Is this girl trouble?

LegacyUser

So heres the situation:

I'm male, 23 and in a long-term relationship and always been faithfull.

2 years ago at a NYE party with my current gf of 5+ years. There was a group of us mixed lads and girls. One of the single girls kept touching my hair and saying "oh my god its so soft I thought it would be hard" (no jokes please) because I had it spiked up.

My gf was furious saying this girl is a sluut, but I ignored it because the girl in question was pissed.

So as the night goes on, I catch the girl looking over at me many times. So maybe she is a sluut due to the fact I'm standing beside my gf. Also try to remember I said two words to this girl at most.

Anyway. Fast forward 2 years to this week. I'm in a club and a girl comes over to me and says "Do you remember me?" I havent the foggyest who this girl is. She goes on to just say the words "From NYE" like I should remember.

And during this night, she makes some stares towards me. My gf who see's what the girl is doing tells me she is looking at me and not to look in her direction.

The thing is. My gf doesnt remember this is the same girl from back then, and I'll will be out with this girl in a club again, due to she's friends of my gf friend.

Is this girl trouble?

Otis Driftwood

She will only be trouble if you allow her to be trouble.

S23

There is absolutely no issue here. You don't know her and you don't want to know her. Leave it at that and it's end of story really.

I am a friend

Your gf sounds like bigger trouble to me.

How dare she tell you where to look / not look. That's just plain weird and unhealthy....

Mc Kenzie

OMG she prob had a few drinks when she was doing that with your hair. its not as if she was touching your leg. maybe she was looking at you cos she fancys you orwho knows, but it really doesnt soundlike she is a threat.

and how rude to say shes a slut you dont even know her.:rolleyes: you and your gf sound a little paranoid in my opinion

Dusty87

I am a friend wrote: »

Your gf sounds like bigger trouble to me.

How dare she tell you where to look / not look. That's just plain weird and unhealthy....

In fairness that could have been something simple so she wouldnt know they were talking about her....

G-Money

As other's have said she won't be trouble unless you let her become trouble. If you find yourself in a situation where you have to talk to her, just be friendly and polite and leave it at that. No harm done.

LegacyUser

WhatsHerDeal wrote: »

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Anyway. Fast forward 2 years to this week. I'm in a club and a girl comes over to me and says "Do you remember me?" I havent the foggyest who this girl is. She goes on to just say the words "From NYE" like I should remember.

But, you do remember her, so....
I agree with the other posters; she's only trouble if allow her to be.

LegacyUser

I agree with most other posters, shes only trouble if you encourage her. She doesnt sound like a slut either by the way. Looking at someone you find attractive is very far from slutty, its human nature. It was probably just silly drunken flirting that made her touch your hair, so what? Your girlfriend must be pretty insecure or untrusting of you if she feels threatened by every woman that shows a passing interest in you.

Mighty_Mouse

My gf was furious saying this girl is a sluut,

I catch the girl looking over at me many times. So maybe she is a sluut due to the fact I'm standing beside my gf.

Both you and your gf are over-reacting drama queens.
If some drunken girl was getting in my space rubbing my head, they would be quickly told to bugger off, end of.
The fact that this has arose as an issue 2 years later is farcical..

My gf who see's what the girl is doing tells me she is looking at me and not to look in her direction.

More drama.

Do you go out often without your gf ever? or hang-out with members of the opposite sex?
How often do you hit the drunken saturday night town & do you never have to deal with attention from the opposite sex?
Because if you did, this tiny incident would pale into significance.

IrishEyes19

wow how loosely you throw around the word slut, just for a girl staring at you and flirting.

Like another poster said, she is only trouble if you let her be. Hence, react to the flirting by flirting back or cheating physically with her.

Otherwise get on with your life and forget about her. If you go out as a group in the future, and she's becoming a bit too flirty, leave.......or politely explain to her that you have a gf and you find it uncomfortable,

Beau

Sounds like you are not used to getting any attention coming from somebody other than your girlfriend.

claireeney

What do u mean is she trouble? She's getting you in trouble because you cant help looking back. She's looking for trouble when she knows you have a GF. If she's trying to be friendly she should be making the effort with your GF as well. I dont know what advice you're really looking for cos you know she could be trouble.
Ive read too many stories not to be highly suspicious of this girl and to some extent you as well!

There's nothing wrong with a girl touching your hair, and there's nothing wrong with a girl looking at you. There's even nothing wrong with a bit of over-friendliness. It certainly would not mean she's a sluut.

However, what speaks volumes is that both you and your gf feel uncomfortable about her behaviour, and that you are both very wary of her. Sometimes people are paranoid, but I'd say the reason both of you have noticed her attitude is because there's something unsettling behind it. I'd steer clear of her if I were you. No need to avoid being out with her, but when you're out with her, don't let her touch your hair, don't look at her, just don't encourage her, and if she's being flirty (which may be totally innocent in her eyes) make it clear that you don't appreciate it.

To be honest most people would lap it up (a bit of attention I mean), but it's nice to see that you're considerate of how it might make your gf feel.

Eve_Dublin

Your pulling drama out of the air here. This is a non issue. A girl was probably or probably not checking you out. So what?