being spied on

LegacyUser

Hey, I'm a student who lives at home with my parents. Problem is they've being spying on me for years - (checking texts, ipods, computer, everything, even had to block them on fb). Got sick of it and i decided to get revenge on them (mother in particular). I found a creepy sex site, put up an ad and even photoshopped a random half-naked pic of the internet to make it look like it was in my room. Left the ad open on my ipod and surprise surprise she found it (i know because it was on a different page after she had being in my room). but she's being such a coward she hasnt even confronted me on it, and I'm worried now she'l think I'm some kind of sicko.
I'm afraid now this might backfire on me, and they'll make that a bigger issue then them spying on me. I'm sick of it tbh, and i'm seriously considering moving out for next year.
Anyone have any ideas how to deal with their spying, and how to fix things?

MitchKoobski

Move out for next year. Can't stress that enough. My own mother would do the exact same thing.

Feel free to actually walk up to her and say "Were you looking at my ipod the other day? Because the page had changed when I went back to it."

eternal

If I were a doctor I would say this is paranoid and almost the beginning of psychotic thinking.
However Im no doctor.Do you have proof of this? have you seen with your own two eyes them doing these things.
I dont own an ipod so dont understand about a different page,thought people listened to music on ipods ?
The dodgy picture thing was going a bit far ,why give them something concrete to actually give them something that you believe they are looking for ?
Why dont you confront them .You should know straight away by their reaction what the truth is.
Plus elderly parents ? how would they know how to use these things.My parents are elderly and cant even read texts i send them ,nor can my mother use her own basic phone hardly.
This all sounds unlikely .EDIT you didnt say elderly ,excuse me

Ickle Magoo

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LegacyUser

Yeah I know I might have gone a bit overboard with the ad but it's a long time of anger over it which just spilled over. The thing is there not elderly they know well what they're doing. It's not paranoia either because pages on iPods have changed, things left in different places. The only problem moving for college is that I do depend a lot on them moneywise and if I confront her on the spying/stalking it's gonna cause even more trouble which puts the move in doubt.

Aishae

hi OP i wonder if the folks are just really really nosey and got used to not respecting your privacy as a kid - so its the same now....
if i suspected my folks were doing this to me id get a lock for my room and dont leave things they can look at lying about (including my bag as thats usually where my phone is)
it might make you feel more secure knowing theres a lock

eternal

Im really sorry .I honestly thought I was helping

whatdoicare

My mam was a pain for doing that - I mailed myself a letter (this was back before internet took off and it was my mail and personal diary she checked)
in the letter I wrote to my mam saying that I am aware that she disrespecting my privacy by opening my personal mail and diary and that if the seal in the letter is broken I will know that she has read my message and will stop from now on and no more needs to be said on the issue.
Of course the stupid cow tried to pretend it never happened and actually celotaped the letter closed like she always did - I just gave her the letter and said that it was for her and said no more. Just walked away. Never got a letter again stuck back together -so, either she got better at it or she stopped

landsleaving

I know people who have parents like that, they just can't accept their child is growing up. Call them on it, tell them you want some privacy and that you'll answer any questions they might have, but that they can't snoop. If they continue doing so, move out. If that's not an option then the lock is a good idea, as would be passwords on your computer and ipod.

Kudos on the prank though, I'd have done the same thing to be honest. If it makes you feel any better, if they haven't said it to you they could be having 'serious' conversations about it. I recommend laughing about that instead of worrying what they think of you. If I worried about all the weird stuff people have found on my computers over the years I'd have a nervous breakdown... at least yours was just a prank!

King of Kings

savage!!! A good ploy - don't feel bad about your game with your mam. I salute you.
I had a similar upbringing and the only solution is to move out - which I did at 19 - your parents won't change , you can't teach an old dog new tricks and all that

Miss Fluff

Move out

Emme

OP, why are you still living there if they're so nosey? Move out.

LeixlipRed

My Mam is nosey. But in the "I want to know so I can tell your dad and we can have a good laugh about it" way This is just way over the top. But I feel there's a lot going unsaid between all parties, why don't you just have it out with them? Moving out is expensive and if you're going to be relying on them for cash then it's just best to at least attempt to clear the air. If they respond negatively to it then make the decision to try move out. Good luck!

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies everyone.. I know I probably should confront them but then the whole moving out thing will probably be made more complicated. I wouldnt entirely be dependent on them for money with a grant (if i get it) and my own savings but I will need some help moneywise. LeixlipRed I get what your saying, because she's the nosey one and then just tells him what she's found out, but I just think they've gone a bit far. Kinda think that next year in college is going to be hell if I'm still living here with basically no privacy. Atm, I'm doing a plc but I have the points for a course I want in ul in limerick which is looking very appealing for september.

deisemum

I'm a mother of teenage boys though they're a bit younger and I'm cringing at the thoughts of parents purposely snooping through the grown up childrens things. Maybe I'm naive but I couldn't go snooping through their stuff just for the sake of it and so far they haven't given me any reason to snoop though if in the future there's something serious not right then it's something that might have to be considered.

I do warn them if they don't want me to see something then make sure they don't leave it lying around and to check their pockets before something ends up for the wash.

I never had any privacy when I lived at home so know what it's like.

On a similar vein I've had my mother in law snooping through my stuff including my knickers drawer and my only regret is not having left notes such as F off nosy.

Ken.

O.p buy a safe. €50 or less in woodies. either with number pad or a key. If you get the key one keep one key on you at all time and give the other one to a trusted friend outside your house.

Eric Cartman

Pascode on your ipod , passwprd on phone and computer maybee ?