When best friend gets a girlfriend....

prickleberry

I'm not sure if this really belongs here but anyway, move it if it doesn't. The last day my best friend begun a relationship with a girl. Now i spent a lot of time with my best friend and I don't get to see him much as I'm working a lot and don't see anyone most of the week. Anyway ever since they became a couple I now have no best friend anymore. He won't talk to me, won't call over, he won't do anything with me anymore. It's really taking it's toll on me as other friends aren't available when i'm off so i feel completely alone with nobody to talk to. It's horrible and I just feel like sitting in my room crying, (pathetic I know).

What should I do?

squonk

That's life. Happens us all and friendships change over time. Maybe you should try looking on boards for groups corresponding to your interests and meeting people that way. You need more friends. Get out more and don't put all your eggs in one basket in future.

lace

Hi OP! Maybe your friend just needs time to settle into the relationship. The first few months of any relationship are usually the most intense. It could be that he's just completely wrapped up in this girl at the moment and doesn't feel the urge to see friends. Maybe he wants to prove to her how serious he is about her. Whatever the reason, it probably won't last. As he settles into the relationship he'll probably get back to normal.

However, as the above poster has said, you should try to meet new people and make some new friends. Any friend who cuts all contact the second he gets a girlfriend isn't really a very good friend anyway.

Mc Kenzie

aww i know it feels rubbish but as the others have posted try your best to meet new people you can socialise with. there is no point holding out on this guy. alot of people tend to forget about freinds when they meet someone new but thats life. youll be ok.

StrawberryJazz

prickleberry wrote: »

I'm not sure if this really belongs here but anyway, move it if it doesn't. The last day my best friend begun a relationship with a girl. Now i spent a lot of time with my best friend and I don't get to see him much as I'm working a lot and don't see anyone most of the week. Anyway ever since they became a couple I now have no best friend anymore. He won't talk to me, won't call over, he won't do anything with me anymore. It's really taking it's toll on me as other friends aren't available when i'm off so i feel completely alone with nobody to talk to. It's horrible and I just feel like sitting in my room crying, (pathetic I know).

What should I do?

Unfortunately if your friend's relationship with this girl is good you're no longer the best friend. She is because theyll share things you can't and she can be there for him in ways you can't.

However that doesnt mean you can't be the best guy friend. If you really are that close make a gentle point that you never hang out without sounding like a jealous banshee. Better yet, make sure get on great with his girlfriend.
If she likes you she'll be happy for ye to spend time together.
If she thinks you hate her god help you! *cue evil music*

LegacyUser

I've been there before.

Happened a few times to my friend. I couldn't quite understand his complete change when he'd start dating someone.

The calls would stop. We wouldn't get to hang out. He'd make plans with my and then change them at the last minute to stay in and watch a DVD. Then when he would decide to come out, she'd be there too.

Took a lot of getting used to as when I was going out with someone, I'd always make time for him.

The thing was, I relied too much on that one friendship for my socialising. Now I have many friends and if he's not around, I have other people who I go out with. In fact, they are more fun at times - they're not a replacement but they're more sociable while me and him now are more likely to go for a coffee and a chat.

I get texts from him wondering if I'm around and I'm usually away for weekends doing other things.

Luckily now he's going out with a lovely girl - his last few gfs were nightmares (which added to the frustration).

Go make some new friends - I really wish someone had advised me like this because like you, I was very upset that someone who I had spent so much time with (possibly in a slightly unhealthy way) had dumped me.