Concerned my kiss will put her off....

LegacyUser

Okay so I've been dating this girl for a short time, but we have become so close despite having not known each other long. We have such a connection and she seems to really like me. The flirting has been quite intense.

Anyway so I know that soon the time is going to come where I will have to kiss her. Now there is two problems here.. Firstly I have not kissed anyone before so this would be my first time (she does not know this). And secondly.. even though my teeth overall are close to perfect, the canine on the right side of my mouth is positioned upwards in the gum. It's high position means that it is generally not too noticeable when I talk or even smile (provided I do it the right way). However I fear that this will be felt during a kiss, and I am worried that it will put her off me..

It also doesn't help that she is American and has almost perfect teeth..

This is really getting me down guys. I have been told I am attractive (and I know this girl finds me so) but I fear this will just ruin the attraction.. What do I do??

LegacyUser

I reckon if you're a good looking guy it'll be easy enough to go out and pull a below average girl and kiss her first, just to show you the way.
If not, just keep it conservative and do what she does, she wont feel your tooth, so stop worrying!

Canard

I think one of my teeth is like that (I have a tooth higher up than the rest), but its never been a problem. The only time I've ever felt teeth in a kiss is when one/both people go too fast and the front teeth collide. :P

I'd say everyone is nervous before their first kiss, but there really is nothing to it. You could just tell her, I'm sure she'd be cool with it

Good luck!

gypsy_rose

I have proper vampire fangs and can kiss just fine! Honestly, don't worry about it. Your best bet if you're worried is just to not use too much tongue, just go with your instinct and relax, everyone has felt this for their first kiss, trust me it'll me Ok

beks101

A case of overthinking it to death. Kiss the girl. Slowly and sensually and passionately and don't go hell for leather like a washing machine. Gentle caressing of her face, neck, shoulder, hair. Tease, explore, pull her into you. Just bloody kiss her and stop putting it off.

Count Duckula

If you like this girl then you have to hope she's a reasonable, lovely girl. That being the case, there's nothing wrong with telling her that this would be your first kiss, and would she go easy on you. She might be flattered that (1) you're choosing to have your first ever kiss with her, and (2) that you liked her enough to tell her that.

If she decides she wants a more "experienced" kisser, then perhaps she's not as nice as you think anyway.

Seriously, if there's chemistry between two people - and from what you say there definitely is - then she's not going to care if you've kissed before. Just make sure that when you do, you take it slow, don't use too much tongue and just enjoy the moment. A good kiss is one of the best things in the world.

Alter-Ego

As other posters have said, regarding the kiss, just go with it. Don't over think it or try anything fancy.

Regarding the teeth thing, it'll make little or no difference. I have an awful set of Shane MacGowan's (Maybe not that bad, but far from perfect) and I've been told I'm a good kisser.

Let us know how you get on.

LegacyUser

this may sound incredible juvenile but it is the best kissing advice i ever got:

"open your mouth and copy what they're doing. resist the urge to get creative."

bird_on_a_wire

I was 17 when I had my first kiss, I was presented with many other opportunities before hand to have it but my fear of turning someone off by kissing them with a lack of inexperience just delayed the whole process!
I was literally terrified that I would be judged straight away for something stupid like turning my head the wrong way.. I thought about it too much.

When I had my first kiss I was so nervous before but when it happened it just came naturally. You will just follow your partner and you'll know what to do. Don't mess up your chance of kissing this girl by worrying about it too much just go for it!
As for you tooth, don't worry teeth rarely come into kissing she's not going to have her tongue under your lower lip!

Little Acorn

Do not worry about your tooth. She won't even notice it whilst kissing.
Clean teeth and a fresh breath are much more important. You'll be grand OP!:)

LegacyUser

Woah I forgot about this thread. Thanks for the advice guys.

I still have yet to kiss her.. but we have a date tonight. I'm taking her to this music venue but I have been wondering about the best moment to kiss her. She is going away on friday for the weekend so I won't see her for a bit and ideally I'd like to make a move before this so I can have peace of mind while she is away..

I'm thinking either while on the train there or back. Or as we get back to the door (we are currently living in the same household by the way).

I'm also wondering if I should kiss her on the cheek first, or just go straight in for the lips?

Beruthiel

Trapani wrote: »

I'm also wondering if I should kiss her on the cheek first

If you were meeting up with her in town somewhere, then the above would be what you would do as a greeting.

or just go straight in for the lips?

As you are currently living in the same house, straight for the lips.

Read beks101's comments again, they are pretty spot on.
Oh, and get on with it, she won't wait forever!