushes and the house looked well, maintained, and lived in, so someone is living there.

I asked one of the neighbours who was living there and he couldnt tell me so i plodded along home with myself.

I have searched facebook, bebo, and even tried myspace!!! No trace of her.

As with all new houses built around the time, the builders never heard of a landline and the house has no number - all the places she worked are gone, the people are gone, and our mutual friends lost contact too and never really bothered after we all moved away.

So - My first question is, how do I find out who owns the house now? If I can do that it would save me knocking on the door once a year for a start. it may also help me find her or get her number, or just get an idea of what happened to her. She cant have vanished!

Before anyone accuses me of being LM or whatever i just really wanted to say hi to her again see how she is doing. and the more times i draw a blank when i look for her - the more i want to find her - ffs it shouldnt take four minutes to find anyone in this day and age let alone 4 years.

So what ideas do you guys have or how would you find her or get her number to say hi, remember me? Sounds pretty sad but i genuinely want to find out how she is. as I said she had a rough time over the years i knew her so i'd love to find her and see ho she is doing.

ok let the suggestions, and abuse, roll in!

TheZohanS

Write her a letter, put your number on it. Simples.

Larianne

TheZohan wrote: »

Write her a letter, put your number on it. Simples.

Oldskool!!!!!!!!!!!

Saila

she saw you but was hiding behind the couch each time

ardinn

TheZohan wrote: »

Write her a letter, put your number on it. Simples.

And send it to the house she may have moved from years ago? Worth a go I suppose - rather find the owner of the house and be sure she does/doesnt live there.

Fizman

If it was meant to be, you'll guess her phone number.

LightningBolt

Jump into her back garden with ten white tshirts and hang them on her clothes line. Write your number on tshirts and await joyous phonecall or garda knocking on your door.

TheZohanS

ardinn wrote: »

And send it to the house she may have moved from years ago? Worth a go I suppose - rather find the owner of the house and be sure she does/doesnt live there.

Exactly. If the house has been sold the owner might forward the post to the new address. Either way leave your return address on the back of the envelope.

PseudoFamous

Just knock on the door one day, ask "Is there a *name* around?"
If they say anything useful, great. If they don't, say "Oh, I must have the wrong house, so, sorry."

Kojak

Follow her home one night and lurk in the bushes for a few days - if something happens then you are in, if not - at least you had some fun in the bushes

ardinn

PseudoFamous wrote: »

Just knock on the door one day, ask "Is there a *name* around?"
If they say anything useful, great. If they don't, say "Oh, I must have the wrong house, so, sorry."

I havnt seen anyone there in four years!! thats the point - i haave knocked, but its usually daytime and i cant just take a 4hr round trip every evening till i get an answer.

ardinn

Kojak wrote: »

Follow her home one night and lurk in the bushes for a few days - if something happens then you are in, if not - at least you had some fun in the bushes

You didnt read my OP did you??

John Doe1

ABUSE!!!!!

--LOS--

Send a letter to the house, then forget about it if you don't get a reply, you're only driving yourself crazy. Years looking for someone? Move along, life's too short

recylingbin

Break in, have a look around for pictures of her. If there are none, rob their telly. If tere are some, scrawl your name and phone number in blood on her wall. Girls appreciate that kind of romanticism.

ardinn

--LOS-- wrote: »

Send a letter to the house, then forget about it if you don't get a reply, you're only driving yourself crazy. Years looking for someone? Move along, life's too short

Well essentially ive spent 4 days looking for her - maybe a few hours each day so probably 10 hrs in total - not much when ye spread it out

Where To

Maybe shes had a sex change

TheZohanS

John Doe1 wrote: »

ABUSE!!!!!

Ah good man John, they let you out of hospital again.

Hasmunch

Just accept it OP

longhalloween

Kojak wrote: »

Follow her home one night and lurk in the bushes for a few days - if something happens then you are in, if not - at least you had some fun in the bushes

But the whole point is that he's LOOKING for her!

Follow her family and any friends she might have had and build an intricate web of intrigue and suspicion that leads to you breaking into the house tieing the family up and looking for the Fritzl style dungeon they're keeping you lost love...






At least thats what I'd do...

im invisible

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OUrc1n546mU

Cianos

It never occurred to you to pop a note through the letterbox ??

looky loo

Somebody save the bunny........:eek:

Fizman

Cianos wrote: »

It never occurred to you to pop a note through the letterbox ??

Oh I'd say a lot of things occurred to him that includes her letterbox.

--LOS--

ardinn wrote: »

Well essentially ive spent 4 days looking for her - maybe a few hours each day so probably 10 hrs in total - not much when ye spread it out

ok so maybe its not consuming you. There's just loads of people I'm sorry I didn't keep in touch with but at the same time I don't think about it coz you just have to get on with things. Maybe if you had asked the neighbour if such n such was still living there instead of asking who was living there.

ardinn

Cianos wrote: »

It never occurred to you to pop a note through the letterbox ??

It did - but she may not live there, the house may have been sold 10 times since then so its pretty pointless. unless she does live there - which wold have fixed this years ago!

Pff - go figure!

Plazaman

You'll need 4 pairs of latex gloves, 1.5 litres of Parazone bleach (PARAZONE, don't use Domestos), 3 feet of rubber hose, a bottle of syrup of figs....... wait.... what do you need to do again?

OK...head to the local Post Office, ask to see the register of electors for the area, say you're worried you won't be able to vote for Mickey D. If she's still in the house she'll be on the register.

Find does not mean hide......

TanG411

Www.eircomphonebook.ie

Throw her name and address into the phonebook, see if a number pops up for the house you make an annual pilgrimage to.

Cianos

ardinn wrote: »

It did - but she may not live there, the house may have been sold 10 times since then so its pretty pointless.

And yet going there every year isn't?

ardinn

ardinn wrote: »

As with all new houses built around the time, the builders never heard of a landline and the house has no number - all the places she worked are gone, the people are gone, and our mutual friends lost contact too and never really bothered after we all moved away.

No number

teol

Look for her brothers/sisters on facebook/twitter
Look on http://ie.linkedin.com/
Send her a letter
Do you not still have her college email address?

Johro

You were 'in collage'?
:rolleyes:

tbahh

Knock on the front door again and say in a husky voice "Housekeeping"!

ardinn

teol wrote: »

Look for her brothers/sisters on facebook/twitter
Look on http://ie.linkedin.com/
Send her a letter
Do you not still have her college email address?

I was in college, she wasnt.

ballsymchugh

Johro wrote: »

You were 'in collage'?
:rolleyes:

we all were, except you. we were well hidden when you turned up!

Johro

ballsymchugh wrote: »

we all were, except you. we were well hidden when you turned up!

Uh-huh. All stuck together. Like in a collage.

Tubsandtiles

Op are you for real ?...you know the address, cant you just look it up in the phonebook and if the name matches the address and phone number..its her

ballsymchugh

Johro wrote: »

Uh-huh. All stuck together. Like in a collage.

was kinda messy now that you mention it

:pac:

Kojak

ardinn wrote: »

You didnt read my OP did you??

I never read the OP.

Johro

ballsymchugh wrote: »

was kinda messy now that you mention it

:pac:

I'll bet. I can see it now. Sorry I missed it. Students eh?

Balmed Out

ardinn wrote: »

Ok so I was friendly infatuated with a girl about 10 years ago when I was in collage,Unfortunately Not intimate just good mates, she had a rough time her own life and I used to like kinda looking out for following her about (in my own head I was her boyfriend, she was easily influenced didnt fancy me and so must of been a bit of a nutter, but i cant say I didnt think very fondly of her)

Anyway, I moved away - phones/numbers got lost/broken changed and made exdirectory, people get busy restraining order's etc etc etc.

I feel for you dude, id suggest

Do the letter.
Talk to the neighbours, show them some old photos - maybe they have newer ones too!!!
Check bebo - old but who knows
Check all old contacts of hers on facebook and search through their friends, theres this reall annoying feature that allows people hide their profile from coming up on search results.

ardinn

Balmed Out wrote: »

I feel for you dude, id suggest

Do the letter.
Talk to the neighbours, show them some old photos - maybe they have newer ones too!!!
Check bebo - old but who knows
Check all old contacts of hers on facebook and search through their friends, theres this reall annoying feature that allows people hide their profile from coming up on search results.

This thread highlights some major attention issues with boardsies!!

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Just go through her bins to find out what's happening with her, you could even find her phone number in there too!

Tabnabs

OP, what's her name, maybe someone on Boards knows her?

phill106

Go Back to the place where she first saw you
You need to camp in your sleeping bag, You're not gonna move
Get some words on cardboard, and get her picture in your hand
Saying, "If you see this girl can you tell her where I am?"

Jaxxy

Ah OP, you've already been given the best advice. Write a letter, include return address. So what if she doesn't live there? Why are you so afraid of someone else reading your note? Are you planning to tape a handful of your own pubes to it?

Since you've exhausted all other obvious avenues, do the letter thing. If she's not living there whoever is might have a forwarding address for her.

leonidas83

sounds like there's more to this than just friendship on your side of things OP, if she was someone you knew back a few years ago who ya werent overly bothered about why are you so desperate to get in touch, just doesnt make sense, if you admit that ya like her ill tell ya the best way to get in touch with her, honest:)

biko

Call to the house in a ESB uniform, ring door bell.
Make some stuff up.

Tabnabs

Awkward...

:o:o

Frank Black

Be honest OP.
You spent most of secondary school lusting after her - she never noticed you though, until that day you stopped her brother from getting beaten up by bullies.
You invited her to your grad - she said yes, but an unfortunate occurrence with the zipper on your tux ruined what could have been a memorable evening.

Next step - You need to hire a private investigator.

leggo

OP your determination to find her does sound a bit creepy tbh. It's not normal behaviour (except for rapists). Making an annual trip there then posting on boards about it? Come on dude...go to nightclubs, join a dating site, whatever, there are other ways to meet women apart from obsessively stalking someone who gave you a bit of attention years back.

The letter thing or showing up on her doorstep years later will only weird her out and make her think you haven't stopped thinking about her (which a quick check of your boards posts will later confirm for her).