too Early?

LegacyUser

Hi out of an 8 year relationship 3 months ago. OH broke up with me. Met someone who i like but friends have said it is too early to start to see someone and really need to just sleep around. I have met the new person a number of times since we first met and I still very much fancy the person. Should I stop seeing the person? Is it too soon?

curlzy

Hey OP,

I met my boyfriend 2 months after getting out of a 5 year relationship. I'm with my bf over 5 years now. I would say if you're still broken hearted and can't get over your ex then yeah it's too soon. If you are mostly over him and really like the new guy then go for it. For all you know he's the one, I know my guy is, I would have missed out on the best thing that's ever happened to me if I had gone by the imaginary rules of breaking up:). Do whatever feels right for you.

Best of luck.

Abi

Too Early wrote: »

Hi out of an 8 year relationship 3 months ago. OH broke up with me. Met someone who i like but friends have said it is too early to start to see someone and really need to just sleep around. I have met the new person a number of times since we first met and I still very much fancy the person. Should I stop seeing the person? Is it too soon?

I don't see the problem with it if you think you're ready. I'd advise taking things slowly of course.

IrishEyes19

Really just sleep around???
You really dont need to do anything you dont want to. People break up all the time in different ways and some people bounce back on their feet in no time and others take a long time. If you have met someone you like now, and its going well, take it as fast or as slow as YOU want and dont listen to what your friends are telling you what to do. Im all for taking advice of those close to you, but sometimes your own judgement can be enough too. As long as you are happy, safe and enjoying it. Go for it. Who knows what could happen

All about Eve

No its not too soon depending on if your still in love with your ex partner... and as for sleeping around , thats ridiculous unless of course you want to sleep around. But what exactly do you get out of sleeping around? nothing much (unless you meet a man who is fantastic at sex) and a reputation.
I was in an 8 year relationship and I ended it. I met my husband 2 months later and got married shortly after. Dont let something good pass you by.

I am a friend

All about Eve wrote: »

No its not too soon depending on if your still in love with your ex partner... and as for sleeping around , thats ridiculous unless of course you want to sleep around. But what exactly do you get out of sleeping around? nothing much (unless you meet a man who is fantastic at sex) and a reputation.
I was in an 8 year relationship and I ended it. I met my husband 2 months later and got married shortly after. Dont let something good pass you by.

Great advice. Not everyone needs to sleep around but I guess they just wanted you to 'experience life'. I would not ruin a good thing for the sake of their advice.... Take it slowly though....

_Kaiser_

Too Early wrote: »

Hi out of an 8 year relationship 3 months ago. OH broke up with me. Met someone who i like but friends have said it is too early to start to see someone and really need to just sleep around. I have met the new person a number of times since we first met and I still very much fancy the person. Should I stop seeing the person? Is it too soon?

I'd echo the sentiments of the others - you're ready when YOU'RE ready, not when others or some imaginary rulebook says you are.

As for your friends "advice" - by all means if you just want to have some fun then go for it as I'm sure you'll find no shortage of willing men. Me I'm a firm believer that as long as the two people involved are enjoying themselves and know where they stand, then it's no one elses business what goes on between them.

What I find ironic however is how if a guy has this casual no-strings attitude he's opening himself to all sorts of abuse from probably these same type of women who are suggesting you do exactly the same! :rolleyes:

Equality eh?

Liam Byrne

Too Early wrote: »

Hi out of an 8 year relationship 3 months ago. OH broke up with me. Met someone who i like but friends have said it is too early to start to see someone and really need to just sleep around. I have met the new person a number of times since we first met and I still very much fancy the person. Should I stop seeing the person? Is it too soon?

If it feels like a rebound to you, then play it slowly.

If it's just what your friends are saying, feck 'em.....regardless of whether or not it goes anywhere you're missing out on a nice time with someone you like, and there's always a chance that it might lead somewhere.

Maple

Kaiser2000 wrote: »

What I find ironic however is how if a guy has this casual no-strings attitude he's opening himself to all sorts of abuse from probably these same type of women who are suggesting you do exactly the same! :rolleyes:

Equality eh?

Please let's not turn this thread into a battle of the sexes, keep all responses on topic and directed towards the OP.

Maple