First time: location and other problems

nyarlthotepful

My boyfriend and I are both in college but he shares a room with a sibling and my family are never all out of the house. When we decided to have sex, I never dreamed it would be this difficult to find the time and place to do it. Has anyone else had this problem and if so, how did you resolve it? Any advice would be great. As you can imagine, we'd like to make it a regular thing but things seem to be against us. Thanks.

lace

Hi OP! Sounds like a very difficult situation to be in.

Could you possibly save up and find an excuse for a trip? I don't mean anything extravagant - just a small hotel or b&b somewhere for a night perhaps if you were going to a gig or event. Even something like camping? Keep an eye out on BoardsDeals for offers on hotels etc.

Another option could be to talk to your parents about the possibility of your OH staying over. If ye're both in college I'm guessing ye're 18 or 19 - how reasonable are your parents?

If ye're really running out of options ye could always borrow a key from a friend who has their own place/doesn't live at home or take the car out for a long, secluded drive (though I should remind you - sex in cars or any other place in public is illegal).

I'm sure other posters will have some more creative ideas. I'll try to keep thinking :rolleyes:

Good luck!

Neyite

When I was younger alfresco was pretty much the only option until I started renting, nowadays alfresco would be something to spice up the old love life.

Borrowing a tent is a good idea, bring some romantic nibbles, but dont bring candles! (you can get the fake kind though on ebay)

All about Eve

Oh to be young again, and have this problem!

Wompa1

Whenever I've had a first time I've brought the girl to a nice hotel. You can bring candles, strawberrys etc. and no need to worry about making too much noise...allllll gooooood

petethebrick

lace wrote: »

Hi OP! Sounds like a very difficult situation to be in.

Could you possibly save up and find an excuse for a trip? I don't mean anything extravagant - just a small hotel or b&b somewhere for a night perhaps if you were going to a gig or event. Even something like camping? Keep an eye out on BoardsDeals for offers on hotels etc.

Another option could be to talk to your parents about the possibility of your OH staying over. If ye're both in college I'm guessing ye're 18 or 19 - how reasonable are your parents?

If ye're really running out of options ye could always borrow a key from a friend who has their own place/doesn't live at home or take the car out for a long, secluded drive (though I should remind you - sex in cars or any other place in public is illegal).

I'm sure other posters will have some more creative ideas. I'll try to keep thinking :rolleyes:

Good luck!

You don't even need to save up. There are tons of cheap rooms (50-60euro) in hotels these days. I'm sure you could manage that between the two of you. Check the likes of www.dealpage.ie

squonk

True, a hotel is nicer and you can find cheaper even.

Can I ask, you say you're in college. Are you not both off now though? Definitely go away. Also, consider one of you renting a separate room for the new college year.

ah god I feel old now , I'm just thinking... simpler times

Idbatterim

honestly if he is in college and shares a room with a sibling, I imagine the sibling isnt that young? could he not ask him to maybe give you a few hours alone in room even 1 evening per week? that and if you go to dealpages.ie you can see all deals, there are hotel rooms for like E50 per night!...

IrishEyes19

A lot of student accomodations have nightly rates that arent bad if you just want a weekend away.

gypsy_rose

Alright I know this is kinda bad, but the sibling surely doesn't always spend the night there? If either of you manage to be able to sleep over with just the two of you in the same room just get up really early in the morning and lock the door. If someone asks just say you were getting changed, since it's morning will probably be OK. One of you may need to wear a gag though :P If not ( and this is even scummier, but I'm trying to suggest things other than what have been mentioned) just go to a house party and stay over, lock the door and that's it, people will be too busy getting drunk to notice. Good luck!

mikemac

You can get a hotel room for 50 euro, rooms are very cheap these days, lots of deals going on

It's your first time, lay off the drink for a week or two and get that 50 euro together