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confused about leaving the country

  • 02-08-2011 12:39am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i am feeling pretty crap at the moment so just thought id come on and share here. I am in my mid twenties and after completing my degree and achieving top class results in a masters, i feel pretty worthless and confused. after finishing my masters last october i have been unable to secure full time employment and have just been doing bits of work here and there. I am very career driven so this is a killer for me as i had in my head a definate plan that by now nearly a year on from finishing masters that I would have at least some sort of job i was happy in progressing my career somewhat. However i suppose things never really work out as we plan. After eight months of trying to get a job, i suppose i eventually gave up applying for jobs in my field and instead accepted a few months ago a teaching position abroad in the middle east which is starting in the coming weeks. i have somewhat of an interest in teaching and thought i might give it a go. Also after nearly a year of boredom at home and being completely fed up with my social circle, being broke and everything i thought a radical change of scenery is def needed.

    Now with only a few weeks to go, instead of looking forward to getting away, im questioning everything. im worried that as im going away on my own that i wont settle in and ill miss my family and friends too much. im not sure whether im making a right move, am i wasting my time going away for a year pursuing a job which is unrelated to what i actually studied?. I feel a little worthless and a failure that i couldnt get the work i wanted in the first place and that i have given up essentially after putting all that hard work into my studies for 5 years. being jobless for most of the last year has really effected my confidence, restricted me socially and has generally been a hard year throughout. but in the last few weeks in particular I have been finding myself to be in really bad form about this especially on nights out with friends. I am usually a happy, bubbly person usually when im on nights out but noticed in the last few weeks i have been getting quite angry with friends or upset over stupid little things and stressing alot when I have had a few too many drinks. Last night i went out and got pretty hammered and spent most of my night annoyed and upset with my friends and took my frustrations out on them. Every night lately seems to be just me ending up in tears over something. As a result of last nite, i have spent today then annoyed with myself for getting so drunk, acting the way i did and wasting one of my last few nights out with my friends. They think im crazy for not looking forward to heading off and i feel at the moment they will nearly be glad to have me gone as i have been such a drama queen around them of late.

    im just really confused maybe it will be the best decision ive ever made and i will love it over there when i go. right now though i jst dont know how i feel about it.


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  • #2
    ILikeBananas
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 785 ✭✭✭ILikeBananas


    Well I don't know much about the job you are going over to or your own background but if you go over there with a pessimistic attitude there is a far higher chance that you're going to have a negative experience.

    Last year I was on the dole and ended up taking a job abroad that I wasn't sure about purely to get off the dole. I remember leaving the interview and hoping that I wouldn't get it and then when they offered it to me I took 24 hours to think about it. I didn't really have any alternative though so I took it and ended up quitting it 5 months later.

    The job wasn't that bad and the company treated me very well but I just never wanted to be there and that was rooted in the gut feeling that I had in the interview. In my case I wanted to go back to college and do a Masters so that's what I did instead.

    So in your situation all I will say is if you're going over to do this thing then commit yourself fully to it if you want to get the most from it.

    I have a question for you OP. I'll be finishing mine up in October as well and like you last year, I am optimistic about finding work. However having been on the dole in the past I know what it can be like. Could you possibly tell me what general area your masters is in (mine is in maths/IT)?


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