confused,confused,confused

LegacyUser

Well this is my problem, A few weeks ago me and a mate were having a joke between us, Practical jokes like.. Anyway I egged his car (ashe did to me) and he lost it and was really pissed, anyway that has been all forgiven and that happened like 3 weeks ago. since then we have had good chats over the phone, he has stopped to talk to me several times while I was in my garden (cleaning car or whatever) and was very friendly and let me know all the news

But I have asked him to collect me twice this week and he hasnt. He is a mechanic so I usually go and hang round his garage now and then. He has never forgotten to collect me before but he just doesnt now. tuesdayhe stopped to talk to me and let me know his plans for wednesday so I said 'collect me in the morn and we both go' and last night he rang me and told me he was going to the scrapyard at 9.30 and told me to be ready yet this morning at 9.34 he drove right past my house without even attempting to beep or knock at my house..

I don't think he could be forgetful,anyone any thoughts?

Abi

You were throwing eggs at each others cars? thats kinda bizarre OP


If him picking you up was the normal routine, and he's now driving by without stopping, it kinda sounds like he's trying to shake you off. The chances are he's still pissed off about what happened, even if he did retaliate. When he passes again, you could always ask him for a chat and find out if thats whats bothering him.


May I ask how old you both are? it just sounds like an odd situation to be in in the first place..

LegacyUser

well i'm 20 and he is like 30ish thing is I was like the apprentice and helped out and went to the shop and stuff like that..

I just find it strange that he talks to me like he always has, The thing is today my car was broke and he came round and fixed it straight away but as he was going to get the parts he told me ''right i'll be back in an hour'' and didnt even attempt to ask me to go which was strange right? I mean if he was that pissed off he wouldnt fix the car? and before he did the car he had another job on so he wen to that and didnt even ask me for help which I reckon he would have needed.

And on wednesday night he rang me to see how I was and what i was upto. I was with a friend of mine at the time and he told my friend very seriously (friend is a local baddy) 'if you get him in any trouble i'm gonna come after you' and he said this to my friend on 2 seperate occassions since the egg thing.. so he obviousally is looking out for me so i'm just totally confused here...

WindSock

Ask him why he didn't pick you up when he said he would. Seems a bit petty seeing as you both egged each others cars. Is there more to this?

Oryx

Is it possible that he found the whole egging thing a bit childish? Maybe it made him aware of a difference in the way you both behave. It sounds like he looks out for you and tries to do best for you, but maybe doesnt want to be around you in a social way?

LegacyUser

well the egging thing was childish but he did it to me aswell and I told him that i wasnt gonna let it go. I mean he knew I was gonna get him back..

'oryx': you might be right about the social thing but I just find it weird that he has no problem fixing my car and warning people off,

If I was pissed off with someone, wouldnt ya just ignore them and not ring them, do them favours and look out for them?

Abi

Oryx wrote: »

Is it possible that he found the whole egging thing a bit childish? Maybe it made him aware of a difference in the way you both behave. It sounds like he looks out for you and tries to do best for you, but maybe doesnt want to be around you in a social way?

It's starting to look like that alright. At a guess it looks like cars is their point of interest and that may have been the bonding part of the relationship. The egg / car / fight may have high-lighted the gap for the friend, and thought he better put some breathing space between himself and the OP.

It does sound like he's looking out for you OP, but from what you've said it just seems to me that he's setting boundaries since what happened, but doesn't want to fall out with you. Why don't you have another word with him? while you've both said your sorries etc., it may have been done out of pressurized obligation, but the reminents of what happened are still in the back of his mind. If I were you, I'd just say to him 'look I just wanted to say again, that I'm sorry for what happened, it did get out of hand. I'd hate to see it get between us'. I think he'll come back with something similar, but theres no certainty that things will go back to how they were, as something clicked with him with the age gap. Well thats my guess anyway.

JonathanAnon

Why dont you just sit him down, apologise for egging his car, and ask him is there a problem?

Seems to me that he found his egging of your car to be "hilarious", but didnt enjoy the joke so much when the boot was on the other foot..