Please keep your two cents, thanks.

southsiderosie

(Leaving aside the irony of ranting on a public message board about people who need to keep their two cents to themselves...)

Is it just me, or does it seem like people are incapable of minding their own business these days? And by 'mind their own business', I don't just mean refraining from asking questions like "When are you getting married?" or "when are you going to get a REAL job?" or "what made you decide to get THAT haircut?". Perfect strangers seem to feel free to ask wildly inappropriate personal questions, comment on the appearance of others, or even touch other people; a friend of mine with a big curly afro was just telling me the other day how random people try to touch her hair all the time (my girlfriends with dreadlocks say the same thing). And don't get my pregnant friends started on how strangers were always trying to touch their bellies...

For some reason, I feel like the worst offenders are young men and older women. It seems like quite often young men are fueled by drink and/or think they are a comedian, where for older ladies...well, maybe once you get to a certain age, you just don't give a crap anymore and the internal filter comes off. And of course, dirty old men of all ages delight in saying things that make us all squirm.

Bottom line: Ma'am, my choice to (not) procreate/(not) marry/(not) wear makeup is none of your business. And, sir, I don't know you from Adam, so I really don't need you to tell me about my boobs, my butt, or the freaky things you would like to do to them. Especially if you are shouting from your car and/or are old enough to be my grandfather (shudder).

Rant over! Phew! :pac:

OK, now that that's out of the way, I guess we should try to get some entertainment out of the rudeness of others. What is the most eye-wateringly inappropriate thing that someone (bonus points if they are a perfect stranger) has ever said (or done) to you? I have LOADS of these stories (some of which are raunchier than others) but I've probably ranted enough at this point, so I will reload further down the thread...

krudler

"are you not looking for a girlfriend?"

nope, cos my last relationships ending in suckiness (not the good kind) and now I'm having fun being single, so toddle off

g'em

I bumped into a girl I was in school with a little while back - she's married and has a beautiful baby boy who's just under 2 years old (I think). Anyway, after exchanging hello's she asks me have I got kids or am I married yet. "Nope" says I "and it'll be a while before I'll be ready for that to happen to be honest". "Ah" she replies, "you need to be careful at our age [we're 31], it's not easy as you get older, you'd better start lining up the donors now!"

Gobsmacked, incredulous, a little mortified, confused - take your pick, I had them all :pac:

southsiderosie

g'em wrote: »

I bumped into a girl I was in school with a little while back - she's married and has a beautiful baby boy who's just under 2 years old (I think). Anyway, after exchanging hello's she asks me have I got kids or am I married yet. "Nope" says I "and it'll be a while before I'll be ready for that to happen to be honest". "Ah" she replies, "you need to be careful at our age [we're 31], it's not easy as you get older, you'd better start lining up the donors now!"

Gobsmacked, incredulous, a little mortified, confused - take your pick, I had them all :pac:

Hm, maybe I should add 'smug marrieds' to my "likely offender" list...

I ran into an ex and during the standard 'what are you up to' exchange I said that I was working on a PhD. He replied "Oh, so you don't want to have kids then". Yes, because education makes your ovaries stop working...:rolleyes:

Michellenman

I got this at a family funeral recently. People looking to see if I was engaged/married or at least on my way that direction... I'm 21 ffs!!

Howard the Duck

g'em wrote: »

I bumped into a girl I was in school with a little while back - she's married and has a beautiful baby boy who's just under 2 years old (I think). Anyway, after exchanging hello's she asks me have I got kids or am I married yet. "Nope" says I "and it'll be a while before I'll be ready for that to happen to be honest". "Ah" she replies, "you need to be careful at our age [we're 31], it's not easy as you get older, you'd better start lining up the donors now!"

Gobsmacked, incredulous, a little mortified, confused - take your pick, I had them all :pac:

That reminded me of this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8

OkayWhatever

At my friends party last year we went for a meal in town. I only knew about 2 or 3 people there, there was about 9 people I didn't know, and was left sitting opposite a girl i've never met or talked to before.. She stared my boobs out of it for most of the meal and then decided she was going to ask me numerous questions about them. Extremely awkward as i'm quite a shy person

I was convinced she was a lesbian, until the other day when I found out she was going out with a fella who lives on my road :P

ohnelly

I was in America with the OH in February having a drink at a bar, when a middle-aged tipsy American woman came over to me and started asking about my sex life!

She said she had a bet with her male "friend" that we only did it 3 times a month, she could tell by looking!
*what the fluck*

3 times a day,I'll have you know!!

Penny Dreadful

g'em wrote: »

I bumped into a girl I was in school with a little while back - she's married and has a beautiful baby boy who's just under 2 years old (I think). Anyway, after exchanging hello's she asks me have I got kids or am I married yet. "Nope" says I "and it'll be a while before I'll be ready for that to happen to be honest". "Ah" she replies, "you need to be careful at our age [we're 31], it's not easy as you get older, you'd better start lining up the donors now!"

Gobsmacked, incredulous, a little mortified, confused - take your pick, I had them all :pac:

You just can't beat it really can you:). I have two "friends" who are both married with kids. We are all 34/35 years old and they have been married about 7 years and their kids are between the ages of 6 and 2.
Knowing that I had gone through the break up of a ten year relationship they STILL thought it appropriate to say that they "couldn't imagine what it must be like to still not be married and as for having kids"......well to do it after 33 is quite simply dangerous and selfish, "I mean imagine all of the things that would be wrong with your child if you gave birth being so old".

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

nicowa

Penny Dreadful wrote: »

You just can't beat it really can you:). I have two "friends" who are both married with kids. We are all 34/35 years old and they have been married about 7 years and their kids are between the ages of 6 and 2.
Knowing that I had gone through the break up of a ten year relationship they STILL thought it appropriate to say that they "couldn't imagine what it must be like to still not be married and as for having kids"......well to do it after 33 is quite simply dangerous and selfish, "I mean imagine all of the things that would be wrong with your child if you gave birth being so old".

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Wow! Talk about bytchtastic!

Only one that springs to mind at the mo is when I was working as a waitress a few years ago. We'd gone through a few really ridiculous days at work - between overlong hours, kitchen fire, esb blackout (which we were still in the middle of, and yes we just kept on going) - so I was fairly stressed. I have psorisis which flares up when I'm stressed and had a small bit on my nose and cheekbone. The bosslady, who insisted on helping despite the fact that she was in the way and makes us nervous, ended up beside me at the counter, looked right into my face from two inches away and says:

"You don't wear makeup, do you".

To which I responded that it makes my skin worse.

"You should."

And she just walked away. Gobsmacked. Shouldn't have expected much else from her. She's a complete and utter tool and has no respect for anyone.

BrerWolf

"I ran into an ex and during the standard 'what are you up to' exchange I said that I was working on a PhD. He replied "Oh, so you don't want to have kids then". Yes, because education makes your ovaries stop working..."


It does if you're doing your PhD in Organic chemistry.....

Ickle Magoo

Crikey, we had loads of really inappropriate comments about not getting married in a church or baptising the kids...the best one was probably the friend of my mother-in-law who on hearing from my mother-in-law that the child wasn't going to be baptised rushed over, leaned right over the carry-cot and licked her finger before making the sign of the cross on my daughters forehead...why not just lick my child and brand her and be done with it....freak. :eek:

Penny Dreadful

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Crikey, we had loads of really inappropriate comments about not getting married in a church or baptising the kids...the best one was probably the friend of my mother-in-law who on hearing from my mother-in-law that the child wasn't going to be baptised rushed over, leaned right over the carry-cot and before licking her finger made the sign of the cross on my daughters forehead...why not just lick my child and brand her and be done with it....freak. :eek:

I know a woman who discovered that her very new baby had stopped breathing in its pram and naturally enough was very shocked and upset.
Her response? To take it to the bathroom and "baptise" it. That apparently is what saved the baby. A bathroom baptism. Not the fact that she took the baby up and by running with it possibly revived it. Not the fact that the cold water splashed on the baby possibly revived it. None of those logical things saved the baby, it was the holy water piped directly into her bathroom.
Now if she hears that people won't be baptising their children she tells them this little story in the hope of bringing them back to God. .........

ToniTuddle

I met a girl from my secondary school hadn't seen her in like 8 years and she just said in a very flat tone and with pitying staring eyes..... "oh heeeeeeeeeeey....you haven't changed a bit have you". Then looking me up and down and in general making me feel like crap. Lovely :pac:

My cousin stopped coming to family weddings as on every occasion each and every single family member would be up asking her had she found a man yet :mad: I know they didn't mean any actual harm by it but it does hurt. She didn't need constant reminders that she was alone and made feel that her life was somehow not as significant without a man in it. Really this whole Irish thing of asking personal questions need to feicin stop!

Also if someone you know attends a wedding with a partner and then maybe few months or year later appears at another wedding without that partner....don't bloody ask!!! Nothing more buzz and head wrecking than having to explain to each and every single family member who ask that you guys broke up. Then they always ask...."whhhhhhy what happened" >.<

My mum says it's this old way of thinking that it's RUDE not to ask about the partner/family in general/how the person is doing. She hates alot of it herself.

An old man in town asks me everytime have I found a man yet and that I'd need to be settling down to marry soon. Definitely getting alot more of that now I'm getting older. Only fcuking 25!! Imagine what folks will be like when I'm 30 and still single :eek: Because I actually will still be single by then

Lola92

Penny Dreadful wrote: »

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I know a woman who discovered that her very new baby had stopped breathing in its pram and naturally enough was very shocked and upset.
Her response? To take it to the bathroom and "baptise" it. That apparently is what saved the baby. A bathroom baptism. Not the fact that she took the baby up and by running with it possibly revived it. Not the fact that the cold water splashed on the baby possibly revived it. None of those logical things saved the baby, it was the holy water piped directly into her bathroom.
Now if she hears that people won't be baptising their children she tells them this little story in the hope of bringing them back to God. .........

I nearly wet myself reading that, absolutely hilarious!

Ugh don't get me started on people commenting on things that have NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with them. In my experience this has gotten worse since I've become a mum. When I was pregnant an aunt rang me just to check up see how I was etc. We were out so I had to step outside to talk, still music in the backround though. She asked where I was an I told her, out for dinner in the local as there was a band playing there later in the evening - que a 20 minute rant about how I shouldn't drink and how I would kill my baby???? Eh hello WTF going to a bar for dinner is hardly the same as going out to a club on a saturday night and getting pissed! needless to say I hung up on her.

jill_valentine

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Crikey, we had loads of really inappropriate comments about not getting married in a church or baptising the kids...the best one was probably the friend of my mother-in-law who on hearing from my mother-in-law that the child wasn't going to be baptised rushed over, leaned right over the carry-cot and licked her finger before making the sign of the cross on my daughters forehead...why not just lick my child and brand her and be done with it....freak. :eek:

:eek:

This is a new one on me, I have to say, that's just insane.

bronte

jill_valentine wrote: »

:eek:

This is a new one on me, I have to say, that's just insane.

I've often heard of them taking the kid and baptising them on the sly...don't know if it's official though...surely the parents would have to agree?

I have a relative who has been giving me the whole "When will you "settle down" spiel since I was 22/23. She's really persistant. Funnily enough getting married and having kids is literally ALL this woman ever did with her life. She never worked, depended entirely on her husband for everything, messed up her kids and is quite honestly one of the most miserable depressed people I know. Yet she can't accept that people don't wish to make the same choices she did. She's insufferable.
She asked me again when I was coming home to "settle down" last time I saw her ( I was 27 this time) and I took great pleasure in looking her in the eye and saying "Sure why would I do that? I'm having way too much fun!"

Misery loves company remember.

southsiderosie

Lola92 wrote: »

Old ladies especially looking at my daughter in her buggy saying she is a 'big lump of a thing'/'oh she must love her food'/'she must never stop eating, she obviously takes after her mam that way

:eek::eek::eek::eek:

SOOOO out of pocket!!!

I put on a few pounds at took up running again a few years ago, and as I was huffing and puffing my way home, a fat old men shouted out "You need to be runnin, girl! Cos you big!" Normally I am the queen of quick comebacks, but I was too tired and sweaty, so I just gave him the finger as I chugged by. :mad:

tatabubbly

"when are you gettin a real job?"

I get asked this EVERY time i see my mum's bros and sister.

I'm a scientist, I HAVE a real job!

looky loo

Was outside the church on the day of the funeral of my father, they were putting him into the hearse, my mother had died when I was 12, and this woman came up to me, shook my hand, said...'You're an orphan now' and walked away...still stunned to this day.

jill_valentine

tatabubbly wrote: »

"when are you gettin a real job?"

I get asked this EVERY time i see my mum's bros and sister.

I'm a scientist, I HAVE a real job!

Jaysus. I'd understand if you were in a terrible band or something, but what's a real job if that isn't? Civil service? :pac:

Malari

southsiderosie wrote: »

:eek::eek::eek::eek:

SOOOO out of pocket!!!

I put on a few pounds at took up running again a few years ago, and as I was huffing and puffing my way home, a fat old men shouted out "You need to be runnin, girl! Cos you big!" Normally I am the queen of quick comebacks, but I was too tired and sweaty, so I just gave him the finger as I chugged by. :mad:

I hope you are all sticking up for yourselves to these rude people! :eek:

I was queuing in the post office one day, and an auld wan behind me - one of these types who LIVES for her post office visits - actually shoved my shoulder and said "move up there!"

I just turned round and said "actually, I think there's plenty of room for everyone here, I'll move forward when it's my turn."

She started tutting loudly to the woman next to her about how I wasn't "reared" very well and no respect for elders and all that lark.

I told her I wasn't reared at all because I wasn't a chicken - I was RAISED, and to be much more polite than shoving people around.

:rolleyes:

Lola92

southsiderosie wrote: »

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:eek::eek::eek::eek:

SOOOO out of pocket!!!

I put on a few pounds at took up running again a few years ago, and as I was huffing and puffing my way home, a fat old men shouted out "You need to be runnin, girl! Cos you big!" Normally I am the queen of quick comebacks, but I was too tired and sweaty, so I just gave him the finger as I chugged by. :mad:

Tell me about it! I mean I've just had a kid I'm well aware I'm not in the best of shape and could do with losing more than a few pounds but that is just downright rude!

That is typical btw, usually the people saying these things are a far way from perfect themselves!!

As a teacher of mine once said "I'm fat, so what I can diet, there's no cure for ugly!" :P

tatabubbly

jill_valentine wrote: »

Jaysus. I'd understand if you were in a terrible band or something, but what's a real job if that isn't? Civil service? :pac:

I dunno, ole ones have a crazy opinion on jobs, not so bab until they come up to me asking me to decifer their doctors notes!

Frank Black

Seems to be a bit of a thing with the oldies shoving their religious views down your throat.
The OH has some aunts that live down the country – was down visiting one day and when we were leaving one of them ran back in the house and came out with some holy water and started sprinkling it all over the car.
The thing was I know my window washer fluid was pretty low at the time so I asked the OH if we should ask them to fill it up with some holy water then we’d be able to ‘bless’ the car at regular intervals – she just glared at me, so I wisely remained silent.

Neyite

This really gets me.
I am trying to conceive for 2 years now. I am now attending a fertility clinc to try to find out what is wrong, and more importantly, how it can be resolved.

It never fails to amaze me how women who have had absolutely no trouble getting pregnant or having their babies somehow become expert in the very situation that does not apply to them. Some of them actually try to explain to me how pregnancy occurs (y'know cos clearly we are doing it wrong :rolleyes:)

Clearly the fact that there are doctors involved would indicate that no amount of "relaxing" or "going on a cruise" or "not thinking about it and it'll happen" is gonna fix it.

Which is why I have told very few in real life.

Ickle Magoo

Neyite wrote: »

Which is why I have told very few in real life.

My mum and dad couldn't conceive and before we were adopted, they got the same nonsense - and then when they were adopting they would get quizzed about their sex life & finances and motives, it's unbelievable how much info some people think they are privy to/how little they think about things that don't directly affect them. I swear some people only open their mouths to change feet.

On the other hand ....I got a letter rambling letter from the HR dep where I worked, I had to read it a few time to make sense of it, in a in nutshell what they were saying was if you are a lone parent you may be entitle to tax relief which you might not have been aware of.

But I got a letter that might as well have said

' we are not being noisy and enquiring about you states out side work, which would not be best practices and is possible illegally as well, instead we are going to write to you a long winded letter that you might have to read a few times to make sense of it just in case you might be offended if enquired about you situation.

southsiderosie

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

Crikey, we had loads of really inappropriate comments about not getting married in a church or baptising the kids...the best one was probably the friend of my mother-in-law who on hearing from my mother-in-law that the child wasn't going to be baptised rushed over, leaned right over the carry-cot and licked her finger before making the sign of the cross on my daughters forehead...why not just lick my child and brand her and be done with it....freak. :eek:

OK, the more I think about this (and the bathroom baptism example), the more confused I am. How does spit or tap water 'baptize' a child? I know I'm a bad Catholic and all, but don't you need holy water? If just regular ol' water suffices, shouldn't everyone in Ireland be saved, given how much it rains? Shur, that's just God blessing us all, innit? :pac:

jill_valentine

Neyite wrote: »

Some of them actually try to explain to me how pregnancy occurs (y'know cos clearly we are doing it wrong :rolleyes:)

Clearly the fact that there are doctors involved would indicate that no amount of "relaxing" or "going on a cruise" or "not thinking about it and it'll happen" is gonna fix it.

Which is why I have told very few in real life.

Not to be insensitive, but this did make me laugh. The image of aul wans trying to explain that "When a man and a woman are very much in love..."

Neyite

Neyite wrote: »

This really gets me.
I am trying to conceive for 2 years now. I am now attending a fertility clinc to try to find out what is wrong, and more importantly, how it can be resolved.

It never fails to amaze me how women who have had absolutely no trouble getting pregnant or having their babies somehow become expert in the very situation that does not apply to them. Some of them actually try to explain to me how pregnancy occurs (y'know cos clearly we are doing it wrong :rolleyes:)

Clearly the fact that there are doctors involved would indicate that no amount of "relaxing" or "going on a cruise" or "not thinking about it and it'll happen" is gonna fix it.

Which is why I have told very few in real life.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=59057353&postcount=55
That should give you amusement and shut them up!

Will

What is the most eye-wateringly inappropriate thing that someone (bonus points if they are a perfect stranger) has ever said (or done) to you?

My cousin was just married and he was introducing me to his wife. We got chatting and after 5 minutes asked me what I worked at. I told her I was doing an internship with *insert company here*, she looked me up and down and said "wow! They employ people like you there?!". I just smiled and clenched my fists.

Was on the bus into town a few months back around 3pm. Sitting on the top deck right by the stairs. A woman and her mother got on in Rathmines and sat up in front of me, they'd obvioulsy just come out of a pub as they stank of drink. I was minding my own business listening to my ipod. They turned around a few times and stared funnily at me. Tried to ignore them. Then the older of the two turned around and reached out to try grab my ears. I took out my earphones and asked her not to touch me. A long "chat" ensued where both women basically said that I shouldn't be piercing parts of my body, that I was ruining myself and asked was i a "skag head". They basically told me I had huge issues and should seek a counsellor to talk with them.

I carried on the conversation politely and courteously. My profuse kindness only confused them I think, even wished them a good day as I got off the bus despite them giving me torrents of sh¡t from Rathmines into town - around 20 mins, traffic was bad. It took every ounce of self restraint in me not to tell them that I'm not the one with issues and they should ask themselves what they're up to being hammered at 3pm in the afternoon... on a Tuesday I think it was.

rainbow kirby

My parents speculating during a dinner party as to the exact mechanics of how I would eventually have children. *facepalm*

The Sweeper

The kids thing.

Always, always the kids thing.

So you've no kids? Oh I'm so sorry. What, I don't need to be sorry? You don't want kids? Ah but sure you'll change your mind when the time is right. ...you're thirtyhowmany? You better get started asap! There's no right time to have kids you know, you just need to get on with it! ...but he probably does want kids, he's just not saying he does to make you happy. You'll be very lonely, you know, without kids. Pets? You have how many pets? Ah animal rescue - I used to like animals as well but you'll grow out of that. Do you have that many pets to make up for not having children? You'd have to get rid of some of those you know, when you have a child.

etc. etc. ad nauseum ad infinitum...

jill_valentine

Honestly, I worked in a toy shop for a few years. I never want to see a child ever again, never mind have one.

rainbow kirby wrote: »

My parents speculating during a dinner party as to the exact mechanics of how I would eventually have children. *facepalm*

Would probably have hurled myself out the window under these circumstances.

cdaly_

southsiderosie wrote: »

OK, the more I think about this (and the bathroom baptism example), the more confused I am. How does spit or tap water 'baptize' a child? I know I'm a bad Catholic and all, but don't you need holy water? If just regular ol' water suffices, shouldn't everyone in Ireland be saved, given how much it rains? Shur, that's just God blessing us all, innit? :pac:

AIUI, the Roman Catholic Church allows for an 'emergency' baptism with any water that's handy. It's intended for the case where the baby is about to die and there's no priest on hand. Not sure if it counts when baby gets to the pearly gates though...

jill_valentine wrote: »

tatabubbly wrote: »

"when are you gettin a real job?"

I get asked this EVERY time i see my mum's bros and sister.

I'm a scientist, I HAVE a real job!

Jaysus. I'd understand if you were in a terrible band or something, but what's a real job if that isn't? Civil service? :pac:

Scientist in the Civil service obviously...

Penny Dreadful

jill_valentine wrote: »

Not to be insensitive, but this did make me laugh. The image of aul wans trying to explain that "When a man and a woman are very much in love..."

....and Holy God has said its ok......

Penny Dreadful

The Sweeper wrote: »

The kids thing.

Always, always the kids thing.

So you've no kids? Oh I'm so sorry. What, I don't need to be sorry? You don't want kids? Ah but sure you'll change your mind when the time is right. ...you're thirtyhowmany? You better get started asap! There's no right time to have kids you know, you just need to get on with it! ...but he probably does want kids, he's just not saying he does to make you happy. You'll be very lonely, you know, without kids. Pets? You have how many pets? Ah animal rescue - I used to like animals as well but you'll grow out of that. Do you have that many pets to make up for not having children? You'd have to get rid of some of those you know, when you have a child.

etc. etc. ad nauseum ad infinitum...

Finished off with " ah you'll never know real love unless you have children"..... as they shake their head in sorrow and regret for you.
Naturally the love you have for your parents, siblings, husband/wife/partner, nieces/nephews, friends...whoever is not REAL because you haven't given birth. :rolleyes:

bronte

Penny Dreadful wrote: »

Finished off with " ah you'll never know real love unless you have children"..... as they shake their head in sorrow and regret for you.
Naturally the love you have for your parents, siblings, husband/wife/partner, nieces/nephews, friends...whoever is not REAL because you haven't given birth. :rolleyes:

I didn't want kids when I was your age and now I have (insert number here)
(Well done)

It's different when it's your own.
(Yeah, it's worse! You can't hand them back)

That's terribly selfish.
(Indeed. I am a selfish heathen)

You haven't met the right person yet.
(Better tell himself)

You'll disappoint your family
( Yes, because that's a logical reason to reproduce..so you don't disappoint your family)

You were a child once you know.
(And????????????????????? Why do people say this all the time? )

Urgh.

Das Kitty

Great thread!

I changed my name when I got married, this is highly unfashionable in my social group. I wanted to change it, why the hell shouldn't I? Well, a "friend" of mine said to me when she heard this: "I thought you were a feminist, that's not very feminist now is it?" Then tried to disguise the fact that she was being serious with that fake laugh.

When I was pregnant I decided to find out the sex of the baby from the scan. At a later hospital appointment I was waiting to see the consultant and was talking to one of the midwives and I said "he's really getting heavy now." She outright told me that it was wrong that I found out on my first and that it shouldn't even be an option. I just told her I was glad that not everyone thinks like her!

I used to work for a total holy Josephine, we had an Aussie couple come work for us, the girl was pregnant. When the boss found out that they weren't married she had the bishop of Galway come in and bless the shop and all of us in it.

In the same place I missed my alarm one morning (out of the countless I worked there and was on time and worked hard). She said to me that I could write my thesis on my time working there and end it with how I was late. I thought I misheard at first, but she was deadly serious.

dearg lady

Neyite wrote: »

This really gets me.
I am trying to conceive for 2 years now. I am now attending a fertility clinc to try to find out what is wrong, and more importantly, how it can be resolved.

It never fails to amaze me how women who have had absolutely no trouble getting pregnant or having their babies somehow become expert in the very situation that does not apply to them. Some of them actually try to explain to me how pregnancy occurs (y'know cos clearly we are doing it wrong :rolleyes:)

Clearly the fact that there are doctors involved would indicate that no amount of "relaxing" or "going on a cruise" or "not thinking about it and it'll happen" is gonna fix it.

Which is why I have told very few in real life.

good god, this would drive me bananas. I HATE when people do this. I remember readin a news story about a man who'd been suffering with hiccups for 2 full years, constantly, could not get rid of them, had seen numerous specialists, and in the end they decided they would need to do surgery. all in all, pretty rough for th poor guy. The comments on the story, written by members of the public consisted mainly of advice on how to get rid of hiccups, 'd'ya know what works very welk, drink a glass of water', 'i hold my breath and it works every time' etc etc...as tho this man hadn't tried ANY of these obvious ways to get rid of hiccups in 2 years!!

UpCork

I've posted about this before but there is one particularly family friend who asks everytime she sees me or my Mother is there wedding bells yet. I used to just laugh it off at first, but then it was becoming exceedingly annoying. She cannot seem to phathom that you don't have to get married straight when you leave school, you don't actually have to get married at all if you don't want to. I am single and happy that way for the moment, she can't seem to get her head around that either. It is now becoming so frustrating (the constant asking but then the pitying response and look as if there is something wrong with me) that I just try to avoid talking to her now.

Just because she left school, married and had children, she feels we should all do the same. It is very irritating.

Speaking of nosiness, I can't stand people that you just meet who seem to want to know your life story. I'm the kind of person who likes to keep myself to myself - I am sociable and like meeting new people but I'm not the kind of person who lays my life down on the table straight away

shinikins

I love my mother but sometimes I want to choke her. Last weekend it was a family christening and all the family and in-laws and friends were there, and the question came up "when are you going to have one/" Mum, quick as you like got there before me and said "yes Shinikins, you're getting on now. Tick tock, Shinikins, tick tock!"

All said in front of my sister who can't have children :mad:

Carsinian Thau

For me, it's medical advice. I obviously spend a lot of time around medical students and I get it constantly.

"You'd want to keep an eye on that". I know, if I wasn't watching it, I'd be dead. (Never said that, probably will someday).

"You should.....". Always wrong. Always. (We're too junior to actually know anything, doesn't stop 'em).
I've never told them that they're wrong (I probably should, lest they say it to someone newly diagnosed and therefore, willing to listen) apart from one classmate who gave me advice which would have actually put me in hospital within a day or two.

I've been asked for what values blood tests are, why I wouldn't consider medication X or Y instead (usually that's for a different condition) and little small things that generally just irk me.

I know that they mean well, but seriously, I have 15 years experience of management. I'm still working out how to manage it. A semester of hospital placement does NOT qualify these people to be talking to me as if I'm their patient.

Frank Black

Das Kitty wrote: »

I used to work for a total holy Josephine, we had an Aussie couple come work for us, the girl was pregnant. When the boss found out that they weren't married she had the bishop of Galway come in and bless the shop and all of us in it.

WTF!
Was this recent?
You'd like to think that even the bishop would have told her where to go.

Das Kitty

black francis wrote: »

WTF!
Was this recent?
You'd like to think that even the bishop would have told her where to go.

She was a personal friend of his. I doubt she told him the purpose. It was about 12 years ago now.

Millicent

nicowa wrote: »

I have psorisis which flares up when I'm stressed and had a small bit on my nose and cheekbone. The bosslady, who insisted on helping despite the fact that she was in the way and makes us nervous, ended up beside me at the counter, looked right into my face from two inches away and says:

"You don't wear makeup, do you".

To which I responded that it makes my skin worse.

"You should."

And she just walked away. Gobsmacked. Shouldn't have expected much else from her. She's a complete and utter tool and has no respect for anyone.

+ Giant 1!

For a long time, I stopped wearing my hair up because I have a touch of psoriasis on my neck. It is fucking amazing how rude people can be about it.

I have people asking me "what the hell is wrong with your neck"; "Did you have an accident"; "Is it contagious? Are you sure?"; "Should you be working with food (I was on a checkout and not, oddly, scanning things with my neck" etc. etc. etc. Worse still are the ones who know a cream that will help that cos it worked for their friend with eczema/dry skin/other random and unrelated skin condition. Listen, out of the two of us, I think I *may* know a little more about the condition, what with it being on my skin and all.

And then you get family members who will actually grab you my the neck or lift your hair to get a better look, without any invitation. What the hell? And then they get annoyed because they were "only trying to help", even though you never asked for their help. :mad:

iguana

In my work I occasionally have to go on television, usually being interviewed about a charity appeal or campaign. Back when I first started dating my husband I was on a show and my husband's aunt who I had never met (and still haven't, thankfully) watched it. After I was on she phoned his mother to tell her I wasn't very glamorous.:rolleyes:

nicowa

Millicent wrote: »

+ Giant 1!

For a long time, I stopped wearing my hair up because I have a touch of psoriasis on my neck. It is fucking amazing how rude people can be about it.

I have people asking me "what the hell is wrong with your neck"; "Did you have an accident"; "Is it contagious? Are you sure?"; "Should you be working with food (I was on a checkout and not, oddly, scanning things with my neck" etc. etc. etc. Worse still are the ones who know a cream that will help that cos it worked for their friend with eczema/dry skin/other random and unrelated skin condition. Listen, out of the two of us, I think I *may* know a little more about the condition, what with it being on my skin and all.

And then you get family members who will actually grab you my the neck or lift your hair to get a better look, without any invitation. What the hell? And then they get annoyed because they were "only trying to help", even though you never asked for their help. :mad:

I honestly try not to let it affect what I wear or how I act. I know in college it used to flare up due to stress and I was out one night with my bf of the time and some drunk guy made a few comments. If I'd been with friends I probably would have laughed it off but in front of a new bf I got quite upset.

And ya I've had lots of people I don't really know looking to know lots of different things - itchy scalp, sore, contagious.... One girl I was working with for a few days asked a few times to be sure and even then leaned away from my arm... - but she was quite a bit of a bimbo...

Millicent

nicowa wrote: »

I honestly try not to let it affect what I wear or how I act. I know in college it used to flare up due to stress and I was out one night with my bf of the time and some drunk guy made a few comments. If I'd been with friends I probably would have laughed it off but in front of a new bf I got quite upset.

And ya I've had lots of people I don't really know looking to know lots of different things - itchy scalp, sore, contagious.... One girl I was working with for a few days asked a few times to be sure and even then leaned away from my arm... - but she was quite a bit of a bimbo...

I genuinely feel sorry for anyone I know that has severe psoriasis. People really have no compunction asking really personal questions about it. Can't imagine how upset they get.

Jenneke87

A little while ago I had a jobinterview and the boss/interviewer asked:

How come such a beautiful woman isn't married yet? WTF I'm 24!