Student practically asked me out... I think??

LegacyUser

So I'm a man, almost 22, and living at my parents house. Recently my parents began taking in foreign students during the summer (since last year).

Well a few american girls arrived just yesterday and I instantly found myself attracted to one of them. During dinner that night, I got the feeling she was glancing at me a lot, and I caught her a few times too. It got me wondering but I didn't think too much of it.. I didn't talk to her much then either as she seemed shy (as am I).

However today after running into her in the hall, she said hi and properly introduced herself. Then, before saying much else, she asks me if she can tag along with me to my next gig (I'm a musician). I was kind of in shock cause I've never had a girl as pretty as her show interest in me before, but I of course said that she could. I also stated that I may not have a gig for a while, but I could show her some footage of my past gigs and she said she'd like that.

I haven't talked much to her since. Not much was said during dinner tonight because all the other girls were around too and I felt uncomfortable.

I'm really bad at this kind of thing guys!!! I'm socially awkward and I've never been in a relationship or dated before, and I'm just completely inexperienced. So could use some advice as to how to proceed with this!?

And of course... Do you think she is definitely interested in me from what I have just described?

Thanks.

LegacyUser

Hey Op,

from what you said, it sounds like she just wants to hang out. She's here in the country on her own? If so, she's probably just looking to make friends, either way, it doesn't really sound like a date from what you said so far.

that's not to say it couldn't turn into one - just don't get your hopes up just yet, go with it, enjoy her company and if something happens then great!

Miss Fluff

Don't want to burst your bubble here OP but I wouldn't be under the impression that this is a date, sounds to be like she is being friendly and wants to hang out. I wouldn't be getting your hopes up about it being anything romantic. By the same token, of course there is a possibility that it could develop but at this early stage I'd just see it for what it is, a chance to hang out.

Kevin Duffy

Not much in that to say one way or another what she's thinking, but since you have an offer to take her to a gig, you have a great chance to find out.
Don't dive in feet first, but don't close off the possibilities either. Take her to the gig, enjoy yourselves, see what happens.

LegacyUser

Op here.

That is odd, I wasn't expecting these kind of replies as I have had the opposite response on another forum. This makes me wonder if it's to do with the culture differences?

On the other forum, I had dozens of people flock in and tell me there is no doubt she's interested. And this would be on a primarily american based forum.

Also to add, she does not seem to be very chatty to any of the other members of my household. When they try talk to her she answers their questions and that's about it. I actually got a surprise when she started talking to me, and was even intimidated how talkative she was.

So I don't know now.. Do you still think that she is not interested in me in that way?

I have been planning since last night about asking her if she'd like to come and watch my gig footage (which I said I could show her during our initial convo). Not sure if I should now? And should I avoid bringing her into my room to show it (it's on my computer)?

Wompa1

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Op here.

That is odd, I wasn't expecting these kind of replies as I have had the opposite response on another forum. This makes me wonder if it's to do with the culture differences?

On the other forum, I had dozens of people flock in and tell me there is no doubt she's interested. And this would be on a primarily american based forum.

Also to add, she does not seem to be very chatty to any of the other members of my household. When they try talk to her she answers their questions and that's about it. I actually got a surprise when she started talking to me, and was even intimidated how talkative she was.

So I don't know now.. Do you still think that she is not interested in me in that way?

I have been planning since last night about asking her if she'd like to come and watch my gig footage (which I said I could show her during our initial convo). Not sure if I should now? And should I avoid bringing her into my room to show it (it's on my computer)?

Go for it. One thing to note though, American girls are friendly...they can talk to guys without it being for a hook up.

You could get her around to it though! Any American girl I've talked to has been very very easy to talk to. The fact she's from somewhere else gives you a lot to ask her about and for you to be able to listen and let her sound off about it. Show her tapes from your gigs and get talking. Take it slow and try to see if there's any signals. Good luck

squonk

Agreed! American girls are very friendly and you can hold a decent conversation with them. Hang out, enjoy your time together and see where it leads because you're only at that 'just met' stage so get to know her.

I have to say I've found american girls to have a certain charm that's missing from Irish women so I wonder if you're thinking the same and latching onto that as well.

In any case, so the stuff is in your room, so what! Sit down and watch it. Let things pan out as they will. See what happens!

I'll put it another way, you might like her now, but spend an afternoon hanging out with her and you might find some things that annoy you, you never know.

All I'm saying is don't overthink it. Just get out and enjoy yourself and enjoy hanging out with this lady! Have fun!

LegacyUser

OP again.

So long story short... I asked her for a drink and she said yes!

Basically I invited her into my room to watch the footage I said I'd show her. We talked in my room for close to half an hour, and towards the end I asked if she'd be up for a drink sometime. She said she'd love to.

So we're going tomorrow night! She asked if I'd like to join her and her friends in the town tonight, but I think I managed to smoothly opt out of that. Basically I said there's a better place (that's quite a walk away) that I'd like to take her to tomorrow night. And she agreed

What say you, guys?? Is the interest there for certain now?

If so, can you offer any advice for tomorrow please??

dixiefly

You have done ok so far. I would say your chances with her are good. You may need to make a move reasonably quickly because if you go out to a pub and come across as a "friend" then some other guy might reckon she is easy picking and that would leave it awkward for you for the rest of the summer.

So you may need to arrogantly give out vibes that you were there first (even if it is against your nature!)

smiles302

Assuming the pub goes well, throw in the word date when arranging the next hang out.

A couple of my friends from the states were shocked that Irish people could consider themselves dating without having gone on "real" dates. (Meaning both parties having said that it is a date / or being somewhere obviously meant to be romantic)