Dating site meetups?

celica1994

Has anyone had any experiences with meeting up with anyone from an online dating site, I sumwhat have a slight phobia of them and guess id like to overcome it by trying it out, any advise would be appreciated

Needler

Not really dating sites but I've met people from online. Go to somewhere public where there's loads of people around in case of trouble, tell someone you're going, etc.

Dating sites attract their fair share of timewasters so don't be too disappointed if you get stood up or they cancel at the last moment

celica1994

Well, theres a girl ive got texting offa a site, she seems really nice and thinking about asking her out, just hoping the whole thing doesnt go arkward and such lol

Birdsong

celica1994 wrote: »

Well, theres a girl ive got texting offa a site, she seems really nice and thinking about asking her out, just hoping the whole thing doesnt go arkward and such lol

Ask her out now so, don't leave it cos you'll build up an unrealistic expectation in your head.
If there is no spark there, so what you've done it, move on to the next person. I've been on many dates which have come from online, and many -most lol, neither of us have even text after - nothing there but it doesn't matter, and don't take it personal either, its not a big deal.

BTW know of 4 couples who are married or engaged due to meeting from websites, just a matter of clicking on the right person

calex71

99% of the time you'll get the internet weirdo / stranger danger spiel from people, and this is correct advice, be smart, meet in a public place etc. but what is even worse than that is time wasters, 99% of the problem, you can trust a weirdo in that you know that they are a weirdo , but it's hard to spot a time waster :mad:

Go in with no expectations and an open mind OP and as long as you are safe to hell with social stigma that society attaches to this.

Wompa1

calex71 wrote: »

99% of the time you'll get the internet weirdo / stranger danger spiel from people, and this is correct advice, be smart, meet in a public place etc. but what is even worse than that is time wasters, 99% of the problem, you can trust a weirdo in that you know that they are a weirdo , but it's hard to spot a time waster :mad:

Go in with no expectations and an open mind OP and as long as you are safe to hell with social stigma that society attaches to this.

Yip, full of time wasters! I have one friend who is seeing a girl he met online and she seems like a complete nutcase.

I tried it out of desperation because I was really lonely. Nothing but time wasters. Using the site because they like the attention, absolutely no intention of meeting in person. BS

yawnstretch

It's hit and miss really. Take the previously
mentioned precautions and dont have high expectations.

You will get crazy people, people you may not find physically attractive, and some normal and cool people

greengirl31

I've been on a couple of internet dates and they were grand - I haven't come across anyone who arranges to meet and then just doesn't show up but I 'm sure it happens.
But the usual safety tips apply - meet in public, tell someone where you're going, go easy on the booze and enjoy yourself.
I have a 2 drink rule for such ocassions - one buys the first drink other buys the 2nd - you'll know at that stage if there's even the tiniest spark so you can decide to stay if it's there but if not, you can politely excuse yourself and move on to the next one ...

Internet dating is as random as meeting someone in a pub or club i think - sometimes you'll meet someone nice and other times you'll get the wierdo. Like another poster said, if you're chatting/txting someone don't leave it too long to meet - go, see if there's a spark and if not, no harm done and move on. I'm surprised at the amount of time you have to put into it to get any feedback but I suppose it's the same as everything really. Don't take the whole thing too seriously and enjoy

purplekitty

im getting married to someone i met on a dating website

we text for about two months before hand
he was the first and only person i met up with coz usually u can weed out the weirdo's after a few days texting.
dont be afraid that everyone is gonna be a weirdo, me and my OH are young (26 and 27) professional and attractive people (:p) and now we're getting married in October
best of luck

Liam Byrne

purplekitty wrote: »

im getting married to someone i met on a dating website

Does he know yet ?

Seriously though, there are a lot of odd people online; those looking for "the one" or those on the rebound (or even the revenge trail)......instead of people who are just trying to meet someone to socialise with and have fun.

That said, the people online have to drink and dance somewhere, so the same people are on the streets and in pubs & nightclubs.

celica1994

My biggest fear with the whole thing is the whole "akward silence thing", jesus what happens then? fake a call and run? lol

Needler

celica1994 wrote: »

My biggest fear with the whole thing is the whole "akward silence thing", jesus what happens then? fake a call and run? lol

nah you should be able to recover from those easy enough, just have a few things ready to say for when they might occur. few interesting tales you know

Snoopy1

My god what a lot of negativity on here.
Internet dating is what you make of it. If you go in with the attitude of it wont work, im crazy for agreeing to it etc of course your not going to hit it off.
I went on loads of dates last year met nice guys and guys i didnt hit it off with. I certainly didnt feel like i was joining a site because i was desperate.
I ended up seeing someone from the site for a year. we split recently and i went back to a dating site, and am now seeing a great guy.
Just go in with an open mind and a positive attitude.

celica1994

Its weird, i dunno why i have a phobia about the whole thing!

Needler

celica1994 wrote: »

Its weird, i dunno why i have a phobia about the whole thing!

even if you do manage to make a tit of yourself. which is highly unlikely the worst will happen is that girl will 'go quiet' on you and tell her friends the date wasn't much of a success but you learn from it for the next one.

tallaghtmick

celica1994 wrote: »

Its weird, i dunno why i have a phobia about the whole thing!

Bit of a personal question,but do you put yourself down?like do you think you aren't attractive?i only ask because i met the my ex online (3 years together)and that was at the height of my looks lol but since then ive put on weight and just dont feel the same cockyness i used to and if im honest i bottled it with someone i was meant to meet up with a few months ago.