Dating Dilema

LegacyUser

Right so ive been single about a year and now I find myself Juggling between 3 very nice girls but I just dont know which one to go with and I know i'm going to have to let 2 of them down and tell them i'm with someone else which is going to make me out to be a let down, what would you do in this situation? go on more dates with them all and do a process of elimination? just to point out i havent slept with any of them yet, thanks

Miss Fluff

Go on a few more dates with them if not sure. Don't sleep with any of them. Don't lead any of them on or make promises of exclusivity or anything else until you make your mind up and then make your decision.

Emme

Isn't dating :rolleyes: wonderful? I hope you haven't led any of the women to believe that they're exclusive, OP. I suppose you could continue to see all three until you make up your mind, but be sure and let all three know you're seeing two other girls. This might lead one or two of them to bail out leaving you with one or two to choose from. But Sod's Law being what it is, the one you like most is most likely to bail out if you let the girls know the true situation.

Good luck - but in my opinion the girls need it more. It's so hard to meet somebody who's willing to commit to an exclusive relationship these days.

fairyelf

Isn't that the point of dating.... going on a few!! As long as you are not hurting any one enjoy and don't bother telling them, they could be doing the same thing! Its like a pair of shoes u try some on jst to see how they feel, sometimes u have to walk around in them for a bit to be sure, before u buy! The right one will fit and u'll know and then buy!

Emme

fairyelf wrote: »

Isn't that the point of dating.... going on a few!! As long as you are not hurting any one enjoy and don't bother telling them, they could be doing the same thing! Its like a pair of shoes u try some on jst to see how they feel, sometimes u have to walk around in them for a bit to be sure, before u buy! The right one will fit and u'll know and then buy!

As long as the OP is honest and each girl knows that he's seeing other people until he tells them otherwise. Of course he's free to date any other girls he likes as well while he's making up his mind!:rolleyes:

I personally don't like the American model of dating, I think it's calculating, passionless and takes the fun and spontaneity out of meeting somebody but maybe I'm just old fashioned. It's a commitmentphobe's charter. OK, going on one or maybe two dates with a few people to see if you like somebody with a bit of overlap between dates is fine, but stringing several people along for weeks isn't fair to anyone.

Dating these days is almost like a conveyor belt. One guy I know rang me on a Saturday morning and asked me for a date that afternoon because his afternoon date had cancelled :eek: Charming!

I know a guy who took this to extremes. He'd meet one girl for lunch, then another for coffee from 6.30-8.00, after that he'd meet another for drinks from 8.30 till about 10.00. He went through so many that he probably shouted "NEXT!" at the end of each date like a director conducting auditions. After a month of this he eventually chose one girl and they're now dating exclusively but she doesn't let him out of her sight!:D

Partizan

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Go on a few more dates with them if not sure. Don't sleep with any of them. Don't lead any of them on or make promises of exclusivity or anything else until you make your mind up and then make your decision.

sound advice there OP. I was in that dilemma with 2 girls about four years ago and I slept with both of them. At the time I was on a temporary breakup from an ex and my head was all over the place. I met both girls from work (were contract cleaners, both EE girls) the first girl, Eva, mid 20s nice girl and the second Christina, early 30s, single mum, very attractive. I had a fun 2 months with both of them before I got back with the ex and we stayed together for over a year before we eventually broke up. I bumped into Christina in town 2 years later and she was happy in a relationship.

My advice to you OP is to have fun but be careful, eventually you will have to choose but choose wisely.

Emme

Partizan wrote: »

sound advice there OP. I was in that dilemma with 2 girls about four years ago and I slept with both of them. At the time I was on a temporary breakup from an ex and my head was all over the place. I met both girls from work (were contract cleaners, both EE girls) the first girl, Eva, mid 20s nice girl and the second Christina, early 30s, single mum, very attractive. I had a fun 2 months with both of them before I got back with the ex and we stayed together for over a year before we eventually broke up. I bumped into Christina in town 2 years later and she was happy in a relationship.

My advice to you OP is to have fun but be careful, eventually you will have to choose but choose wisely.

It was more than your head was all over the place by the sounds of things :rolleyes:

At least the OP is showing some respect for the girls he's dating.

Ickle Magoo

Emme, it is for the OP to take all advice on board and come to their own conclusions. Please stop moralising at other posters.