What is more accepted; being gay or dating someone who is of a different colour/race

decembersun77

Just thinking what people here think. Would you be more okay with; if one of your family/friends came out that they are gay or that they met and are going out with a black or dark skinned race man/women or if your gay brother/sister was going out with someone who is black or dark skinned race guy/girl.

NTMK

decembersun77 wrote: »

Just thinking what people here think. Would you be more okay with; if one of your family/friends came out that they are gay or that they met and are going out with a black or dark skinned race man/women or if your gay brother/sister was going out with someone who is black or dark skinned race guy/girl.

I've had both happen to me with friends and i've no problem with either

tbh most people that are okay with one are okay with the other

Hackysack

What a ridiculous question.

Surely it doesn't make a difference either way.

efb

Some people are stuck in the 1950's...

If only they'd stayed there!

MagicMarker

I wouldn't care about either.

Micky Dolenz

Have I walked through a time portal?

SharpshooterTom

The whole world is becoming mixed raced. Give it 200 years or less and we'll all be beige.

Britain may have a mixed race majority by the second half of this century, so come on you need to get with the times. It would be a disaster if this didn't happen.

ReReginald

which is more accepted - different race.
no personal opinion.

ejmaztec

decembersun77 wrote: »

Just thinking what people here think. Would you be more okay with; if one of your family/friends came out that they are gay or that they met and are going out with a black or dark skinned race man/women or if your gay brother/sister was going out with someone who is black or dark skinned race guy/girl.

That's that sorted then.

Glico Man

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Have I walked through a time portal?

Could you pick me up some Wispa bars? My local doesn't sell them anymore

phasers

Neither would bother me in the slightest.


Oddly though, my parents have told us that they'd have no problem if any of us were gay. But they would apparently kill me if I ever got involved with a black guy :rolleyes:

BluesBerry

It would not make a difference at all as long as they are happy
Who care what anyone thinks

Sunnyisland

What is more accepted; being gay or dating someone who is of a different colour/race

Imagine the thought if the person was a gay coloured, what then ?





To answer the question, once there happy.

SharpshooterTom

phasers wrote: »

But they would apparently kill me if I ever got involved with a black guy :rolleyes:

Don't believe you. Surely most people don't think like that in this day in age.

decembersun77

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Have I walked through a time portal?

Not really, but how would your mother and father be if your sister brought home a nigerian guy to introduce him to the family?

Captain Darling

Why should it matter for fcuks sakes?

phasers

Gnobe wrote: »

Don't believe you. Surely most people don't think like that in this day in age.

Don't care if you don't believe me.

ejmaztec

decembersun77 wrote: »

Not really, but how would your mother and father be if your sister brought home a nigerian guy to introduce him to the family?

If you want to take home a Nigerian guy to meet the family, it's entirely up to you.

decembersun77

Gnobe wrote: »

Don't believe you. Surely most people don't think like that in this day in age.

A lot of people don't accept their daughter/son going out with someone who is dark. I know of few people whose mothers wern't happy with the fact their going out with different colour person. You don't have to go out with a different colour person I know a guy who was going out with a german girl and his mother was saying 'would you not get someone Irish' and his family were not welcoming to her.

decembersun77

ejmaztec wrote: »

If you want to take home a Nigerian guy to meet the family, it's entirely up to you.

Well yea obviously. That's what everyone does who is in serious relationship is introduce them to your parents

dee.

Neither would bother me. In the area I live in it's much more acceptable for someone to date someone of a different race than to be gay. It's actually pretty common to see mixed race relationships here and I don't see anyone give them hassle over it.

decembersun77

Hackysack wrote: »

What a ridiculous question.

Surely it doesn't make a difference either way.

Well you might say that but in real life, if your sister or sister is bringing home a indian or chinese and im not talking about takeaways lol some one of a differnt colour often doesn't go down to well with a lot of people. I think maybe it's more accepted if your gay that your parents would accept a dark skinned person as ur bf/gf.

orourkeda

dee.

decembersun77 wrote: »

Well you might say that but in real life, if your sister or sister is bringing home a indian or chinese and im not talking about takeaways lol some one of a differnt colour often doesn't go down to well with a lot of people. I think maybe it's more accepted if your gay that your parents would accept a dark skinned person as ur bf/gf.

Racism and homophobia are two completely different things. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean they can date a colored person "easier" (for lack of a better word) than someone who is straight.

SharpshooterTom

decembersun77 wrote: »

A lot of people don't accept their daughter/son going out with someone who is dark. I know of few people whose mothers wern't happy with the fact their going out with different colour person. You don't have to go out with a different colour person I know a guy who was going out with a german girl and his mother was saying 'would you not get someone Irish' and his family were not welcoming to her.

That's certainly not a lot of people I know.

Obviously older people are more inclined to have prejudiced views but they're dying out. The younger generation today which are almost completely unracist will become parents one day and they'll be fine with it.

WindSock

decembersun77 wrote: »

Not really, but how would your mother and father be if your sister brought home a nigerian guy to introduce him to the family?

My mam would be extremely shocked that her daughter is no longer a prejudiced bigot.

decembersun77

orourkeda wrote: »

Thats very funny there are a good few old filas like him. I wouldn't like to be gay going to somewhere like mayo or kerry with my partner and meeting him.

--LOS--

I wouldnt give a damn about either but would be interesting to know in general what is more accepted.

decembersun77

WindSock wrote: »

My mam would be extremely shocked that her daughter is no longer a prejudiced bigot.

There are a lot of things people going out with dark skinned people have to face. It would be a lot harder for them if their love ones were not happy with them being together.

looksee

When I went off to Africa in the 60s my dad told me not to come home with a black man. So I brought home an Irish Catholic instead. That showed him!

SharpshooterTom

decembersun77 wrote: »

There are a lot of things people going out with dark skinned people have to face. It would be a lot harder for them if their love ones were not happy with them being together.

The whole world is becoming mixed race, how could anyone not know this be against it? It's like trying to stop a hurricane force imo. Europe (hopefully if we're lucky enough) will be a beige continent at some point in future. It's needs to be imo to eliminate racism.

Toby Take a Bow

phasers wrote: »

Neither would bother me in the slightest.


Oddly though, my parents have told us that they'd have no problem if any of us were gay. But they would apparently kill me if I ever got involved with a black guy :rolleyes:

Jesus, your parents told you they'd kill you if you went out with a black guy? That's insane.

decembersun77 wrote: »

Well you might say that but in real life, if your sister or sister is bringing home a indian or chinese and im not talking about takeaways lol

'Lol' indeed.

I think the OP is probably comparing two separate things, but the fact that homosexuality was illegal until relatively recently and that I would normally see a gay couple around town kissing or holding hands would make me think that there's still a long way to go in Ireland before homosexuality is really accepted by the vast majority of people. The last time I saw two girls walking down the street holding hands, they were followed by a junkie shouting after them and getting very excited at what he thought would be happening later between the two.

decembersun77

The only thing I might'nt be okay about if my sister brought home an arab/muslim. I would have to see if they are good to her first. I am not saying all arab/muslim men are like that, I know many of them are good but some of them can be very controlling of women. Some men are controlling anyways.

SharpshooterTom

Toby Take a Bow wrote: »

Jesus, your parents told you they'd kill you if you went out with a black guy? That's insane.

I agree I find it hard to believe, you'd think most people in Ireland would be fine with it, infact I would say most people in Ireland actively encourage it.

decembersun77

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Have I walked through a time portal?

Not really, I went out with an indian guy for a few years, a real gentleman but the looks, stares and attitude you get from people is hard to take, it gets worse in rural areas. I got told 'be careful of him' and 'does he want to marry you for the visa' and is he illegal, etc. I don't know what some people are like being that closed minded and judgmental, When I encounter someone who is different at my work I am curious and interested in them because I like knowing about other cultures and people, who am i to judge.

KeithAFC

I'd say saying a black person.

OPENROAD

And people here knock the tabloids

later12

I find both posibilities equally ┐('～`)┌

Gay... Black... I honestly don't give a crap; what is an arse if not an understretched vagina? what is a black man but an Irishman who doesn't have to worry about freckles

decembersun77

looksee wrote: »

When I went off to Africa in the 60s my dad told me not to come home with a black man. So I brought home an Irish Catholic instead. That showed him!

Would he say that if is was Barack Obama or Will Smith

Mr. Presentable

What?? Bigot or bigot? Hmmm.

decembersun77

later10 wrote: »

I find both posibilities equally ┐('～`)┌

Gay... Black... I honestly don't give a crap; what is an arse if not an understretched vagina? what is a black man but an Irishman who doesn't have to worry about freckles

What? I don't understand, I am not only talking about black africans here and dark asians too

Westcoast Thugs

lots of racist basta*rds here

we all human

later12

decembersun77 wrote: »

What? I don't understand, I am not only talking about black africans here and dark asians too

I don't think it matters if you are talking about blacks, Asians, or Caucasion Europeans; does it?

decembersun77

later10 wrote: »

I don't think it matters if you are talking about blacks, Asians, or Caucasion Europeans; does it?

Well it doesn't matter but in general but the blacks and chinese are accepted by default but the newer races like filipinos and indians arn't as much.

mike65

What about bringing a north-sider home?

later12

I wouldn't accept that; I find it hard to believe, in fact. Then again there is no empirical evidence to support my opinion (nor yours).

Red Hand

mike65 wrote: »

What about bringing a north-sider home?

The river doesn't split Waaaaaaaaterford North South, does it?:P

Stinicker

Since this thread has divulged into a Gays V Blacks contest I think I'll go with the gays they are far more open-minded and some African's really make us Irish look almost liberal with some of their weird ways eg.

Female Genital Cutting, Death Sentence for Gays, weird superstitions, raping virgins to offload HIV, inventing the Vuvuzela, Sharia Law, I'd prefer a person to be gay tbh!

David Norris is acceptable, he's gay and african! Hopefully a mixed race society will never happen, every race is unique and special and if we all become some short of yellow, chocolatey white colour wouldn't be all be kinda orange like that ITV weather guy?

hatrickpatrick

To the OPs question: I would 100% not give a f*ck in either case.
If no one is being hurt against their will then nothing bad or wrong is taking place. It's a free world, people should date whoever the hell they want if it makes them happy. god knows there's enough misery in this world without inflicting more of it on people through bigotry and pointless stigma.

Siuin

Gnobe wrote: »

Europe (hopefully if we're lucky enough) will be a beige continent at some point in future. It's needs to be imo to eliminate racism.

and gingers
I say this as a redhead *sigh*

Killer Wench

Eh... both homosexuality and 'interracial' unions have been around for thousands of years. It's reality; how do you not accept that?