God damn it Facebook! I hate you!

LegacyUser

I need advice on facebook addiction. I have it.
I realised a few months ago, facebook made me a mad person and it damaged my self eestem.
I find it a very shallow place to be and Ive had enough.

I never hear from friends unless its about a night out. And the night out is only for pictures for facebook..No conversation.

I feel FB has taken a very nasty turn (IMO) lately with "shifting pages" and "ireland wetsers" and all this crap, I mean, im in no way conservative but the stuff ive seen...screams mortification, and people are ok with that carry on?

I think it has upset me cause Ive seen what people are truly like. I mean, nastily like. For example, I stopped being friends with someone cause i wasnt being treated with respect etc and they played mind games on FB threads etc :P Petty stuff like..

Ive deactivated it a couple of times and almost got to the two week phase of it being permanently deleted and for some strange reason, i felt bad about my college friends etc....I dont know why, but i had to go back on it for fear of not having friends. Does that make sense?

Anyone else kicked the addiction? If so, how?

Ainekav

Why do you have to have anything to do with shifting pages?
In my opinion they are a laugh - but there's no reason why you must "like" them and peruse them... If you're not ok with it then why are you looking at them?!

I think addiction is a very strong word for what you're describing...

Are you saying people only contact you for nights out and you only go out with them for the facebook photos?! This is a bit strange...

Why don't you try contacting friends NOT via facebook, and go out and visit them in their houses?

Eathrin

I feel almost the same.

I find the whole thing to be extremely shallow.
It's nowhere near the same as meeting people in person.
It's competitive (friend count, photos etc.)
It's a waste of time.

Don't worry about all the "likes" etc., like Ainekav said you don't need to bother yourself worrying about what other people choose to click on.

But whenever I go to delete it I just think of all the people I may lose contact with altogether. I'm weak:D
But honestly I wish I never had it.

But delete it or not, you won't have "no" friends. You may find you become a more social person!

Fentdog84

Advice from FB hater: Take yourself off facebook, permanently. Its overrated anyway, and in a way perverse, IMO. The world got by ok before facebook existed and will be after its gone. I joined up ''because everyone else is on it'' and removed myself from it after a couple of things happened which I didnt like(people i know not responding to friend requests, ex accusing humiliating me to her friends, etc). Better of without it.

Backstreet Moyes

Im not on Facebook myself im sure it has its good points like meeting old friends etc. But i dont 300 odd friends like i would if i was on their, i have my friends in my phone book and if i want to contact them i will use txt or make a phone call. Also its full of people who post up things has egg for breakfast was nice. People should be out talking and having fun not making small talk to people you wouldnt really talk to much in general.

student2010

I'm on fb after avoiding bebo and fb for years. while I'll admit it can be a good way of keeping in touch with people, it is very fake and full of bs comments and 'like' pages. lots of people will wait for a while to accept friend requests, I've found many people not to reply to messages also which is very rude imo. can never understand people having full blown and in depth conversations on it for all to see, wouldn't be put out in the slightest if it was ever shut down.

Ainekav

I don't understand what the issue is though?

You are disillusioned with Facebook and the affect its having on your "real" social life - but you won't delete it and you don't seem to be cutting down on your usage either?

I don't really believe in a "facebook addiction" to be honest.

Start using your legs and your phone

eternal

Well youre off it now so why worry ?
I dont even know what a shifting page is ,so I mean you couldnt say it affects people .Youre taking way too serious .

LegacyUser

Well, I joined at first only cause everyone else was on it too.

I did try to quit it a few times, but like a poster said above, i feel like i lose contacts . And yeah i give in...

desaparecidos

facebookfear wrote: »

Ive deactivated it a couple of times and almost got to the two week phase of it being permanently deleted and for some strange reason, i felt bad about my college friends etc....I dont know why, but i had to go back on it for fear of not having friends. Does that make sense?

Anyone else kicked the addiction? If so, how?

"Social Media" is an opportunity for self promoting attention whores to try and portray themselves as the life of the party, the person with the most friends, the person who thinks interesting thoughts, the person who has mad nights out taking photos of the event as proof, the person who's very existence is now sustained by online validation.

People may claim that it's a good way to keep in touch with old friends / people abroad. I say to those people, email. Lets not forget for every new fad on the net, be it twitter, facebook, bebo, whatever, sits an email address where you get notified of new posts / comments.

People should just cut out the middle man and email each other directly. But then I guess conversations are done not in the public eye, thus attention whoring opportunities are limited.

LegacyUser

desaparecidos wrote: »

the person who has mad nights out taking photos of the event as proof.

Couldnt of said it better myself !