Ex on facebook

LegacyUser

My ex (the guy I lost my virginity with) is my friend facebook, and other than on there, I don't normally see him (due to distance, although I am in the same country as him at the moment). Since we broke up, I've gotten a new boyfriend, and am really happy with him- a lot more than I had been with my ex. However, he's recently gotten a new girlfriend and keeps writing loads of romantic messages to her on his wall and also changed his profile picture to one of them making out. I know it's irrational, since we have broken up and all, and it's not as if I want him back, but I think with him being my first, this is making things so much harder, and I'm finding it really hard to see these things (it's not enough to block him on my wall, since whenever I look at my friends list, he's on top)... is it acceptable to delete him? I don't want to look bitter or angry, but it's really getting to me...

Really grateful if anyone has any opinions

WindSock

Delete him if his presence on your fb only gives you grief, it is not worth clinging on if it upsets you and perfectly acceptable to do so. You will feel exhilerated after it!

Canluum

Yep, delete. My ex did it to me, I understood and was eventually grateful.

nicechick!

Unreg_Dublin_Gal wrote: »

My ex (the guy I lost my virginity with) is my friend facebook, and other than on there, I don't normally see him (due to distance, although I am in the same country as him at the moment). Since we broke up, I've gotten a new boyfriend, and am really happy with him- a lot more than I had been with my ex. However, he's recently gotten a new girlfriend and keeps writing loads of romantic messages to her on his wall and also changed his profile picture to one of them making out. I know it's irrational, since we have broken up and all, and it's not as if I want him back, but I think with him being my first, this is making things so much harder, and I'm finding it really hard to see these things (it's not enough to block him on my wall, since whenever I look at my friends list, he's on top)... is it acceptable to delete him? I don't want to look bitter or angry, but it's really getting to me...

Really grateful if anyone has any opinions

ohhh ehh don't mean to sound harsh but here goes! (apologises I do not want to cause offence but well)

Why do women has such an obsession with stalking ex's or potential flirts on-line! Delete him!

The problem here is your feeling miserable as he has moved on from ''you'' and found a replacement though you had already moved on your ego is hurt he has moved on and be happy for him otherwise delete him

R.D. aka MR.D

Yeh I totally agree with the others. Just delete him.

Although i was having a similar problem and used it as the final push I needed to finally delete my facebook!!

[-0-]

Set your fb up so that only people on your friends list can send you messages and delete him.

LegacyUser

Many thanks for all the responses! I deleted him last night (and this mother... awkward times, but I never met the woman in real life and still don't understand why she ever added me tbh), and felt so, so much better after it was done- I never realised how much it had been getting to me before. I'm also thinking about deleting facebook for good (God, it's like going cold turkey after being an addict!) but one virtual step at a time :P

Thank you everyone!!

nicechick!

Unreg_Dublin_Gal wrote: »

Many thanks for all the responses! I deleted him last night (and this mother... awkward times, but I never met the woman in real life and still don't understand why she ever added me tbh), and felt so, so much better after it was done- I never realised how much it had been getting to me before. I'm also thinking about deleting facebook for good (God, it's like going cold turkey after being an addict!) but one virtual step at a time :P

Thank you everyone!!

woo hoo well done!!

Vicxas

Thats got delete written all over it!

LegacyUser

Unreg_Dublin_Gal wrote: »

I'm also thinking about deleting facebook for good (God, it's like going cold turkey after being an addict!) but one virtual step at a time :P

Remember facebook deletions aren't strictly permanent so you can always delete for now and go back later. It's definitely worth disconnecting for a while, it'll make you realise that it's not worth the headwreckery!

You've done the right thing.

Wompa1

Unreg_Dublin_Gal wrote: »

Many thanks for all the responses! I deleted him last night (and this mother... awkward times, but I never met the woman in real life and still don't understand why she ever added me tbh), and felt so, so much better after it was done- I never realised how much it had been getting to me before. I'm also thinking about deleting facebook for good (God, it's like going cold turkey after being an addict!) but one virtual step at a time :P

Thank you everyone!!

I use facebook but I have a 40 friend rule. 15 of my friends on it are relatives that live in America and others are mostly friends who moved abroad. Try as I might I always get found out on the Facebook thing by girlfriends. For my last 3 girlfriends I dodged adding them on FB. But I wouldn't lie if they asked was I on it..the worst thing is they add you, then their friends who you maybe meet twice add you, then their family etc. I specifically told my current g/f I'm not going to accept any of her friends. She has over 500 friends on FB!!

I'm thinking of deleting it and inviting my family to Google+ and trying to keep a low profile on that. The privacy options are better