Too close to Friends wedding date??

Sum Bus

Friends of ours got engaged late last year and have set a date for March 2012. We have decided to get married last week and hoping for a short engagement (getting married April, May or June) next year. Just thinking though, is this too near to our friends wedding??? I don't know what venue theirs is yet...

smelltheglove

I reckon a month is enough, I have 4 clients that booked me through the recommendation of one person, all knowing each other, weddings are oct, may, july and august.

Sum Bus

Thanks - we don't want to be too close to theirs as a few of the same friends would be at it and we want them to be at ours!!

gimmick

Just remember, you probably want them at yours, so make sure it is not so close as it means they are still on honeymoon.

Toots

When in March is it? If it's the end of March, I'd be inclined to go with either May or June myself, purely because if you have a lot of mutual friends two weddings close together might be too costly etc for them and then they might feel they had to choose between which one to attend. If it's the beginning of march then April, May or June would be grand.

TBH if I was your friend I wouldn't have a problem with that at all. I would be pissed if a friend got engaged after me and we announced our date and then they went and booked their wedding for 2 weeks before ours (happened to a friend of mine, they weren't impressed, especially since the other couple booked the same hotel also!). Also a +1 to what Gimmick said, leave a few weeks at least between the weddings if you want your friends to attend your wedding so they have time to get back from honeymoon!

prettyinpink

I'm getting married mid march I'm engaged 2 yrs and a friend of mine got egaged recently and has booked her wedding 3 wks after mine, Tbh I don't mind we should be book from honeymoon then to attend and they will be two completely different types of weddings.

culsoh

Toots* wrote: »

When in March is it? If it's the end of March, I'd be inclined to go with either May or June myself, purely because if you have a lot of mutual friends two weddings close together might be too costly etc for them and then they might feel they had to choose between which one to attend. If it's the beginning of march then April, May or June would be grand.

TBH if I was your friend I wouldn't have a problem with that at all. I would be pissed if a friend got engaged after me and we announced our date and then they went and booked their wedding for 2 weeks before ours (happened to a friend of mine, they weren't impressed, especially since the other couple booked the same hotel also!). Also a +1 to what Gimmick said, leave a few weeks at least between the weddings if you want your friends to attend your wedding so they have time to get back from honeymoon!

I don't know what date exactly... I have to try and find that out without being too obvious!

Borderfox

I would be inclined to go with Toots on this, may or june depending on when in March it is.

kittex

My friend and I are getting married 2 days apart!

We're going to go to each other's and we don't mind as we both live abroad and have to travel home for the weddings so it means we can go to each other's.
Also they're really different - she is having a huge wedding in a stunning church and reception at a beautiful country club; I am have a small civil wedding with a buffet lunch and then a cocktail reception.

Really depends on the people, their feelings about it location etc.
I would decide what you want first - then if there's a conflict work from there to handle it. It's your big day just as much as hers, and you shouldn't be working solely around your friend's plans.

Congrats also

BeardySi

Do it in a different month so all your joint friends have had time for a payday in between... Two weddings in the same month can be a real hit on the pocket...

HairMonster

I don't see a problem with that at all, once you don't pick a date before your friends wedding.
I agree that it would be nice to leave at least a month between them in consideration of guests attending both, though.

Gatica

I don't see what's wrong with having wedding before them, so long as it's not close to their date. Some people like to have a long engagement, seems its averaging at close to 2 years at the mo according to Mrs2be research someone posted on another thread. So if you want a short engagement, you've every right to it, but naturally out of respect for their already set date would be bad form to have it say in Feb or even maybe late Jan.

HairMonster

Gatica wrote: »

I don't see what's wrong with having wedding before them, so long as it's not close to their date.

Sorry, I meant too soon before - if its a long time before the other wedding then its probably ok, just don't have it a month or 2 before theirs.
But I'd still be wary - some brides get all bridezilla over another couple stealing her thunder by having the wedding before hers, it can be a touchy subject :eek: