Another messer!!!

Hannaho

Hi! Guys and Gals, need an objective opinion once again. Met a guy on a hiking festival down the country on June Bank Holiday. We were in the same B & B, and started chating over breakfast. We thought we'd meet up after walks, but that didn't happen. Anyway, a week later he texted me to say the onwer of the B & B gave him my number (she shouldn't have done this). He asked me would I like to go out some time as he had enjoyed chating to me. He texted on a Fri night after the Bank Holiday. I said I couldn't meet that weekend as I had gone home to Wexford, but that I was free the next weekend. He suggested we meet the following Sunday for a hike. I said that was fine as I was away visiting friends in Kilkenny on Saturday. However, had to ring and say that I had forgotten that I was doing some of the service in Church that morning and could we meet after the hike around 1.30/2.00 p.m. He said that was fine as it was only a short hike.

He asked me to stay in contact by text. I texted at 11.00 to say I would be leaving stratight after service at 12 and would see him at about 1.30. I was meeting him half way and the drive was about 35 miles - He had told me that the hike was only 2.5 hrs and would be well over by then as it was starting at 10.30. Got no reply to that txt but thought he might have been out of coverage on the mountain - though the climb was only 100m. When I arrived at our meeting place and he wasn't there, I texted him - no reply. I texted him again at 2.10 p.m. and when there was no reply just sent another text saying that I was going home, wishing him all the best etc.

Got a text from him at 3.00 p.m. to apologise saying that he had left his phone in the car as it was too heavy to carry, and he wanted to carry his camera instead! I thought this was wierd as he had suggested staying in contact by text. He also said the walk started an hour later - although his car was near the village where they were setting off - he didn't even text to say the walk was starting later. Is this wiered or not?

When I eventually looked at my phone at about 7.00 p.m. he had also sent another text asking if he could ring me. I texted back to say I would ring when my children were in bed (he knew I had two children and was a single parent from our chat in the B & . I rang him and we had a nice chat - had quite a lot in common. We talked about meeting up again next weekend.

I said I couldn't do daytime this weekend as my kids were with me and my aunt and sister weren't available to babysit during the day. However, I said I could try and see if one of them would babysit on Saturyday nite. I said I didn't think Friday was a possiblility, though he wanted to go out on Friday, as I thought my sister and aunt were going out. However, I talked to my sister and aunt and they said they could babysit Friday but not Saturday. I texted him and said that I could go on Friday night and that I was happy to go to Runway the film he wanted to see or The Way or I was happy just to go for walk and drink. The next morning he texted me to say he was playing tennis at 7 on Friday. I duly arranged to go out with friends as I rarely give up a night out when I have a babysitter. I didn't reply as I didn't get the time. He then texted me that night saying he was now playing tennis at 8 and it would be finished by 9.30 and he could meet me at 10.30. I told him I had other arrangements made now and that I could maybe meet him after I returned from holidays on 10th July. However, he took the hump and said he didn't want to meet up now. Sorry for long post! Just wondered if anyone else thinks this guy is wierd and has no manners. I'm just getting worried that I see to meet guys who blow hot and cold and seem to treat me like some throway object - see last post. Are there not many nice guys out there who are upfront and nice and don't play cat and mouse games during dating. Or, maybe it's because I'm a single mother and they are stereotyping me - thinking I want a father for my children or a man with money to support us - which I definitely don't.

Sorry again for long post. Just would value some opinions.

I am a friend

Hannaho wrote: »

Just wondered if anyone else thinks this guy is wierd and has no manners.

Yes I do (X 1000)...

Dont entertain him again. He is a total messer and I would also read that landlady the riot act for giving out yout number.

You sound like you hae your head screwed on and its good to give people a chance but he doesnt deserve any more chances...

seenitall

Hi OP,

I'm a single mother too, so I know where you are coming from, but going by your story I wouldn't be all that sure that this guy had set out to mess with your head. He sounds more seriously scatty than anything else, and like he doesn't have a clue about the amount of logistics that a single mother who wants to date has to employ (I say single mother on purpose because the great majority of primary carers/full-time single parents are mothers); so he (somewhat egotistically, yes) took the hump and bailed.

I think at the end there, it was a case of "OK, this seems too complicated at the very start, better leave it be." In any case, he wasn't the guy for you.

If it is weird and no-mannered is open to interpretation, but let's just say that I am not in the least surprised by your story. It's tough out there dating-wise, and double that for us primary carers, as most people can't be bothered with the complication that extra people to be considered bring at the very start of relationships.

It's not so much that they stereotype us, but that they simply want to date women who have no children. As is their right of course, and not too much to ask out of life.

Just my 2 cents, borne out of my experience.

Best wishes for the future.

amdublin

I am a friend wrote: »

Dont entertain him again. He is a total messer and I would also read that landlady the riot act for giving out you.

Yep complete messer. Wouldn't have anything more to do with him unless you want your head wrecked.

Meh.
I wouldn't bother saying anything to the LL. She probably thought she was helping Loves Young Dream or something.

Miss Fluff

A total and utter messer. Good you didn't waste a babysitter on the guy.

He suggested Friday, you agreed and suggested a film. He didn't reply until Friday morning to tell you he had tennis plans that night. He then texted you FRIDAY NIGHT to tell you he could fit you in at half ten (:eek:). And this was after he was a no show on your first date?

Seriously lady, read you post again. BULLET DODGED.

Oh, and just so you know. This isn't the last you'll hear from him either.

Mc Kenzie

ok, to be honest i just think this whole thing was a case that when one person
couldnt attent the other could, and vise versa and this continued to happen "back and forth and back and forth....And even as i was reading i was starting to get tired of wandering when you would both be free at the same time to actually go out.:rolleyes:

If that was me,honestly i would of gotten fed up of this carry on and just left it. I do understand on your part you have children to consider first, however i can understand this guy prob just thaught the same thing would continue and youd never get around to finally go out.

Basicly it just seems to me you were both going round in circles and not getting anywhere:rolleyes: