Help! Toddler doesnt like his babysitter!

Happyzebra

Am returning to work soon and my toddler makes it clear that he would rather his babysitter wasn't around. She's a close relative whom I trust but has what one would call a 'strong personality'. I think the problem lies in the fact that my boy also has a smililar personality. He is assertive, strong willed and independent. He dislikes fuss and sometimes likes to be left alone. My sitter/relative loves him to death and doesn't seem to get that she's overpowering him sometimes...and I have had conversations with her regarding his personality etc. He has no problem being separted from me so this is not a separation anxiety issue. Has anyone had experience with a highly assertive toddler and a trusted but 'bull in a china shop' sitter?

Moonbeam

I could not leave a child with someone that they do not like.
I remember on one occasion been left with a baby sitter that I did not like and I was distraught.

willow tree

+1 what moonbeam said. If they dont get on its just not going to work. one thing mams always say is 'if i know he/shes happy, im happy', but you know he's not. maybe its time to look for someone he'll gel with, good luck with it (its not easy that its family):)

Happyzebra

Thanks for the replies moonbeam and willowtree. Sometimes I think that I am just being over protective...good to have your insight. Man this parent thing is way hard!!