Talking too much!

dak

I recently played golf with a colleague from work and he never shut up about every single shot he took , how his game was going and comments on every shot I took. I'm not against talking on the course but this was ott.

I found I couldn't concentrate and played a very poor round of golf. I didn't want to cause offence so I said nothing. Anyone have this problem and suggestions how to tell them nicely to keep a lid on it ?

murphdogg11

I had the same problem in a club competiton a few weeks ago. Put my name on the timesheet & ended up playing with a guy that talked non stop for the 18 holes. I couldn't concentrate on anything & it was a waste of 4 hours. I'll make sure that he is not on the same line of the timesheet as me in future.

padywhack

You can do one of two things, tell him to shut the **** up or buy a set of earplugs.

Enigma IE

dak wrote: »

I recently played golf with a colleague from work and he never shut up about every single shot he took , how his game was going and comments on every shot I took. I'm not against talking on the course but this was ott.

I found I couldn't concentrate and played a very poor round of golf. I didn't want to cause offence so I said nothing. Anyone have this problem and suggestions how to tell them nicely to keep a lid on it ?

He did a Lee Trevino on you, gamesmanship!

Johnny_Fontane

I hear these stories all the time, but lets be honest, golf is a social game. I love to have a bit of craic on the course with people I am playing with. People can go OTT, but the best way to sort someone out is to have a quiet word with him. I find having a quiet word with him at a green and blaming one of the others in the group works out well.

So say to him 'just a quick word, I was talking with Jimmy (who's putting and out of earshot) and he's having trouble concentrating on his shots. He takes his game very seriously, can you just keep the banter down a bit? I have no problem with it, but Jimmy thinks he's tiger woods and its putting him off. To be honest Jimmy is a bit of a twat.' follow this with a snigger and have a little laugh about Jimmy. Jimmy will never know and your problem is sorted.........

death1234567

Nothing wrong with a bit of banter on the golf course. I find it helps me relax and not concentrate on my game which helps me play better. Never had the problem of someone talking too much but I don't play with many randomers.

Irishvillian

Just buy a fake hearing aid,only problem is that you will probably get caught out when someone shouts four;):D

Ben1010

Irishvillian wrote: »

Just buy a fake hearing aid,only problem is that you will probably get caught out when someone shouts four;):D

I'm all for the banter and bits of chats but i find this comment a bit offensive. I have many deaf friends , some of them wear hearing aids and they are so in the danger if one shouted out "fore".

Just for the record, u could never buy fake hearing aids and one would cost around €3-5k per aid...

dvemail

I don't mind people talking their way through their round as i find it helps take my mind of
the round i am playing. But it has to be enjoyable banter and not somebody who feels
the need to comment on every shot either you or he/she has made.

ssbob

At the same time I was playing recently and the guy I was playing with barely spoke to me until the end of the round, really boring and was just trying to fire the ball around to get finished.

L.O.F.T

Irishvillian wrote: »

Just buy a fake hearing aid,only problem is that you will probably get caught out when someone shouts four;):D

Ben1010 wrote: »

I'm all for the banter and bits of chats but i find this comment a bit offensive. I have many deaf friends , some of them wear hearing aids and they are so in the danger if one shouted out "fore".

Just for the record, u could never buy fake hearing aids and one would cost around €3-5k per aid...

A man was about to tee off on the golf course when he felt a tap on his shoulder and a man handed him a card that read, "I am a deaf mute. May I play through, please?"

The first man angrily gave the card back, and communicated that "No, he may NOT play through"

The first man whacked the ball onto the green and left to finish the hole.

Just as he was about to put the ball into the hole he was hit in the head with a golf ball, laying him out cold.

When he came to a few minutes later, he looked around and saw the deaf mute sternly looking at him, one hand on his hip, the other holding up 4 fingers.

Tom Fiat

Man he just psyched you out of it.
Listen to Bob Rotella - this approach taken by your work colleague is one of the most basic used to throw a guy off his game.
And you fell for it.
Next time you're playing with him, I suggest you bring a stereo and stick it on after every shot you take.
Watch how he reacts and claim your money/pride back.

mr.mickels

dak wrote: »

I recently played golf with a colleague from work and he never shut up about every single shot he took , how his game was going and comments on every shot I took. I'm not against talking on the course but this was ott.

I found I couldn't concentrate and played a very poor round of golf. I didn't want to cause offence so I said nothing. Anyone have this problem and suggestions how to tell them nicely to keep a lid on it ?

Personally I don't think its your position to tell another player what or how much he can say, provided he isn't talking while you are actually taking the shot. I recall a story in the Open one year Trevino and Jacklin paired in the final round, Jacklin rudely said to Trevino on the first tee, "we don't need to talk today" to which Trevino quickly replied "I'll talk, you listen!", and Trevino was dead right, why should any player be told be someone else how to conduct themselves. I just think its part of the game, you have to deal with who you are playing with and don't let them get to you, its his right to talk as he likes and you're right not to listen.

I recall playing with 2 guys in a scratch cup years ago, all 3 of us doing well, one guy just kept talking on and on, it was driving the other guy nuts, but as far as I was concerned that was his problem, don't allow other people to distract you. Late on in the round the talking guy was still talking going up the fairway, when the cranky guy was ready to play the shot their was silence, crank hit a bad shot, missed the green and turned round to the other fellow and snapped at him "YACKETY YACKETY YACK", by which was followed an awkward silence and I can tell you it reflected alot worse on the guy who snapped than the other fellow who was obviously offended at being blamed for the bad shot. I remembered that incident whenever I was playing with someone who talked alot, just let him talk and don't let it affect your game and NEVER use it as an excuse for a bad shot, that is my feelings on the matter. There is never any excuses for hitting a bad shot yourself, don't look to blame anyone else who talks before you hit, provided he isn't talking while you hit.
And bearing in mind this guy is a work colleague I would think it particularly unwise to teach him how to talk, not only will he find it insulting he will most likely think you are very infantile to look for such excuses for bad golf, it is a social game afterall.

soundsham

grow a pair......

Ben1010

L.O.F.T wrote: »

A man was about to tee off on the golf course when he felt a tap on his shoulder and a man handed him a card that read, "I am a deaf mute. May I play through, please?"

The first man angrily gave the card back, and communicated that "No, he may NOT play through"

The first man whacked the ball onto the green and left to finish the hole.

Just as he was about to put the ball into the hole he was hit in the head with a golf ball, laying him out cold.

When he came to a few minutes later, he looked around and saw the deaf mute sternly looking at him, one hand on his hip, the other holding up 4 fingers.

Hilarous.....NOT

Flanders536

Ben1010 wrote: »

Hilarous.....NOT

Are you going to take offence to any joke that has any referance to deaf or mute people, as I am sure they also posses a sense of humor like the rest of us and would enjoy a good joke.

You are taking offence and commenting to show that we should show more respect to hearing/vocally empairedplayers when the joke itself showed that if the gent had allow him to play threw he would not have been knocked out.

So infact you are arguing for a point that is being aggreed with

LostPassword

Some people are a bit annoying. One should always avoid playing golf with annoying people when possible as golf is a game to be shared with people whose company you enjoy. When you do happen to play with annoying people, it is best to consider it as a challenge and a learning experience. Much like dealing with aggressive full backs is an annoying but necessary part of of becoming a good football player, being able to deal with annoying background stuff is a necessary part of becoming a good golfer. So, if you find the guy annoying avoid playing with him in future, but if it affects your game, that's a weakness that you should try to overcome.

Did anybody see Paul McGinley on sky last week. He was one of their studio pundits for a pga event and during a long rain delay he was given an inquisition which I thought he handled with exceptional aplomb. One of the questions was about the most annoying people to be paired with - he answered that he couldn't think of anybody because when he's playing he just doesn't allow anybody to interfere with his 'buzz'. The manner in which he said it left no doubt as to the genuine nature of his comment and he is a gregarious character, so he isn't exactly the type to keep to himself.

SARZY

soundsham wrote: »

grow a pair......

Unless he is your boss, in which case you may have to grin and bear it.

If he is NOT your boss tell him to shut up.

If that doesnt work, insist that you only ever play for money, suggest a bet that he would hurt to lose and if he agrees it will get quiet very quickly.

Tones69

Ah i dont mind talking in between holes and in between shots etc, obviously though when ur teeing off or taking a shot no talk or whispering of any kinda should be allowed, drives me crazy

Ben1010

Flanders536 wrote: »

Are you going to take offence to any joke that has any referance to deaf or mute people, as I am sure they also posses a sense of humor like the rest of us and would enjoy a good joke.

You are taking offence and commenting to show that we should show more respect to hearing/vocally empairedplayers when the joke itself showed that if the gent had allow him to play threw he would not have been knocked out.

So infact you are arguing for a point that is being aggreed with

Sorry what was that?...i didn't hear you there!