Would you say I was forgiven? If I told my friend (girl) that she's a ***** and...

arleitiss

Hey, I got drunk one evening, and I went mad, I told my very good friend (girl) that she's a ***** and is friends with everyone just because of money. Or uses everyone for money. I said that 2 days ago, it took 5 minutes to say that, and took 2 days and still takes time to apologize. First I told her I am sory, and that I didn't mean it, I smashed my hand against wall that evening, and showed it to her and said see what happens when I am drunk, I do stupid things which I don't intend to do. She kept saying everything is ok. But I saw not. I asked her best friend (my best friend also) to talk to her, he said that she's not offended anymore. But still I later asked her to walk away from all group of friends so we both can talk privately, I said: " I am so sorry, please forgive me. I just can't withstand this, I can't look into your eyes, I feel ashamed, I will do anything", she said don't feel bad, everything is fine. I said I prommise nothing like this will happen again. So we walked away and were talking all evening. Then I caller her and she said I will call you tomorrow, if I wont call until 3 pm, just call me. I said goodnight and she hanged phone. So do you think I was forgiven? or at least partly? What else should I do? Should I just wait? As people say time heals wounds? Help?

Btw censored word is Bi*ch

SheRa

I would say that she will do her best to stay out of your way from now on.

When you are drunk you are verbally abusive to a friend and on another occasion hit a hall. If I were you, Id be less worried about whether she will forgive you (doubt she will by the way) and more worried about your anger management issues.

dee.

SheRa wrote: »

I would say that she will do her best to stay out of your way from now on.

When you are drunk you are verbally abusive to a friend and on another occasion hit a hall. If I were you, Id be less worried about whether she will forgive you (doubt she will by the way) and more worried about your anger management issues.

agreed on all of this. Your behaviour isn't acceptable, drunk or not. I think you should stay away from the alcohol until you get your anger issues sorted out. Whatever chance you have of saving your friendship will be lost if you have another outburst like that. Deal with the issues and hopefully she will see that you realized you made a mistake but dealt with your problems.

arleitiss

Well I was talking to her this morning over phone, and she was laughing, and talking fine, sounded friendly. So like I don't know. btw all this is going on in Ukraine. I am for summer here.

She also walked away with my friend yesterday and whispered him that she forgave me, and everything will be as it used to be. And my friend said I am worried too much about things that have sorted out already. But still I don't know.

booboo88

is this a wind up? you called your friend a bitch and a user and you want to her friend??
crazy

btw being drunk isnt an excuse, you've only said what you have been thinking all along

arleitiss

booboo88 wrote: »

is this a wind up? you called your friend a bitch and a user and you want to her friend??
crazy

btw being drunk isnt an excuse, you've only said what you have been thinking all along

The way it was, was:
I was sitting near her house, and she was walking home fast, she was late and had to be at home fast. I asked her for number (because I formatted my phone by accident) and she said, well.. bye... And ran off, so I just shouted word Бля (which in russian means bitch, and is usually used as in english when you go mad you shout Fuc*! or Crap! ) But sometimes people take it seriously so I am not sure.

Kimia

You sound far too intense, smashing your fist into walls, screaming at her when she does't answer you and calling her a bitch and a user. I wouldn't be friends with you, no way.

Kevin Duffy

OP, looking at your other thread, where you talk about committing suicide to a girl and you're looking for advice on whether she likes you, then taking this thread with it's angry outbursts and what appears to be attention seeking self-harm - you need some help, advice and support from someone close to you who is able to give it to you. If you keep behaving as you're describing, you'll run out of chances and lose your friends.

arleitiss

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

OP, looking at your other thread, where you talk about committing suicide to a girl and you're looking for advice on whether she likes you, then taking this thread with it's angry outbursts and what appears to be attention seeking self-harm - you need some help, advice and support from someone close to you who is able to give it to you. If you keep behaving as you're describing, you'll run out of chances and lose your friends.

thats the problem, I just came home and today I got ****ed over by her, She says she will tell me in 3 days what can I do for her so that she forgives me. For 3 days she says I have to suffer moral pain for what I have done to her. So I guess I have to wait. I also thought of going to psychiatrist (or the person you pay and talk to that helps) when I come back to Irleand. I said if I fail my LC which I will find out in Mid august, I prob will be on edge of ending life. First step she said to make it up is wake up at 11 AM tomorrow and go with her to her friends party which I first refused, but now to make it up accepted. I guess recovery will be long, but I will try to recover our relation ship.

arleitiss

I am also planning on asking apology by:
Buying flowers, standing on knees in front of her or whole city in public and saying big loud " Sorry, I was wrong, please forgive me, I didn't mean it"
It that wont wont I don't know then.

Kevin Duffy

arleitiss wrote: »

I am also planning on asking apology by:
Buying flowers, standing on knees in front of her or whole city in public and saying big loud " Sorry, I was wrong, please forgive me, I didn't mean it"
It that wont wont I don't know then.

Don't do this. To be honest, some of your behaviour so far is very odd, but this would be just ridiculous.

Failing your leaving cert would not be the end of the world and won't be the end of your life.

You need to start talking to someone, soon. Not internet advice, but your parents, grandparents, someone like that who's close to you and can help.

arleitiss

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Don't do this. To be honest, some of your behaviour so far is very odd, but this would be just ridiculous.

Failing your leaving cert would not be the end of the world and won't be the end of your life.

You need to start talking to someone, soon. Not internet advice, but your parents, grandparents, someone like that who's close to you and can help.

there is no way I would talk to my parents. dont remember if I mentioned it above or not, but: I was considering visiting conselior or what ever that person is called that talks to you and helps even though you pay them.

Kevin Duffy

arleitiss wrote: »

there is no way I would talk to my parents. dont remember if I mentioned it above or not, but: I was considering visiting conselior or what ever that person is called that talks to you and helps even though you pay them.

Why not?

arleitiss

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Why not?

because it's type of problem I wouldn't want my parents to know about. They warned me about this friend (girl) before, but they wanred me that she might cause harm to me, yet I end up doing harm to her. I just don't want them to know about it, I think talking to concellior would help me more, it's tyep of person who helps with all problems right>

Kevin Duffy

Your parents sound like sensible people. You haven't done that girl harm and she sounds pretty well in control of the situation to me. Maybe take your parents advice before you do harm to yourself or her.

Generally, don't hide things from your parents. They were your age once and if you talk to them, they'll be glad to know what's going on with you and you'll know you have two people in your corner who care more for you than anyone else ever will. I'm no saying don't talk to a counsellor, but start with your parents.

arleitiss

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Your parents sound like sensible people. You haven't done that girl harm and she sounds pretty well in control of the situation to me. Maybe take your parents advice before you do harm to yourself or her.

Generally, don't hide things from your parents. They were your age once and if you talk to them, they'll be glad to know what's going on with you and you'll know you have two people in your corner who care more for you than anyone else ever will. I'm no saying don't talk to a counsellor, but start with your parents.

Well she forgave me. Today she even gave me a hug when she went home. So I guess things are back to normal. Now at least I know what's importabt to me, and what I don't want to loose. Anyways yeah I guess I will try to talk to mother, since I don't live with father for 17 years now.