To make a move or not to

LegacyUser

So confused over a guy! I have been living and working with a German guy now for 3 months, we work in a fairly isoloated area but with a good few other people. Anyway I didnt like him at first but for the past month I have found I am really liking him. Just everything about him appeals to me, he is smart, funny, caring, kind, honest, really hard working, so assertive, stong and good looking to

But I cant figure out if he likes me, he is very inexperienced with women so I dont know if he doesnt know how to act around women or he is flirting. It seems like he is flirting....or maybe I want it to be flirting. He smiles a lot around me and we have silly little jokes, like really silly childern jokes but I love it. He really brightens my day. I've even been day dreaming about how a relationship Ireland to Germany could work!!

We are nearly finished our research and tomorrow night we are going to the town to celebrate then he flies back to Germany on Tuesday. I already know I am going to miss him.

But I dont know if I should tell him how I feel or not? I will be fairly hurt if it has all been in my head. I've tried sussing out from co-workers if he likes me or not but that hasnt been much help. A few guys used to rip the piss out of us for flirting like 'ah here get back to work ye can flirt later' that sort of stuff.

Really dont know what to do any advice greatly appreciated!!

Thanks

squonk

Hi OP,

I'm thinking you might just be infatuated. I don't see any real indication from what you said that he likes you.

It sounds like you're both involved in a project and keep to yourselves all day every day in some small corner of an area. I've been in situations like that before and you end up having a closer than average working relationship with the person you're working with. In my case it'd have been guys so your issue wouldn't have come up but when you're in the thick of something and working together, it creates a stronger than normal bond.

It sounds like you got on well and I think the childish jokes is some of that. You were both obviously very much at ease and enjoying each other's company. I think though that amongst any working group who are getting on well you'll get a few childish jokes repeated over and over the odd time so I don't see anything too significant in this really.

Have you ever discussed anything about how you both felt or has he said something that would lead you to think there might be something more?

You just haven't sold me OP by what you said and it sounded more like your wanting there to be something than that there was an inkling of something actually being there.

IrishEyes19

squonk wrote: »

Hi OP,

I'm thinking you might just be infatuated. I don't see any real indication from what you said that he likes you.

It sounds like you're both involved in a project and keep to yourselves all day every day in some small corner of an area. I've been in situations like that before and you end up having a closer than average working relationship with the person you're working with. In my case it'd have been guys so your issue wouldn't have come up but when you're in the thick of something and working together, it creates a stronger than normal bond.

It sounds like you got on well and I think the childish jokes is some of that. You were both obviously very much at ease and enjoying each other's company. I think though that amongst any working group who are getting on well you'll get a few childish jokes repeated over and over the odd time so I don't see anything too significant in this really.

Have you ever discussed anything about how you both felt or has he said something that would lead you to think there might be something more?

You just haven't sold me OP by what you said and it sounded more like your wanting there to be something than that there was an inkling of something actually being there.

You cant exactly call the OP infactuated either, basing it on her post :rolleyes:

Just go out have a good night and see what happens, OP, if he's going home, getting involved now might just set you up for heartbreak though. Best to keep that in mind too:)

bigbaz

whatever you do,tell him how you feel,then youll know where you stand and you can be together or get on with your life,you dont ask,you wont get simple as!