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Just wondering?

  • 17-06-2011 2:30pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Am just wondering if anyone else is followed around by a sense of loneliness in their life? In school and college I always had loads of people around but afterwards I have often had patches of just being very isolated. I don't have any social problems on the surface appear confident and people general warm to me. Its hard to articulate what I am trying to say really. I spend a huge amount of time alone and in some ways quite enjoy my own company but then this pang of loneliness hits me. I have friends and family but I think because I am single I don't always feature in their lives. All my friends too are in couples or have kids.

    At times I do try to be proactive and arrange to meet friends but often I get the "just a quiet night in with the oh tonight" otherwise its me and other couples and I start to feel like a spare part. I have joined stuff to make more friends and we tend to do the whole we should meet up etc but for one reason or another it never happens despite best intentions.

    I usually deal with problems on my own but recently I have started to tell friends and family that I was feeling quite lonely and often at a loose end. They were all sympathetic etc but when I tried to meet up with them I got the usual we having a quiet night with the oh routine maybe in a few weeks kind of thing.

    Am not sure how best to deal with this situation. I know part of me is accepting of it and another part feels like life is passing me by in this lonely bubble.

    I guess I would like to know if others feel like this and also and other advice for me.


Comments

  • #2
    Ave Sodalis
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,555 ✭✭✭Ave Sodalis


    It think you just need to meet new people OP. I don't think you've found someone you truelly connect with yet, be it through a girlfriend or just a friend.

    I went through the same. I was surrounded by people who I got on with really well, but felt all alone at the same time. Then I found a few people and we just clicked and the feeling left after a while.

    Just go out to meet new people, you never know who you might find :) Best of luck


  • #3
    Moonbeam
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,986 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    Are you an only child?

    I think the felings are normal.


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