Can you sucessfully get back with an ex?

LegacyUser

I was seeing this guy for a few months last year. About a month in a job opportunity arose and it meant I was going to be leaving the country for at least a year, if not longer. We discussed it and he was very against doing long distance. I was unsure about it, I would have tried it if he had been keen but at the same time I had tried long-distance before and knew how difficult it could be. We continued seeing each other until I left. After I left I told him that I didn't want to stay in continuous contact as it would just make everything more difficult.

Over the last few months we sent the odd email back and forth but nothing significant. I found out a couple of weeks ago that a job I had been offered had fallen through and so I'm going home in two weeks. He found out I was coming back (through mutual friends) and has been getting back in contact. I still like the guy and although I'm not going to presume anything, if he were interested in seeing me again, would it be a bad idea?

Although the reason we broke up was purely due to the distance, will the break-up negatively affect trying again? It wouldn't be such a big deal except that we have so many mutual friends and if it were to go wrong it would make everything uncomfortable. I'm not in a great place at the moment either. I'm moving home temporarily, with no money, no job and possibly a lack of independence due the remote location of my parents’ house (though I am very appreciative of my parents giving me somewhere to stay). I do like the guy though and despite everything, it may be worth a shot? I know I'm being silly as he may not even be interested in being with me again but I guess I just want to figure out my own stance on it before I meet him again. I've read a lot of good advice on the boards and I'd like to take on-board anything that people have to offer now.

Herrick

I think you have a good chance personally. I mean you both had a pretty good reason to break up and from I gather there was no drama and you both stayed civil and in contact? That kinda break up shouldn't negatively affect giving it another go. Your just over thinking things

I think the fact he seems to be contacting you more now that he knows your coming home shows he's still interested. I say talk to him and if you both want it give it a shot

ApeXaviour

The problem with getting back with an ex is the problems that caused you to break up in the first place will not have gone away.

If you broke up for pragmatic reasons, and those reasons no longer exist, then I see no reason for it cause any strife in anyone with a modicum of maturity.

The only possible problem would be if you or he plan to emigrate again in the future.

Ickle Magoo

Normally, I'd say no...but in the circumstances you give OP; a very short relationship which only ended because of geographical difficulties then I'd say you have no reason not to try to make a go of things again without distance causing issues.

Best of luck. :cool:

LegacyUser

Cheers guys! I appreciate your input