a quick question for the guys

LegacyUser

If a guy hangs out with you all the time(for food,film,conversation)- just the two of you- is he interested? Would he hang out otherwise?
We are good friends presently and I am thinking about more but is he?
It does seem kinda obvious but I sometimes wish there was a clearer sign.
He does tell me all about his recent and continued attempts (all failed so far) with other girls.

Are we in the friend-zone?

Thanks

MitchKoobski

Friend zone with a capital F unfortunately OP.

El Siglo

Op, there is however one way to "break the stalemate" and get out of the friend zone and it involves drink... Lots of drink. I know a chap that was literally friends with a girl for ages, I mean for about seven years. Neither one made a move on each other, even when they were out drinking etc... They both did their own thing and took the piss out of each other over it, like any good friends ("you got with so and so, that was mental what were you on?"). She was always over to the house for movies, pretty much every week for about a year. Anyway, like Geology it required time and pressure, they got pretty sozzled and ended up more or less professing their love for each other and have been together now for about a year (I had to endure the noises for about three weeks). I don't know who made the first move and if you had asked them before would they have ever got together (especially the lad) they would have flat out and said "No". Either way, the moral of the story is, you can get out of the friend zone (if you want), time has a great way of solving these things.

Wolfe Tone

MitchKoobski wrote: »

Friend zone with a capital F unfortunately OP.

Not necessarily.

Guy could just be really nervous or shy. Been that guy myself. Probably beating himself up thinking he is friend zoned.

Could be telling you about girls to try and make you jealous, or to gauge your reaction, to spur you into making a move before his attempts dont fail.


Looks retarded and easy to fix from the outside, when you are the guy anyway, its harder.


Yeah, an Irish solution is to get sh!tfaced.

shellyboo

amisofriendly wrote: »

If a guy hangs out with you all the time(for food,film,conversation)- just the two of you- is he interested? Would he hang out otherwise?
We are good friends presently and I am thinking about more but is he?
It does seem kinda obvious but I sometimes wish there was a clearer sign.
He does tell me all about his recent and continued attempts (all failed so far) with other girls.

Are we in the friend-zone?

Thanks

The only 100% clear sign (since you can't get inside his head) is him saying "Yes, I like you as more than a friend".

And the only way for him to say that is for you to ask him... "do you like me as more than a friend?"

One sentence, 10 seconds. That's all it takes.

finbarrk

Correct advice from Shellyboo. You won't regret it. You will know where you stand. And nothing serious said anyway.