Should I go to my debs?Reply fast please

whatcartoget

Well to begin with I am an 18 year old mle. I need to pay for my debs ticket in the next few days if I want to go. I have no one to go with to begin with I have one friend only really and there a few other people I sort of talk to but I know they would stab me in the back. I did get bullied a lot by people in school and they really hurt me. A lot of people in school have this thing about wanting to get me drunk and I am not really a drinker. It's just the wat I am never have being. I have only being on one night out on a school trip and there were certain people that tried to push drinks down my troat the whole night. I also get very nervous near people that I feel are bullying me that did in school. I got bullied so bad I skipped loads of school and did a very bad leaving so this will also be an issue if I go because every one will know I did a bad leaving! So should I go to my debs?

Moomoo1

I wouldn't go, no

LegacyUser

I wouldn't if I were you. I mean nothing in your post sounds like you are looking forward to it in any way, or that you'd enjoy it. It sounds as though you are thinking of going because you feel that you 'should' go. Life is too short to do that!

I didn't go to mine, not because of any issues like you mention; I just wasn't interested. I remember having fleeting thoughts about what would people think, but I didn't really care! You'll probably never see most of those people again, and to be honest, that doesn't seem like a bad thing from how you have described them!

fghijkl

I wouldn't.

I hated everyone I went to school with and vowed to draw a line under my school days the minute I'd finished the leaving, wanted nothing more to do with 99.9% of my classmates.

I didn't go to my debs and it was one of the best choices I ever made to be honest. Started college and used it as a clean slate to be the person I wanted to be and made some real life long friends. Never looked back.

woodchuck

I didn’t go to mine and I don’t regret it. There were a lot of people at school that I was very uncomfortable around and I just wanted to get out of there and start college with a clean slate and leave that part of my life behind me. There was no way I was going to step back into that world after starting a new chapter for myself. I didn’t see the point in spending what I considered at the time to be a lot of money to go to something just to say that I had gone, when I really didn’t want to be there. Just be prepared for a whole lot of people saying ‘oh my god, you’re not going to your debs?!’. If you don’t want to go, then don’t!

If you have the option you might be able to buy yourself more time to make a decision by putting down a small deposit but not paying the whole amount right now. But from the sound of your post it sounds like you have your mind made up already. Just go with your instincts

emilyjmc

I'm sorry you had a rough time from these people in school. It sounds like you may not enjoy the debs if they are putting pressure on you to drink too much. Is there any reason that you want to go or do you feel like you should because it's the done thing? You should do what you feel you want to do. If these people treated you badly troughout your time in school it is doubtful that they have copped on over the last couple of months and will treat you with the respect that you deserve on the night itself. Is the debs on somewhere local to where you live or is it one that you all get a couch out to for the whole night, returning early the next day? If it is local it might be less of a risk to take going (if you don't feel 100% about it) as if you aren't enjoying it you can slip away and head home.

whatcartoget

I would have to get a bus there with some of the class. It os about 40 miles away. I do hVE few friends and I do like them. I have a secret. I did nothing wrong something just happened to me in my when I was growning up and I am afraid if I drink I might blab this out to them. There will be certain people at it who will just make a laufghing stock out of me and I wouldn't put if past them to try and spike my drinks.

Carsinian Thau

I'd side with not going.

You won't miss out on anything and from the sounds of it, you'd actually be saving yourself from something damaging or unpleasant.

Take the money and spend it on something that you'll actually like.

tenchi-fan

aw you should go. don't get drunk though!

karaokeman

whatcartoget wrote: »

I would have to get a bus there with some of the class. It os about 40 miles away. I do hVE few friends and I do like them. I have a secret. I did nothing wrong something just happened to me in my when I was growning up and I am afraid if I drink I might blab this out to them. There will be certain people at it who will just make a laufghing stock out of me and I wouldn't put if past them to try and spike my drinks.

It can be very awkward because nowadays it does seem like "the normal thing" for people to go to their debs/bring a date or whatever.

Really its overhyped and by all means over-rated. If you don't want to go to your debs, then you will be happy you missed it. Don't put yourself under pressure to spend a whole lot of money on something you will forget a few years down the line. You will have much better balls in college.

When you go to uni you will meet people who will more than likely be your friends for life. Very few people survive the secondary years anyway. I'm only finished this year and I'm already losing contact with most of the friends I got to know really well in school but I'm looking forward to a clean slate in college where I can start again.

On the other hand if part of you wants to go, thats fair enough too. Try and stay close to your real friends for most of the night and steer away from the group of people who bullied you at all costs. Just tell them you have no intention of drinking for the night and they will leave you alone. The girls they brought would probably be very unimpressed if they were trying to force beer into your system, so if that happens they will look like the big kids and not you.

Do whatever feels right for you, but remember this you won't regret your decision either way.

whatcartoget

I paid the depoist months ago. I am going to wait and see how the results go and then I will consider what to do but I have a feeling I did really bad. I found it very hard to focus and I did hardly any study so I basically messed it up and the worst part if it is the bullies drove me to skip school and I messed up because of them.:(

whatcartoget

sunflower27 wrote: »

How much was the deposit?

You can always repeat can't you? There are options for you so don't get depressed thinking you have no choices.

30 OR 40 Euro.
I spent so many years in school and it was hell. So, I would hate to repeat and even the courses I liked people have commented on how there gay and etc.

emilyjmc

Forget what other people think of the courses that you like - their opinion isn't relevant. I hope you do get into a course that you like, where you will meet other people there with the same interests as you. As other posters have said you do have options on the off chance that things don't work out as planned. Regarding the debs, you could alway go and steer clear of the booze altogether - maybe tell a white lie that you are on antibioics or something that will react badly to alcohol. Hoping it all works out for you.

whatcartoget

sunflower27 wrote: »

Oh for God's Sake, so what if someone calls a course gay. Why do you even care about what others think. What courses do you want to do?

You need to put your thinking cap on here and look at other options.

As for the deposit. Forget that. It's nothing in the big scheme of things and will cost you a lot more if you actually go to the debs.

Sorry. My corses are social care and stuff in the hospitality/tourism indusry.