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help i want to be with my love

  • 26-07-2011 3:06am
    #1
    murreemurree
    Closed Accounts Posts: 33 ✭


    i've been pondering about my relationship with my true love who is from india. his visa is expiring in a weeks time and i worry so much about the future of our relationship. can we make a relationship work if we are apart for 2 years but staying in contact? we are both deeply in love and don't want to leave each other.

    his time is up soon and the only way he can get a visa is through marriage but we are both too young and not ready for marriage. what are our options here? can anybody advise me? i want to stay with him. thanks.

    how can i make him stay in love with me if he returns home? i know i will stay in love with him so im not doubting myself just him..


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  • #2
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    murreemurree wrote: »
    can we make a relationship work if we are apart for 2 years but staying in contact?

    Doubtful.
    murreemurree wrote: »
    i want to stay with him.
    Go to India with him. I'm sure it's fairly easy to get a tourist visa.
    murreemurree wrote: »
    how can i make him stay in love with me if he returns home?

    You can't.


  • #3
    anndub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 517 ✭✭✭anndub


    Arranged marriage is the norm in India. Even if you go with him his family might not be too happy to see you and will discourage his relationship with you.


  • #4
    aidan24326
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,925 ✭✭✭aidan24326


    murreemurree wrote: »
    i've been pondering about my relationship with my true love who is from india. his visa is expiring in a weeks time and i worry so much about the future of our relationship. can we make a relationship work if we are apart for 2 years but staying in contact? we are both deeply in love and don't want to leave each other

    2 years apart and 5,000 miles apart wouldn't bode well to be honest. It's not impossible that you could make it work but the odds are very much against you unfortunately, and I'm sure deep down you already know that.

    his time is up soon and the only way he can get a visa is through marriage but we are both too young and not ready for marriage. what are our options here? can anybody advise me? i want to stay with him. thanks.

    Your options are pretty limited. If you've lived together in Ireland for a certain length of time (not sure if it's 12 months or 18) and can prove it, he can apply for a visa extension on the grounds that you're co-habiting.

    Otherwise you either move to India with him or get married so he can stay here. There's really no other way around it if you want to be together.

    anndub wrote: »
    Arranged marriage is the norm in India. Even if you go with him his family might not be too happy to see you and will discourage his relationship with you.

    Depends on his background though. Arranged marriage is common in India but not an absolute given.


  • #5
    Distorted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    If its really that much true love, you wouldn't want to "make someone" stay in love with you. It happens naturally. However if it really is true love on both sides, either move to India to be with him or get married now. Neither are insurmountable problems - true love has overcome near death, wars, disease, etc..


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