Dunno what to do :Z ( long text )

unknowntoown

So im 17 years old , 18 in 2 months time and ive been with my gf for 18 months almost 19 ina few days.

anyway shes 18 just turned it a month ago
shes been going out as you do, it doesnt bother me as i do my own thing with my mates anyway

for the past almost 2 years since ive known her there has been 4 fellas who i tell her not to text or talk to cause they always try it with her even on text they chat her up and she PLAYS along with it
now dont get me wrong im not over pretective but she just doesnt like to be mean and tell the fellas to stop trying and all so sometimes she plays along
i caught her twice with it and she started big fights over it making it out as im in the wrong when its clearly her fault. this aint the issue though as she no longer texts them and im over it

my issue is i really dont know if i want to be with her or not.

on the positive part - i love her too bits , im what you call a player , i basicly was only ever in 2 relationships and the rest were just for fun.
except she was different she won me over and me heart is out to her only. we went away there about a month ago i brought her on holiday for her birthday with me for a week, living together , no fights nothing just pure fun. We have our laughs we know how to have fun, we go out every now an again with our mates (nacker drinking or gaf) and have a buzz.
the sex is good and ive never been as close to any girl in me life. I can see my self living with her the rest of me life

heres where i dunno if i want to be with her

when we fight, WE FIGHT ,shes very stubborn she wont talk to me for hours on end she just sits there gets smart and cheeky even if she knows shes in the wrong everything trys to get turned on me , i dont let her talk down on me though i fight back. we fight id say twice a month average on stupid little things she starts which really annoys me. but we have our bad months like this month we must of fought everyday i seen her and it wasnt much since i had me leavin,
also im sure as hell going clubbin when i turn 18 with my mates and i want to enjoy my youth been single with no worries while im drunk or anything and just have a pure laugh

so basicly i love this girl to bits i have ever since the start and the spark is still there til this day even if we fight, i can see myself being with her for the rest of me life BUT i also sometimes think about wanting to be single while in college and going out on the piss with my mates

id never cheat on her but there were times were i was tempted when it was offered, like today my mate came to my gaf, with 2 girls, 1 he was meeting and the other had a fella so she just came along,
anyway we all had a laugh got talking and the girl who had a fella tryed to lean over and kiss me, but i turned away quickly knowing id have guilt
i even told my gf and she understood so their wasnt a fight about it
what im saying is i was tempted as the girl was beautiful but i couldnt bring me self to do it while i was in a relationship
and believe me in my past it wasnt difficult at all i normaly wouldnt care
but this proves that i do have feelings towards her

any advice is appreciated

annetted

well ye are both young but as long as ye are happy together that is the main thing. i know a few couples who started going out together when they were 17/18 and they ended up getting married. i guess ye just have to decide if being in a steady relationship is what ye want. have a talk to your girlfriend, find out if she is happy. but you said ye have big arguments, that would be head wrecking so ye could try and work on that..

some fellas love being foot loose and free - you just have to decide would you prefer that life to the life you have now with your girlfriend.. good luck..

funki_munkee

Id break up wit her! Sorry I know it sounds harsh but like you need to enjoy your youth! I met da lad im with when i was really young wouldn break up wit him for da world, know il prob be wit him for good but I do regret not being able to do some things my friends can eg. girly holidays away and all that! Think you should break up and live it up. Plenty of time for settling down when your 30 or 40 dont ruin urself now your only 18! Especially if your headed to college, if ya are a player as u said, you're guna love it. And fair play to you for not cheating btw but if your already having second thoughts about your girlfriend,temptation might get harder to resist and you dont want to hurt this girl!

Silverfish

funki_munkee, please don't use text speak on this site, thanks

Turtwig

unknowntoown wrote: »

...i love her too bits...

If this is true then don't do anything that could jeopardise it, end of.

There's always going to be temptations for you and there's going to be temptations for her too. I can't help but ask if you find it a little hypocritical to deny her texts or chats with lads that might fancy her when you seem to want to engage in the same activity anyway?

unknowntoown

Malty_T wrote: »

If this is true then don't do anything that could jeopardise it, end of.

There's always going to be temptations for you and there's going to be temptations for her too. I can't help but ask if you find it a little hypocritical to deny her texts or chats with lads that might fancy her when you seem to want to engage in the same activity anyway?

Im 17 mate, i will jeopardise nothing, as i know its not the end of the world and im young . i can move on not a bother , she broke up with me before and i almost moved on after 2 weeks because its my way of getting over someone quicker, a rebound.
but em ya temptations , nope not for her anyway she just cant tell fellas to f off if ya know what i mean but shes not tempted very easily

hypocritical : sorry i should of explained my self futher about this, i can see your point as i didnt explain why i dont let her text those 4 specific fellas
she does not aloud me to see my girl-friends ever unless shes out with me
so basicly if one of my girl mates texts me she gets very annoyed over it, even though its just normal talk, no chatting up nothing.
in a relationship im sure as you know theres rules for both people involved
if she ever said to me im not aloud go clubbing on my own id say the same too her, it has to work both ways other wise its not a proper relationship.
if i cheated on her and she said it too me then thats fair enough
so basicly im not aloud to my girl mates so i dont allow her to text those 4 fellas. im not a control freak i understand she can text anyone she wants its her right as well as its mine but we both know if i text my girl mates it will start a fight or if she texts one of those 4 fellas it will start a fight
so therfore we dont do it. and were happy enough about it.

we work together to get through things and we have our fights
but i do love her to bits but at the same time id like to be single.
and i cant have an open relationship before anyone asks thats a no no.

thanks for all the replies so far im seriously thinking of what you people said just have to come down to a decision