On Line Dating

Timmythedonkey

I've been seperated for a year now & started on-line dating about 4 month's ago. I started online dating as I don't get 2 go out much and am not very fleixible when it come's to going out! (I.E. KIDS)

Now I have to say I have had a ball at the begining but now begining to get bored and think there's no one out there for me!!!!! It seem's that there's plenty of 20 something's who want the experiance of an older woman!!!! At the beg it was a very BIG booost to the old confidence!!!

I also find it hard to get in2 men's head's that my kid's come 1st & I can't get out at the drop of a hat & need abit of notice to organise child care - HELP!!!!!

Now I dont want a full on relishonship but would like to meet someone who wants something quite casual & have a laugh with!!!!! Any suggession's????

Justask

Timmythedonkey wrote: »

I've been seperated for a year now & started on-line dating about 4 month's ago. I started online dating as I don't get 2 go out much and am not very fleixible when it come's to going out! (I.E. KIDS)

Now I have to say I have had a ball at the begining but now begining to get bored and think there's no one out there for me!!!!! It seem's that there's plenty of 20 something's who want the experiance of an older woman!!!! At the beg it was a very BIG booost to the old confidence!!!

I also find it hard to get in2 men's head's that my kid's come 1st & I can't get out at the drop of a hat & need abit of notice to organise child care - HELP!!!!!

Now I dont want a full on relishonship but would like to meet someone who wants something quite casual & have a laugh with!!!!! Any suggession's????

Over in 'The gentlemans lounge' there is a thread of over 300 pages with loads of tips.

You should have a look at it Its entertaining if nothig else

nicechick!

Timmythedonkey wrote: »

I've been seperated for a year now & started on-line dating about 4 month's ago. I started online dating as I don't get 2 go out much and am not very fleixible when it come's to going out! (I.E. KIDS)

Now I have to say I have had a ball at the begining but now begining to get bored and think there's no one out there for me!!!!! It seem's that there's plenty of 20 something's who want the experiance of an older woman!!!! At the beg it was a very BIG booost to the old confidence!!!

I also find it hard to get in2 men's head's that my kid's come 1st & I can't get out at the drop of a hat & need abit of notice to organise child care - HELP!!!!!

Now I dont want a full on relishonship but would like to meet someone who wants something quite casual & have a laugh with!!!!! Any suggession's????

I have what I would describe as a love hate relationship with online dating! At the start its fantastic a new experience lots of potential flirts/date and its fun

1. I find ''tunnel vision'' comes into it most be become have this perception of there ideal mate as such and I think for most they will actually cut themselves off from meeting a potential love interest
2. persons are to quick to judge photos, chemistry is so important and you have to like what you see but deciding you don't like the look and not making the effort can go against you (I admit I ehh have done this however my friend shamed me one day when I made a passing comment on a photo, I met the person and jaysus he was beautiful fecking gorgeous though we definitely weren't a match personality wise I learned that you should never judge by photo and would meet men based on there actual e-mails/chats etc)
3. The longer you mail the less likely you will meet and when if you do meet more often then not it turns out to be friendship! its likely for many we have enough friends as is!
4. The disappointment that comes attached when you realise that the person is nothing like your vision or how they describe themselves
5. It is difficult to hmmm to avoid the needy! (pet hate of mine I don't do needy men!) the insecure, the married, the players, the trolls, the stalkers (And yes they exist)

Now! though that seems so negative there are positives

6. You meet and enjoy interacting with others socially on a different social setting its a breath of fresh air to meet other personality's/characters whether romance comes into it or not (do pop along to the occasional singles night they are fun! I know you will struggle to make time but ditch the predictable social night out with friends as well your in good company its less likely you'll meet potential flirts!)
7. The laughs, the tears, the drama and you will make friends along the way are in making of good memories and will make you a better person
8. For many online they are genuine and interested in meeting a potential flirt that could lead to romance
9. Its a great source of entertainment when the weathers ****e, tellys ****e or your kids are in bed when your bored!!
10. There is a chance that you may actually meet someone

My advice keep an open mind! Try not to pass judgement (its hard its human nature) until you meet persons as ya just never know! Meet persons in a location your familiar with never in your home, don't disclose information such as work place location as hmmm you still need to be careful with personnel information but that applies in life in general doesn't it. And hun your worth that wait if they want to pursue you most men actually will understand that you can't just drop everything you have a life out of the whole pursuit of some romance! So widen that search! Good luck