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Need advice on coming out

  • 20-05-2011 6:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Sorry for this, but I'm kinda looking for some friendly advice on what to do. I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. I don't want to bore people with the details but here's basically the predicament in short.

    I'm bisexual and to be honest I've dreaded coming out. Over the last two years, there have been a number of rumours about my sexuality going around my school. People have been generally horrible. I've been called a ****** in the middle of a class and when I got cross with the person who said all the teacher did was say "Lads, calm it down". Before a school trip abroad, two guys were insinuating that I'd try and have sex with the person staying in the hotel room with me (they certainly didn't say it that mildly though). Anyway, things seemed to die down for a while and nothing was being said (not to my face anyway). But then last week something happened which I won't bother going into detail about but basically the rumours are flying around the place again and people are pretty certain that I'm gay or bi now. But what I'm worried about is that it's going to get back to my friends who are in college and don't know yet and, worse still, to my family (I've relations in the school).

    I don't particularly want to come out, but I feel that if my best friends and family are going to find out, I'd prefer that I break the news to them rather than them hearing it on the rumour mill from a friend of a friend kinda thing.

    Any advice?


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  • #2
    xxtattyberxx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 258 ✭✭xxtattyberxx


    My advise to you is to come out to the people you want knowing, not saying keep it hush hush or secret but sit you nearest and dearest down, explain to them who you are and the horrible time you have had because of it.
    These are the people who love you regardless of anything and wont judge you. To be honest if they know you well they probably know already and your prob more worried that anything else.
    As for those people who judge and bully you well there nothing but small minded individuals. In this day and age people should have more to worry about than your sexuality. These are the type of people you'll see outside the dole office on signing on day.
    Be proud of who you are, and keep the people who are happy for you with you and than these insults will become history.


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