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think i fancy my friend

  • 12-08-2011 11:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Ok, long story short-myself and hubby moved to new city 6 years ago and made friends with several new people. We get on very well with these people, but over the last 3 years, I think I fancy one of the guys (he is also in a relationship, engaged to be married next month).

    however, my hubby has been working abroad for the last year, and this group of people have been the best ever, they look after me so well. We would always meet up most weekends for dinner/drinks/nights out etc.

    The only thing is, I keep thinking about this guy, he is very nice fellow, very funny and we have loads in common (sometimes more than him and his fiance I think). I dont know if this just because my hubby is away or what the story is, but its wrecking my head!

    What should I do - I cant exactly cut contact with this guy, cos it would look very wierd everyone even my hubby! I just dont know where my head is at!! He is a very good looking guy, and very kind and thoughtful, I just dont know what I'm at or thinking!!!! I love my hubby to bits, and am sick of going on nights out with loads of other couples on my own!

    Is it just because I miss the company of my husband that I'm looking at this guy in a new light, or do I have genuine feelings for him! (which I would hate the thoughts of, I would never do anything like that to either my husband, this guy or his fiance!)


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  • #2
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    That was a low dig about him and his fiancée - who is to say what attracts a couple to each other and you say this, it would seem, to justify your crush on him. In any event it doesn't exactly bode well for your compatibility with your husband that you are thinking like this.. People in glass houses etc....

    It's decision time for you and your oh. It's obvious his travelling is taking it's toll on the marriage so it needs to be talked about. Does he know? Is this likely to continue?

    There is no need to lose contact with these people but recognise it as what it is - a crush cos you are lonely. Don't flirt with this guy or lead him on as it's not fair to him. He has chosen his fiancée so let them too it and sort out your own relationship and let him have his.


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