Age gap

malkmoose

I am a 34 male and met a 22 year old over a month ago, we are getting on really well and are spending a lot of time together. Basically I am concerned about the age gap. I have raised this with her and she assures me this is not an issue. I think that we are at different stages in life and might want different things right now, I have not brought this up because its a bit heavy so early on. So my question is should I go with the flow and just enjoy it and see what happens or should I nip it in the bud even though she is giving me very positive messages. Do you think this is doomed to failure?

biko

It doesn't seem to be a very wide gap to me but yeah, in a year or two you may want different things.
But that can happen to anyone in a relationship anyway.
I'd say, go with it and try not to worry too much right now. You may, or may not, stay together a long time.

rainbow kirby

Moved from tLL to RI.

PinkPixy

My sister is in a relationship with a man 14 years older then she is and they are prefectly happy. The met when she was 23 and he was 36. I see no problem with it, if you click you click simply as that. I wouldn't be getting to worried about it.

LegacyUser

I came on here to ask the very same question.

I'm 24 and have been seeing a guy and all is going well. He hasn't told me his age as I think he is afraid I might reject him because of it, but his passport happened to be on the bedside locker the other morning and I couldn't help but look. He is 36.

I never thought age would bother me but now I'm not so sure! I do like him and I can see things going well for us but im worried.

I'm worried that he has more experience in life than me. There is a 12 year age gap between my sister and her husband, so I know its not a huge deal. But I cant stop thinking about it.

nessy382

malkmoose wrote: »

I am a 34 male and met a 22 year old over a month ago, we are getting on really well and are spending a lot of time together. Basically I am concerned about the age gap. I have raised this with her and she assures me this is not an issue. I think that we are at different stages in life and might want different things right now, I have not brought this up because its a bit heavy so early on. So my question is should I go with the flow and just enjoy it and see what happens or should I nip it in the bud even though she is giving me very positive messages. Do you think this is doomed to failure?

hi im actually in the same situation.. im 20 and my fella is 32 which is a 12 year gap also. im with him nearly 3 years. my fella used to say the same thing to me only up until awhile ago. he says it because he thinks that i am not ready to settle down and the whole lot. I told him i was i don't know how many times i know im young and so is your gf but maybe she feels the same as me and doesn't think its an issue. if she is giving you positive messages believe me she means it. go with the flow and see what happens. hope all goes well

Sonics2k

I have a friend from my days in school who's in a similar situation to you. She's 26, and her now husband is turning 42 next month.

They've been together about 5 years now, and everything has been great for them.

They like to joke about the age difference from time to time, but I think they've accepted the fact he'll be in his 60's when she turns 40.

malkmoose

think i'll go with the flow so

Chucky the tree

Age is the problem but her circumstances which arise because of her age could be. There would be a difference if she was in college still or not, does she have plans to travel for awhile etc etc. She might have zero interest in travelling and might want to settle down but it's something to be mindful of.

zxcvbnm1

Sonics2k wrote: »

I have a friend from my days in school who's in a similar situation to you. She's 26, and her now husband is turning 42 next month.

They've been together about 5 years now, and everything has been great for them.

They like to joke about the age difference from time to time, but I think they've accepted the fact he'll be in his 60's when she turns 40.

Ah...he'll be 56 when she turns 40 ! Not in his 60's.