Women playing games.

longhalloween

Women are p*ssing me off so much lately.

I asked this girl out, she said yes, we were texting for a while then NOTHING! Not a word.

I texted her twice last week trying to arrange to meet somewhere and she hasn't answered or given any reply. Even a simple no would be fine, just so i could stop thinking about it and move on.

Is it that hard to give a bit of closure?!

Also an old gf of mine from a while back got in touch. We were chatting away, met up a few times and it seems (to me anyways) that by the way she was acting she was interested in getting back together. But what a difference a week makes.
I saw her once since then and she was colder than usual, not talking as much and now she's playing hard to get. Listen love, at this stage I don't care at all what happens between us, its probably time to call it quits again anyways but for the love of god make up your mind about what you want!!!!

What the hell is going on?! I get on well with girls in general but its rare that I find that I'm genuinely interested in someone. And now the first girl i like in about 5 months is either messing me around or just not arsed to reply.
I can't for the life of me think of what Im doing wrong?!

Ciara_kee

Ah I think men are just as capable of carrying on with the same craic in fairness! I think that 'people playing games' is probably more of an apt title!

But in answer to your query OP, honestly I doubt you are doing anything wrong, you've just been unlucky that the two girls you've been interacting the most with lately have pulled the same crap.

In fairness, most people are guilty of enjoying 'chase', that is being chased or being the chaser. Unfortunately it's most likely the case that these girls were interested and they've now decided that they're not sure or have changed their mind. Sorry if that's a bit blunt but I think that you have to look at it that there's nothing wrong with you or what you're doing, they've just decided that they don't want to pursue anything with you anymore. It could be that they've met someone else, under pressure at work, at home with family, are going away for a bit - whatever. All that is basically code for 'they're just not that into you' unfortunately but again - that's no reflection on you OP, they were just not the right girls for you. And in fairness, you've already been through it with the ex girlfriend and have already come to the conclusion that she was not the right girl for you once before!

I've spent years trying to figure men out and I'm still lost most of the time but I do know that sometimes you can literally do nothing wrong and still suffer from the sudden lack of text syndrome so I think in those cases you just need to accept that you probably weren't right for each other and move on.

Ickle Magoo

Perhaps if you stop viewing women so negatively - like assuming all women are like the, what, two you you actually have complaints over you might get more success?

Ciara_kee

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Perhaps if you stop viewing women so negatively - like assuming all women are like the, what, two you you actually have complaints over you might get more success?

I think that's a bit unfair really. I mean it's very easy to get bogged down with the notion that the sample you've dealt with are more the rule than the exception, myself included! I take your point that not everyone is the same but when you get burned like that in quick succession it's hard to be positive.

musicinyou

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Perhaps if you stop viewing women so negatively - like assuming all women are like the, what, two you you actually have complaints over you might get more success?

hes not viewing women Negatively, he has issiues with two in which he has outlined, in which i can see why he be peeved, thats a bit mean Ickle.

OP, leave them behind, there are good women out there as there are men, just put em past ya and tell yourself there not for you.

head up, chin up, off you go son, best of luck

Ickle Magoo

It's really not unfair or mean. There are billions of women in the world.

"Women playing games" - it's two women playing games.

"Women p*issing me off so much" - it's two women annoying the OP.

It is unattractive to have a chip on your shoulder which is based on a completely irrational prejudice, little will have a potential partner heading for the hills faster. If the OP wants better success with "women" stopping categorizing an entire gender based on his very small sample of it would be an excellent place to start.

OP,

We have all been hurt and rejected, we all have to learn to deal with that rejection - getting bitter and getting into the mindset that the behaviour is gender driven rather than just there's a lot of frogs out there of both sexes that we all have to kiss if we want to find the good ones is just not healthy.

Draw a line under it, accept there are people like that out there and know you are better than that - would be my advice. :cool:

chicken fingers

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Perhaps if you stop viewing women so negatively - like assuming all women are like the, what, two you you actually have complaints over you might get more success?

I agree, I think your remark was rude or at the very least, tactless.

You assume that he assumes all women are like this. He said, women have been playing games. Not all women.
If she doesn't answer you, fair enough, move on. You don't need a text message telling you that for closure. Just close the case yourself and move on bro.

good luck.

booboo88

Listen love, at this stage I don't care at all what happens between us, its probably time to call it quits again anyways but for the love of god make up your mind about what you want!!!!

why want to get back together when it seems YOU cant be arsed?
Its not really that nice to be made feel like plan b:rolleyes:

ceez

longhalloween wrote: »

Women are p*ssing me off so much lately.

I asked this girl out, she said yes, we were texting for a while then NOTHING! Not a word.

I texted her twice last week trying to arrange to meet somewhere and she hasn't answered or given any reply. Even a simple no would be fine, just so i could stop thinking about it and move on.

Is it that hard to give a bit of closure?!

Also an old gf of mine from a while back got in touch. We were chatting away, met up a few times and it seems (to me anyways) that by the way she was acting she was interested in getting back together. But what a difference a week makes.
I saw her once since then and she was colder than usual, not talking as much and now she's playing hard to get. Listen love, at this stage I don't care at all what happens between us, its probably time to call it quits again anyways but for the love of god make up your mind about what you want!!!!

What the hell is going on?! I get on well with girls in general but its rare that I find that I'm genuinely interested in someone. And now the first girl i like in about 5 months is either messing me around or just not arsed to reply.
I can't for the life of me think of what Im doing wrong?!

WELCOME to my world as a female. I'm only 21 and have experienced this. My new, way of life - to go out enjoy myself, make the most, get my grade in my masters. What will happen will happen. If nothing happens, it wasn't meant to be. Move on. I think it must be considered easier as she could of dragged you along for months and then nothing! I know its your usual *bladdy bla* advice but seriously, I jst lost a friend to suicide a few months ago, I really think there's a lot of other stuff to be worrying about and of course enjoying. Take it easy - what will come, will come. Don't let it dampen and shape how your going to perceive every other woman you ever come across. Its not going to happen otherwise.