Invitations for family

wexford12

Hi we are sending out invites this week but arnt sure if we should send our brothers and sisters one they of coarse know about and are coming to the wedding but do you still send them an invitation in the post,Also my dad lives across the country should he be sent one ?? Sorry if this sounds silly but we just arnt sure what to do

Daisy M

Personally speaking I have sent them to our respective siblings and family and have always received them too. Def send one to your dad he may even like to keep it as a momento! Have a lovely wedding day:)

Sarah Bear

agree. nice to have as a keepsake

angeldelight

Sarah Bear wrote: »

agree. nice to have as a keepsake

Yep I'd definitely send them one - it's a nice touch

woodchuck

My sister gave me one and I've now got it in a photo album along with other mementos She gave it to me in person instead of posting it though cause we see each other all the time and to save on stamps :P

BeardySi

Why wouldn't you send them one? It's not like the handful of invites needed for immediate family would impact on the cost of printing....

cyning

Treadhead wrote: »

Why wouldn't you send them one? It's not like the handful of invites needed for immediate family would impact on the cost of printing....

Because some family will feel/get offended for getting invited to something they know they are going to :rolleyes:

I'd send them... my granny got in a bit of a snit but everyone else was delighted to have them!!

tinkerbell

Send them - everyone who you are inviting should get an invite, regardless of who they are. And some people especially love to keep their family's wedding invitations as a keepsake.

HairMonster

cyning wrote: »

Because some family will feel/get offended for getting invited to something they know they are going to :rolleyes:

I'd send them... my granny got in a bit of a snit but everyone else was delighted to have them!!

Really? Wow. I thought it was more likely that people would get offended by NOT getting one... I can't understand why getting an invitation would offend someone. People, eh?:) Just goes to show it doesn't matter what you do, you'll never please everyone!

I can only speak from personal experience but I've received invitations to all immediate family weddings except one where OH's sis had a very small wedding abroad so it was only family and didn't bother.

If you don't have enough invitations then there's no need, but like someone said that number of invitations won't affect the overall printing. It's a nice gesture and a lovely keepsake for them. You could keep it informal by giving it to them when you see them instead of posting it, and you can preface it by saying you're giving them an invitation as a keepsake or something like that. And if receiving the invitation still offends them, they can bin it!

silly

I had planned to but I ran out of invites... Only had one left so didn't want to offend someone by giving it to only one.

I got mine from DIY weddings and it was quite time consuming to make so I wasn't going to order more supplies and print more.
They all understand though!

paulbok

On a similiar theme, I plan on handing out as many invites in person to cut down on postage.
Whats the general opinion on (not)posting invites?

I'm also set up a wedding website for all the maps & directions, accomodation info etc and guests can rsvp there too(everyone will get a rsvp card though, to cut down on printing.
Only those we think have no internet access or can't use it will get the directions etc in their invite.

Gatica

that's a great idea for cutting back on costs. I think people do enjoy getting an invite in the post, but they won't notice the difference if you give it in person.
We got one from SIL and her groom (my fiance's brother), but my OH gave them wrong address and they ended up having to post it to us 3 times before we received it!

HairMonster

paulbok wrote: »

On a similiar theme, I plan on handing out as many invites in person to cut down on postage.
Whats the general opinion on (not)posting invites?

I'm also set up a wedding website for all the maps & directions, accomodation info etc and guests can rsvp there too(everyone will get a rsvp card though, to cut down on printing.
Only those we think have no internet access or can't use it will get the directions etc in their invite.

I don't see a problem with hand-delivering the invitations, just don't do it at a night out in the pub or something where they are quite likely to go missing!

Wedding websites are a great idea for all the extra info, the only one I've actually used it http://www.gettingmarried.co.uk/ but there are lots of other free ones sites out there.

I'm a bit confused though - everyone will get an RSVP card to cut down on printing? I think there's a typo there! But are you including RSVP cards anyway? TBH I wouldn't bother, its adding to the cost and most people can RSVP through the website.

Toto Wolfcastle

HairMonster wrote: »

I'm a bit confused though - everyone will get an RSVP card to cut down on printing? I think there's a typo there! But are you including RSVP cards anyway? TBH I wouldn't bother, its adding to the cost and most people can RSVP through the website.

I think there's a bracket missing. Not giving directions etc to everyone cuts down on the printing.

paulbok

"I'm also set up a wedding website for all the maps & directions, accomodation info etc and guests can rsvp there too(NOT everyone will get a rsvp card though, to cut down on printing.
Only those we think have no internet access or can't use it will get the directions etc in their invite."

Yeah, should have been a 'not' in there as well.

ChattyChick

We sent them to most family members but not to my Mom. I just assumed she didn't want one because of COURSE she would be there!!! Turns out she was really disappointed because she wanted one for the scrapbook! When I heard about it later, I sent her one after the wedding and she was delighted!!!:D