Housemate in my sitting room arguing with boyfriend again...

Eve_Dublin

Housemate in my sitting room arguing with boyfriend AGAIN!! Tears, shouting...the works. I can't take it anymore! I've had a hard week working with bratty Spanish kids and just want to sit in my sitting room and...welll...ye know...call me crazy....sit n stuff. She's always fighting with him and I'm the one who does the consoling. Yes, I am moving out when I get back from my holidays but it won't be immediately. Harder to find accomodation here in Madrid. This is bs...I'm like a hostage in my own bedroom. I actually got back30 minutes ago, heard the shouting, left to get a coffee and came back and they're STILL at it. :mad:

What would you do if you were me? Take note the girl has a temper and I'm sligthly terrified of her plus it's Friady and I don't want to put myself in a bad mood.

Chris P. Bacon

Ask them if they are up for a threesome.

inforfun

What i would do?
Tapas bar obviously if you are in Madrid.

leviathon

LOUD music - blast the hell out of it while they are fighting, might teach em to move on and do their arguments elsewhere. Just walk right on in and lash on the stereo. That's what I'd do anyway - or if you are worried about her temper do it from the comfort of your room behind a closed door.

StupidLikeAFox

Buy earphones?

Dermo

Does your boyfriend live with you?
What are they fighting about?
Any actual information you can give us so we can help/make snide remarks

Hank_Jones

Chris P. Bacon wrote: »

Ask them if they are up for a threesome.

This, and then pics or GTFO.

Ricardo G

Chris P. Bacon wrote: »

Ask them if they are up for a threesome.

In spanish please !:)

bazza1

Blast them with.....nevermind..

connundrum

A horse's head in her bed should send the proper message to your housemate.

That, or burn them both.

Chris P. Bacon

Ricardo G wrote: »

In spanish please !:)

Me el hornio

VW 1

Definitely suggest that threesome OP, there would be a whole other type of noise

Ricardo G

Chris P. Bacon wrote: »

Me el hornio

No no no

El treesomeio por favor ??

funloving

is it actually YOUR sitting room and she is paying you the rent? if not, then, is both YOURS
Said that, I would go in and politely tell her you want to watch tv / read a book, chillax and so on.

Sometimes we don't talk to people assuming their reaction will be bad, give it a try, maybe she doesn't realise what she is putting you through...

best of luck!

Aishae

if theyre gonna have a barney - regularly - in a house with other people they could at least not do it in public areas others need to be able to access (sitting room, kitchen) but considering she has a temper i dunno how she'd take it if you told her nicely to have arguements in her room, or out back.

moving out might be the only option... for your own sanity. house sharing doesnt always work especially when one doesnt treat the house any different than as if the house were her own or to. its her home too, yes. but that doesnt exactly entitle people to ignore the fact they live with other folks (thatt they arent related to)

as the poster above pointed out - you should probably at least try saying 'i want to watch tv please'

Teyla Emmagan

Poor you Eve, she sounds like a right pain in the ar&e. That would wreck my head if I were you.

Go out for a walk and come back with a nice bottle of wine and some ear plugs for yourself.

Ricardo G

funloving wrote: »

is it actually YOUR sitting room and she is paying you the rent? if not, then, is both YOURS
Said that, I would go in and politely tell her you want to watch tv / read a book, chillax and so on.

Sometimes we don't talk to people assuming their reaction will be bad, give it a try, maybe she doesn't realise what she is putting you through...

best of luck!

That answer is waaaaay to sensible

Yakult

Walk in, sit down and tell them to stfu or get out.

smokedeels

Kill them... it's not so hard, what's up with people today, nobody has the metal, the fortitude or the gumption to pick up a blunt object and bludgeon another person to death. We are a nation of cowards, no wonder successive governments had treated us with contempt.

Say what you like about Charlie Manson, but he got sh1t done, you wouldn't find him posting about his first world problems on an internet message board.

Tipsy McSwagger

Sit down in the sitting room, pick up the remote and turn the Telly up real loud.

Ricardo G

smokedeels wrote: »

Kill them... it's not so hard, what's up with people today, nobody has the metal, the fortitude or the gumption to pick up a blunt object and bludgeon another person to death. We are a nation of cowards, no wonder successive governments had treated us with contempt.

Say what you like about Charlie Manson, but he got sh1t done, you wouldn't find him posting about his first world problems on an internet message board.

Post of the day lol, i'm rolling round here

Caraville

I hate confrontation so I'd find it hard to say something... I think I'd just walk into the sitting room and turn on the television and ask them to keep it down because you're trying to watch something. If they didn't take the hint then I'd have to tell them that if they must argue then take it outside.

I hate when people argue in public, I always feel so awkward. Even friends, like couples I know bickering in front of me & others. Makes me cringe, but some people just don't care.

Chris P. Bacon

Yakult wrote: »

Walk in, sit down and tell them to stfu or get out.

Exactly, seriously go in tell them to take it to the bedroom because you want to chill and watch the telly.

Eve_Dublin

Chris P. Bacon wrote: »

Ask them if they are up for a threesome.

I vommed a bit on my top after reading that. You're grand thanks.

Dravokivich

Who's boyfriend?

Anyhow, I'd hit the whiskey, then the pair of'em with the empty bottle if they are still at it after.

chin_grin

Have a schlick.

(female equivalent of 'fap').

PARKHEAD67

Piss. And blasting of said liquid;)

Eve_Dublin

Dermo wrote: »

Does your boyfriend live with you?
What are they fighting about?
Any actual information you can give us so we can help/make snide remarks

Does my boyfriend live with me? No.

Fighting over his womanising ways. It's been literally (and I mean literally) ongoing for the past 2 years. My boyfriend saw him with his arms around some bird outside a bar in January when she was back in Canada visiting. The man is a renowned womanisor....I was introduced to him as "(insert name here) the womaniser" and true to his name, he cracked onto me almost immediately. This is before they started going out. What does she expect?

Wolfe Tone

Tell them to STFU

Eve_Dublin

Chris P. Bacon wrote: »

Exactly, seriously go in tell them to take it to the bedroom because you want to chill and watch the telly.

I just did. Banged some pots and pans about and they've fled.

Gummy Panda

Walk into the sitting room in the nip and start flicking the bean.

They'll be too shocked to fight

barbarians

Turn on Sky News and tell them their "problems" are nothing compared to some out in the real world- Oslo bombing, famine and drought in East Africa etc.

Ricardo G

You sound like a "single white female"

x_Ellie_x

I think moving out is your best option. Maybe you should start looking for a new place now so hopefully then you'd have a new place lined up, ready to move into, by the time you get back from your holidays.

You need to stop consoling her after she has fights with her boyfriend. You are just enabling her by doing this, letting her think her behaviour is okay. Next time she comes to you looking for comfort just tell her to grow up.

Eve_Dublin

chin_grin wrote: »

Have a schlick.

(female equivalent of 'fap').

Can't say shouting, WAILING LIKE A BLOODY BANSHEE, sobbing and stupid back and forth bs is conducive to the atmosphere needed to get a little bit more "aquainted" with myself.....

Eve_Dublin

Ricardo G wrote: »

You sound like a "single white female"

Yeah?

ArtyC

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I just did. Banged some pots and pans about and they've fled.

Good girl :-)

Chris P. Bacon

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Does my boyfriend live with me? No.

Fighting over his womanising ways. It's been literally (and I mean literally) ongoing for the past 2 years. My boyfriend saw him with his arms around some bird outside a bar in January when she was back in Canada visiting. The man is a renowned womanisor....I was introduced to him as "(insert name here) the womaniser" and true to his name, he cracked onto me almost immediately. This is before they started going out. What does she expect?

Its been going on 2 years and your still living there?

SIR PEADO BAILOUT

Yakult wrote: »

Walk in, sit down and tell them to stfu or get out.

Well now i dont believe dat is nice at all,sure the poor girls been thru enough,solution:check is she dehydrated,search symptoms if u dont know,then offer refreshing recouperative large glass of spring water ( pref.non sparkling) wait appx.1 hr and c da diff,

what did I tell ya sometimes its simple tings we miss,

lesson:NB listen ...and then take care of yr housemate and live in a happy house ever after

Eve_Dublin

Chris P. Bacon wrote: »

Its been going on 2 years and your still living there?

Nope..we've been living together for a year but have been friends for almost 2. I should've moved out ages ago but I man, I've been moving since I turned 21. I haven't lived in one place for a one whole year since then. I've moved 4 times in Madrid alone since moving here almost 2 years ago. Not so easy to move and find decent accomation here..renting is not as common as Ireland here. People live at home with parents forever.

CorkMan

Shout: Ay hombre y mujer, trabajando muy dificil por cinco dias. Tienen que al sus habitat o a la calle, estoy muy sobrio y quiero un Murphy's aqui, AHORA!

Eve_Dublin

Seriously, are people so desperate that they continue on with this kind of relationship? I don't get it...it'd give me a hernia (and hernias are ugly).

Eve_Dublin

CorkMan wrote: »

Shout: Ay hombre y mujer, trabajando muy dificil por cinco dias. Tienen que al sus habitat o a la calle, estoy muy sobrio y quiero un Murphy's aqui, AHORA!

They both have elementary Spanish which might be their problem...not speaking the language of luuuurve......

Kiera

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Seriously, are people so desperate that they continue on with this kind of relationship? I don't get it...it'd give me a hernia (and hernias are ugly).

Yup some people thrive on drama.

deathrider

Just walk in stark naked and start watching TV... Just to see if they notice.

MagicMarker

Tell your BF to leave, problem solved.

Kiera

MagicMarker wrote: »

Tell your BF to leave, problem solved.

Maybe try reading the thread before posting?

Dravokivich

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

They both have elementary Spanish which might be their problem...not speaking the language of luuuurve......

I've none, but it's absolutely hilarious when translated.

MagicMarker

Kiera wrote: »

Maybe try reading the thread before posting?

No

Eve_Dublin

deathrider wrote: »

Just walk in stark naked and start watching TV... Just to see if they notice.

Hmm...I should probably add that I don't own a telly.

deathrider

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Hmm...I should probably add that I don't own a telly.

Ok, walk in naked and just sit there as if nothing's wrong... Oh, and buy a telly.