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Complicated situation

shanty_boys · 2011-05-31 15:52:51

Hi guys, wondering if you can help... I am madly in love with a girl. But as always theres a catch. I've known her for about 4/5 years and we get on like a house on fire. We have so much in common with each other, a lot of the same interests and we talk for hours about everything and there isnt anything we havent shared.…

31-05-2011 3:52pm

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shanty_boys

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Hi guys, wondering if you can help...

I am madly in love with a girl. But as always theres a catch. I've known her for about 4/5 years and we get on like a house on fire. We have so much in common with each other, a lot of the same interests and we talk for hours about everything and there isnt anything we havent shared. For as long as i've known her she has had a boyfriend. We have always been extremely close and she has told me many times that she had strong feelings for me and thought she was in love with me. We never acted upon it but have always remained in contact. Now she has broken up with her boyfriend and it seems like a messy one. But i dunno what i should do. I know me and her together would be so good. Im afraid though of messing it up. Plus im afraid of going in strong and then her getting back with her boyfriend.

Any advice?

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#2 31-05-2011 3:59pm

Alter-Ego

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Just be her friend for a while, she probably need one right now. You don't want to be the rebound guy either.

Also, she's just broke up with her boyfriend, if she doesn't have feelings for you and you make a move it will affect your friendship and she'll have lost a friend as well a BF and its never nice to lose a friend. It could get messy.

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#3 31-05-2011 9:43pm

Fentdog84

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Agree with the previous poster. Be her friend and see what happens from there. When the dust has settled on all this, perhaps then make your move. You dont know what she'll do yet, she could end up back with him. So thread carefully. Defo dont go barging in like a wrecking ball.

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#4 31-05-2011 10:41pm

deepeedublin

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i would say, be her friend, but let her know where you are at in terms of your feelings for her, (as long as she isnt heartbroken), if you say nothing, she can fall into another rel*ip and you will be left waiting again, good luck!

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#5 01-06-2011 12:17am

japasca

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Congrats on squirming your way in between this girl and her boyfriend op!
You put in the groundwork so i say strike while the iron is hot!

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#6 01-06-2011 1:26pm

Ickle Magoo

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japasca, if you have no constructive advice for the OP beyond snide digs then kindly refrain from posting.

If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the [URL=" http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056181484"]forum rules[/URL] in the charter.

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