Is she a compulsive liar?

Flange/Flanders

This is a strange post but bear with me.

My ex and i were very on/off the last while, always her that wanted it off. Anyway, she told me last year that something really bad happened her and she was seeing a psychological counsellor now over it. Anyway last week I got a text from an unknown number saying it was the counsellor and looking to discuss my ex's treatment with me and to get feedback off me. I said grand and she said she didnt want my ex to know we were in contact. Anyway since then, we sent a few texts but my ex accused me of betraying her by talking to the counsellor. She said the counsellor has "lost her phone" and now has a new number.

So my question is, are counsellors tied to privacy issues in the same way doctors are? Basically I want to know if the ex was lying to me.

Thanks.

Flange/Flanders

Yeah that was my suspicion but just wanted it confirmed, I was even telling her we should talk face to face. Thanks.

LegacyUser

Oh Dear OP. You've been very naive. No mental health professional would discuss a patient without their express permission and definitely not by text.

You do realise in all liklihood it was your ex texting you fishing for your opinion on her, which is obviously a very unhealthy thing for her to be doing.

You've been quite gullible and you've also shown that you would be prepared to discuss someones very personal business which is quite immoral.

Learn from this and try to be a bit more discreet in future.

The Lovely Muffin

It sounds to me as if your ex was pretending to be the counsellor/psychologist.

To my knowledge no one in the medical profession would discuss any of their patients/clients via text messaging and certainly not without the client/patient knowing.

Flange/Flanders

Well i did have a suspicion that it was her, i asked her out as well but she swore it wasnt. I also didnt say much to this counsellor. Anyway, live and learn. Thanks Zeus.

Flange/Flanders

Well I guess thats why Im dumped now so I wouldnt officially find out!!!

Plenty more fish in the sea anyway

LegacyUser

Hi man,
Just to clarify here, some people say they "think it might ahve been your ex".

Ok, from experience here, this WAS your ex.
First off it is unlikely she has a Councillor, she might but unlikely, it is just a nice tool to tell you she is sorting things, heard it all before.

IF she DID have a Councillor, the Councillor does NOT want to speak to you or anyone else in her life. All a Councillor does is talk to the person asking for help and lets them discuss whats on their mind and help them sort their thoughts, there is NO reason ANY Councillor would EVER contact you. And they should never have a need to, you have no bearing on any treatment from a Councillor for this girl.

To go even further, not that they would ever contact you in the first place, lets be real here, what professional in ANY field would text someone about something important and related to their work. It would never happen.
A professional in any line also does not conduct business on their own personal mobile and then "lose it".

This was your ex lying to you, telling you she has a Councillor was a sympathy card and texting you was to make you say things she thinks you wont say to her face.

I just want to clear this up as I know you had doubts and some of the replies here suggest it "might" be her texting you... be sure, this WAS 100% her! And if she has done this she has serious mental health issues, none of which are your concern. You are broken up and are well shot of someone like that. If you have any doubts about wanting her back, just DON'T. The lies and drama will only get worse and worse, get her out of your life. Sounds harsh but I promise you, you will be glad down the line you avoided so much grief.

Dude, I've been there, calls and texts from "work mates", "councillors", "her boss", her "friends". Its amazing what someone can do with an unlocked phone and a tenner to spare on a new sim card. Worse, how many personas she can invent with several sims. Just run a mile here and dont look back, please!

Auldloon

In some cases a councillor will ask to speak to family members/partner/close friends. It would never be by text message.

Flange/Flanders

Thanks guys, valuable help there. There's also so many other things that she told me thats happened her, so much so that I didnt know whether she was a compulsive liar or not. I suppose tho regardless of what happened her, she should never have pretended to be a counsillor.

I'll be honest, i do miss her. But I have to move on, only 1 month ago she was telling me how much she loved me and then she suddenly met another guy and wanted to move on from me, after2 weeks she changed her profile pic on fb to one of the two of them together. Now what kills me is the thought of them going the distance (even tho he lives a long way away from her - she told me) cos then it'd suggest that the reason that we failed was cos of me. And i know its daft thinking that cos any reason we broke up was because of reasons that she came up with, i never had reasons to split up with her. I suppose tho its stupid of me to think like this tho, like i should be concentrating on myself and if she has issues then she's going to carry them into a new relationship. I know myself that Ive no interest in another relationship myself for a long time.

Flange/Flanders

Thanks sunflower.

I think she was but I think its cos she needs a boyfriend or the attention.

Thanks anyway.