am i Bi ,or not!

Mc Kenzie

If you are attracted to the Feminine Females when your aroused(cant think of a more polite word:rolleyes:) does that mean im Bi.

I know for definate i like fellas only up untill 2/3 years ago started to braoden my mind". However i would never be interested in a relationship with a female. hence i have been with a girl but she had a boyfriend didnt work out ect.

lex123

u have already been with a girl,there for yes you are bi!

baby and crumble

Only you can answer your question, but if you are attracted to women (not just the 'feminine' ones) and this keeps going when you're a bit hot and bothered/ it makes you MORE hot and bothered, then the liklihood is that you are gay/bisexual/lesbian/ whatever term you use.

Some bisexual people that I know are equally physically attracted to both genders, but can only see themselves settling down or having a relationship with one or the other. That's pretty normal.

lex123 wrote:

u have already been with a girl,there for yes you are bi!

I've been with men but I am a lesbian. One experience does not make you gay or bi, or straight.

Platinum2010

zoegh wrote: »

One experience does not make you gay or bi, or straight.

I agree

lex123

so she was with a girl plus she gets turned on by girls i think thats a sure sign that she is bi,maybe im wrong but thats just my opinion!

lex123

I've been with men but I am a lesbian. One experience does not make you gay or bi, or straight.[/QUOTE]



u HAVE been with men,or are you STILL going with men?

Chuchoter

I think the going out with a girl who had a boyfriend at the same time might have been the bigger issue in the relationship than just that she was a girl. One girl is probably not a good representative of every having another relationship with a girl, so if you are sexually attracted to girls, just go with it. If you like someone go out with them, don't get too caught up in labels. I have this one friend who I personally think is bisexual, but she is so ridiculously caught up in labels and not pissing me off (apparently I'm the authority on whose gay and the rules around that and look angry whenever anything gay comes up in conversation, anywho :P). I think she should just go out with who she likes, forget labels because they're so much hassle and obviously not working for her.

Platinum2010

crayolastereo wrote: »

labels because they're so much hassle and obviously not working for her.

not sure about Labels myself I just know about myself what I know

lex123

why is every1 so hung up on how people have sex anyway?

Mc Kenzie

well i wasnt goingout with that girl, just met up once or twice as i was curiose, also i agree it was another issue that she had a boyfreind.

and YES i am still interested in men now.
i really dont think one expereience can make you anything.

Chuchoter

lex123 wrote: »

why is every1 so hung up on how people have sex anyway?

Because its a part of your identity and its important to understand it.

No, one experience doesn't make you anything, but if you do like girls that doesn't cancel out that you like guys too.

lex123

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

well i wasnt goingout with that girl, just met up once or twice as i was curiose, also i agree it was another issue that she had a boyfreind.

and YES i am still interested in men now.
i really dont think one expereience can make you anything.

i never said 1 experience can make you anyting,but u went back for another experience aswel,the 1st time u were curious and the 2nd time u just wanted more,sure whats the problem anyway?

stephen_n

1 experience! 10 experiences! 100 experiences! None make you anything other than experienced! You are what you choose to be, not the label someone else would choose for you to make their life more convenient!

OP your a person who is attracted to other people and you can call yourself anything you want or not as long as your comfortable with it!

Mc Kenzie

lex123 wrote: »

i never said 1 experience can make you anyting,but u went back for another experience aswel,the 1st time u were curious and the 2nd time u just wanted more,sure whats the problem anyway?

Actually! i met her for a drink first, second time met up was the only time it went any further.:rolleyes:

aw not gonna get to caught up by it thanx for your thaughts n opinions.

im invisible

stephen_n wrote: »

1 experience! 10 experiences! 100 experiences! None make you anything other than experienced! You are what you choose to be, not the label someone else would choose for you to make their life more convenient!

*Joke

I hear you. I laid the foundations for most of the houses on this street, do they call me Angus the Stonemason? No, they do not. I dug wells for half the families in town, do they call me Angus the Water-bringer? No, they do not.
I built bridges over nearly every creek in the county, do they call me Angus the BridgeBuilder? No, they do not.
But you **** one sheep...


/Joke

Kanoe

show me a pic and I'll tell you (not really)

anyone watch the sex researchers documentary on c4 last night? few insights into how the female mind works when it comes to the same sex. It appears that women are not too fussy at all at all. at all.

op, it doesn't really matter what you are. There are very few women I'm physically attracted to, in fact the more I think about it, probably less than most straight women are. if it's a physical thing you're talking about.

baby and crumble

Lex123 wrote:

u HAVE been with men,or are you STILL going with men?

I've been with my girlfriend for 7 1/2 years (exclusively). I am a lesbian, but I have been with men. I was with men when I fancied women, when I was figuring out who I was. My point was not about who I am having sex with, but about illustrating that being curious or experimenting does not 'make' you anything, or mean you are anything but human.

easychair

Gay, bisexual and Str8 are just labels. Why agonise which one you think might best suit you? Why not just get on with your life and leave it to others to make such judgements.

Asry

Kanoe wrote: »

It appears that women are not too fussy at all at all. at all.

Ha! I could've told you that and I'm not a sex researcher

Mc Kenzie

Asry wrote: »

Ha! I could've told you that and I'm not a sex researcher

in what way do you mean not fussy ?

Asry

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

in what way do you mean not fussy ?

As in straight girls love me!

Asry

I do so love the smell of sweeping generalisations on a Sunday afternoon.

Mc Kenzie

:rolleyes:

I reckon girls are fussy

Asry

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

:rolleyes:

I reckon girls are fussy

Killer_banana

It depends what oyu mean by fussy. I took it up as in girls aren't too bothered about the gender of their lover. As in if they fall for/kiss/sleep with e.t.c a girl when all their past experiences have been iwth men they don't see it as too big a deal. I'm not sure if that's completely true but in my experience women are for comfortable in their sexuality and more likely to experiment. I know, I've kissed/been kissed by a few girls who identified and in most cases still identify as straight.

If you mean fussy as in when it comes to piking someone to go out with when it comes to looks and personality and all that jazz then I agree. In my experience they are fussy about those sort of things.

Asry

Killer_banana wrote: »

It depends what oyu mean by fussy. I took it up as in girls aren't too bothered about the gender of their lover. As in if they fall for/kiss/sleep with e.t.c a girl when all their past experiences have been iwth men they don't see it as too big a deal. I'm not sure if that's completely true but in my experience women are for comfortable in their sexuality and more likely to experiment. I know, I've kissed/been kissed by a few girls who identified and in most cases still identify as straight.

If you mean fussy as in when it comes to piking someone to go out with when it comes to looks and personality and all that jazz then I agree. In my experience they are fussy about those sort of things.

Ha looks and personality and all didn't even occur to me. That just goes to illustrate, yet again, that I do have a one-track mind. Or am a teenaged boy trapped in a twentysomething female's body.

But yes, not seeing gender as too big a deal is what I meant.

Platinum2010

Asry wrote: »

Haha ROFL

Mc Kenzie

Killer_banana wrote: »

It depends what oyu mean by fussy. I took it up as in girls aren't too bothered about the gender of their lover. As in if they fall for/kiss/sleep with e.t.c a girl when all their past experiences have been iwth men they don't see it as too big a deal. I'm not sure if that's completely true but in my experience women are for comfortable in their sexuality and more likely to experiment. I know, I've kissed/been kissed by a few girls who identified and in most cases still identify as straight.

If you mean fussy as in when it comes to piking someone to go out with when it comes to looks and personality and all that jazz then I agree. In my experience they are fussy about those sort of things.

Actually i was really only refering to myself, rather than all girls as being fussy. with females i would have a certain type.whereas guys i wouldnt have any specific type, it would depend on the person.

Kanoe

yeah, when I said not fussy I meant more likely to experiment, if you watch the first five minutes of video in the linkage it sorta scientifically proves that they have the horn for pretty much everything :P
Fuck quiltbags I am now classifying myself as a sex researcher.

Platinum2010

haha

Asry

I think I might be a sex researcher too! We could add that to the acronym. LGBTQSR. I'll research YOUR sex for you, wha, I'll say charmingly.

Killer_banana

Asry wrote: »

I think I might be a sex researcher too! We could add that to the acronym. LGBTQSR. I'll research YOUR sex for you, wha, I'll say charmingly.

Hahahahahahah.

I started calling myself an inbetweener lately but then realised everyone will just think of the sitcom. It is a brilliant sitcom but I don't think it is what I want my sexuality t be connected to.

Kanoe

Hi, would you like to be my research partner?
so many possibilities.

I'm looking forward to the rest of the series though. The physiology of female sexuality is one thing but delving into the psychological side of it could well be interesting. I can't tell if she was lying to her vagina or if her vagina was lying to her when she claimed she was only turned on by straight porn but I need to know now. The work of us sex researchers is never done.

lex123

all this **** makes no sense 2 me

Mc Kenzie

Kanoe wrote: »

Hi, would you like to be my research partner?
so many possibilities.

I'm looking forward to the rest of the series though. The physiology of female sexuality is one thing but delving into the psychological side of it could well be interesting. I can't tell if she was lying to her vagina or if her vagina was lying to her when she claimed she was only turned on by straight porn but I need to know now. The work of us sex researchers is never done.

This is getting silly

easychair

Yes, it's going like all the threads on gaire go. They all end up with the guys there lolling and rollyeyes at each other, and the original thread is lost while the same few guys turn every thread into in jokes about each other. At least here most threads are interesting and don't descend into 4th form type pointless chaos.

Kanoe

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

This is getting silly

my comments were a response to the studies discussed in the sex researchers doc. If you watched it you might understand the thrust of the conversation and why I felt it might have been relative to your dilemma. You claim that you find other women sexually arousing and the tests (determined by inserting a plethysmograph into the vagina of subjects) illustrate that women, at least physically, are less inclined to differentiate between the sexes when it comes to sexual arousal. In the studies, women had the opportunity to declare by their own admission how turned on they were and results show that the physical organ response differed to that of the verbal one. which makes one wonder.
I often use humour to lighten discussion where I feel it's appropriate, and the documentary itself had humourous overtones but never as a case against someone else or their issues for sh¡ts and giggles or my own amusement (thats how gaire works) and that's not what this is. I can't speak for anyone else who might have contributed to the thread however.

There's a report post function here too if you're unhappy with the conduct in this thread, I urge you to use it.

Mc Kenzie

Kanoe wrote: »

my comments were a response to the studies discussed in the sex researchers doc. If you watched it you might understand the thrust of the conversation and why I felt it might have been relative to your dilemma. You claim that you find other women sexually arousing and the tests (determined by inserting a plethysmograph into the vagina of subjects) illustrate that women, at least physically, are less inclined to differentiate between the sexes when it comes to sexual arousal. In the studies, women had the opportunity to declare by their own admission how turned on they were and results show that the physical organ response differed to that of the verbal one. which makes one wonder.
I often use humour to lighten discussion where I feel it's appropriate, and the documentary itself had humourous overtones but never as a case against someone else or their issues for sh¡ts and giggles or my own amusement (thats how gaire works) and that's not what this is. I can't speak for anyone else who might have contributed to the thread however.

There's a report post function here too if you're unhappy with the conduct in this thread, I urge you to use it.

I was joking,I did see some of the documentry i thaught it was abit ridiculous and funny. i just think its peculiar though that it is just a physical thing with girls. but do all girls feel like this...or just some? or what

Kanoe

Mc Kenzie wrote: »

I was joking,I did see some of the documentry i thaught it was abit ridiculous and funny. i just think its peculiar though that it is just a physical thing with girls. but do all girls feel like this...or just some? or what

I think everyone is different, would be a shame if we were all the same. I do know a few women where it is just a physical thing either to want or be wanted in a physical way, without any emotional attachment but each to their own, I tend to seek an emotional intimacy just as much, although sexual compatibility is pretty sweet too. and rarely one without the other.

Liberal Irishman

stephen_n wrote: »

1 experience! 10 experiences! 100 experiences! None make you anything other than experienced! You are what you choose to be, not the label someone else would choose for you to make their life more convenient!

OP your a person who is attracted to other people and you can call yourself anything you want or not as long as your comfortable with it!

Excellent answer! To me, this sums the whole thing up.

You are what you choose to be, not the label someone else would choose for you to make their life more convenient!

allydylan

you said you would never be interested in a relationship with a female?
which means you're not bi, too be bi you would have to be physically and emoitonally attracted to females which i don't think you are

easychair

allydylan wrote: »

you said you would never be interested in a relationship with a female?
which means you're not bi, too be bi you would have to be physically and emoitonally attracted to females which i don't think you are

Wow, do you have some sort of psychic powers? If so, it would be great to hear from you on the sceptics forum, and did you know James Randi offers a prize of $1 million to anyone who can demonstrate evidence of psychic powers?