worried that I may be 'doing it wrong'

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

I'm going out with this girl and I really do like her which is why I'm asking for advice on here.

When we have sex its fun, shes the first girl I've slept with so I don't have the experience of other girls to draw on but I enjoy it and she seems to judging by her reactions. My problem is that I always seem to have trouble 'getting it in'. Most of the things we do involve our hands and I'm not complaining because it feels great and we have fun but when it comes to actual penetration for me it is like hitting and hoping I find the right area. I try guiding with my hands, opening the 'area' and putting it in but while I can find it with my hands, other than that I'm clueless. It feels like I'm hitting a wall sometimes which is really irritating.

My penis is just above 5 inches so it's not going to be that it doesn't fit inside, the problem is even worse with a condom because I can't feel where I'm going at all. I've tried a few different positions and it seems to happen for me sometimes and then sometimes I can't find it at all.

Has anybody got any advice or anything that might help me as its frustrating me a lot. Not expecting many to have this problem but thanks for any suggestions.

Cheers!

Wompa1

confusedandfrustrated wrote: »

Hey guys,

I'm going out with this girl and I really do like her which is why I'm asking for advice on here.

When we have sex its fun, shes the first girl I've slept with so I don't have the experience of other girls to draw on but I enjoy it and she seems to judging by her reactions. My problem is that I always seem to have trouble 'getting it in'. Most of the things we do involve our hands and I'm not complaining because it feels great and we have fun but when it comes to actual penetration for me it is like hitting and hoping I find the right area. I try guiding with my hands, opening the 'area' and putting it in but while I can find it with my hands, other than that I'm clueless. It feels like I'm hitting a wall sometimes which is really irritating.

My penis is just above 5 inches so it's not going to be that it doesn't fit inside, the problem is even worse with a condom because I can't feel where I'm going at all. I've tried a few different positions and it seems to happen for me sometimes and then sometimes I can't find it at all.

Has anybody got any advice or anything that might help me as its frustrating me a lot. Not expecting many to have this problem but thanks for any suggestions.

Cheers!

Have you ever gone down on her? Try it, it will give you a good excuse to get a closer look. She could guide it in....if you tell her. Does she know that she's your first? Would you be willing to tell her? Also have you tried fingers? Have you asked her what she likes?

Kevin Duffy

Don't get irritated, the fumbling is part of the fun It gets easier, you learn together, you communicate openly to help it along and you laugh together at the bits you don't get "right". The best person you could ask about this, is her.

Toots

I think the 'getting it in' bit is always a bit awkward in the early days, it gets easier with practice! I definitely agree with the suggestion of getting her to guide you in, it'll make it much easier. Also if you're comfortable, then tell her you don't have much experience, although it sounds like she might be new to it all too, is she? If she is and you are doing it 'missionary' ask her to tilt her pelvis up slightly before you go in, it'll make it a bit easier to find your mark, so to speak.

muinteoir09

As others have said, communication is the key. Be open - tell your GF the next time your in difficulty and laugh about it rather than getting worked up.

Also, are you trying to insert your penis without looking? Don't be shy. Sex can be awkward, stumbly fun - especially at the beginning of a relationship. Embrace that as it allows you to make more of a connection. After all, you're not porn stars.

Count Duckula

I've got such bad aim I just let my girlfriend guide me in each time :pac:

Seriously, though, there's no need to be embarrassed. Just ask her if she can "lend you a hand". She's not going to throw you out of bed!

LegacyUser

confusedandfrustrated wrote: »

Hey guys,

I'm going out with this girl and I really do like her which is why I'm asking for advice on here.

When we have sex its fun, shes the first girl I've slept with so I don't have the experience of other girls to draw on but I enjoy it and she seems to judging by her reactions. My problem is that I always seem to have trouble 'getting it in'. Most of the things we do involve our hands and I'm not complaining because it feels great and we have fun but when it comes to actual penetration for me it is like hitting and hoping I find the right area. I try guiding with my hands, opening the 'area' and putting it in but while I can find it with my hands, other than that I'm clueless. It feels like I'm hitting a wall sometimes which is really irritating.

My penis is just above 5 inches so it's not going to be that it doesn't fit inside, the problem is even worse with a condom because I can't feel where I'm going at all. I've tried a few different positions and it seems to happen for me sometimes and then sometimes I can't find it at all.

Has anybody got any advice or anything that might help me as its frustrating me a lot. Not expecting many to have this problem but thanks for any suggestions.

Cheers!

If you are comfortable then tell her that she's your first. There's nothing wrong with this.

At the start this is a bit tricky, so don't worry. Try giving her oral and pleasuring her for a while so she is naturally lubricated. If she isn't then it won't go in easily and won't feel as nice for her. Take your time and don't get stressed out. The best person to say it to is her.

If you lie her down on her back and you kneel then you can put it in easier and then lean over her and do missionary. That is the best way if you're having trouble putting it in. Try lubrication as well. Put it on both yourself and herself.

Most important of all, just make sure you have fun and don't get stressed out.