Boyfriend eats his boogers

Anonymous00

My boyfriend eats his snots/boogers and I am totally grossed out. He does this constantly! Mainly because he is forever picking his nose. When we first got together he never did around me, I had no idea until we had been together a while. He is 32 years old and has been eating his snots his whole life-in fact, his mother told me as a child he suffered from 'mystery infections' and was on antifungals orally & the doctor attributed it to his snot eating. I am just wondering if anyone else out there thinks this is nasty, especially for a fully grown 32 year old man.

Ickle Magoo

So tell him to stop doing it in front of you if it grosses you out - ask him to have a little self control and go the bathroom...on the other hand if it's not a huge deal and you can live with it then look the other way & let him get on with it.

LegacyUser

This is so disgusting and weird it blows my mind. He is 32.

You need to beak up with him. He can not be in his right mind.

Also how can you bear to kiss him. I actually feel sick.

Fentdog84

Yeah thats a disgusting habit. Probably because he was never corrected on it as a kid. Most of the time he dosent realise he's doing it, so just make him aware that he's doing it and say ''can you not do that, or will you ever use a tissue?''.

tinkerbell

That is a rotten horrible habit. How can he expect you to even kiss him if he's eating snots from his nose?! Ugh that's just so gross.

xzanti

Wow, there's a passion killer if ever I heard it yuk yuk yuk.. he has obviously become a little too comfortable around you..

Tell him that it's disgusting and that it's making you lose the 'spark' for him.. In fairness, how can you stay enamoured with someone who picks his nose and munches it infront of you :eek:

LegacyUser

Sorry, call me shallow but that would be an automatic deal breaker for me. I am actually heaving reading that. WTF did his mother not try and stop him? OP i'd explain to your OH that it's a disgusting habit and he has to stop or else. If he's never been corrected maybe he genuinely doesn't realise how gross it is. Tough love in this case I think.

Zeouterlimits

Just be honest with him, that you don't like it and would like him to stop.

Blisterman

All these calls to break up with him seem a little harsh. It's a bad habit, that can be broken. Let him know you find it disgusting and call him on it, any time you see him doing it. Hopefully this will embarass him into stopping.

LegacyUser

OP, it's a bad habit he needs to break. Obviously nobody has bothered trying to stop him in the past if his mother stood by and let him get sick from it, but it's a habit that can obviously be broken (as many appear to) just like biting your nails or other compulsive habits.

It's also a very childish habit, as although a lot of people (and particularly men) pick their nose, only children tend to eat the product of their mining. As such, I would play on that fact and sort of belittle the habit and ask him when he's going to grow up. It's ridiculous that he's still doing it and it's akin to sucking his thumb or other childish compulsions.

Remind him of his age and that he has to grow up and stop doing this and that while he continues to, you won't be kissing him or interacting with him sexually, as you wouldn't with a child.

poozers

maybe take consolation in the fact that he feels comfortable enough to do it in front of you? my boyfriend picks his nose too when we're at home watching tv or something (he doesnt eat it mind you ) but it doesnt really bother me, its a bit gross, but im used to it now! and i dont want him to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed around me! if its really grossing you out tho, just be honest and tell him to stop doing in front of you!:)

p.s. I used to bite my nails, been doing it ever since i was a kid, and you can get this stuff "Stop 'n' Grow", put it on your nails, it tastes absolutely awful, and its a clear liquid and it's definitely worked for me and my nails!! maybe suggest it to your boyfriend? it works for kids sucking their thumbs so im sure it would work for booger eating !

nozzferrahhtoo

Anonymous00 wrote: »

My boyfriend eats his snots/boogers

Technically so do you. We all do. The contents of our nose travel into the stomach via the back of the nose where they are swallowed. It is one of the reasons we swallow all the time. If you think you are just swallowing the moisture in your mouth you are wrong, you swallow the contents of your nose too.... and I think the ears as well but I am not sure on that one.

My point being that yes it is unpleasant and in some ways unhealthy to insert a finger and orally eat it, but knowing that we all eat it really might help you to find it less disgusting on some levels. It might not of course, but just in case it helps I thought I would point it out.

LegacyUser

I have been with my boyfriend for some time. We already were moving in together, and planning out our future. He is a very clean person, takes a shower every day, never leaves trash around, does the dishes and the laundry before I would even do it.

But, I just discovered that he too picks his nose and eats it. And the crazy part was that a week before I saw him do it, we ended up talking about it because of a movie. And he said he did it as a kid. (I was grossed out, and told him so. But at that point it was ok, because I had him doing it as a kid, and not as the wonderful man before me....plus he never ate paste, another habit i was grossed out by as a child).

Any way...when I caught him at it, I yelled right away. So we ended up having a discussion about it at that time. I have had trouble having his face near me as well. I don't want to kiss him, but i still love him. And I hope every day, that I will forget about it.

But here is what I did. And this may help you. I have told him that this is not an acceptable behavior, not just by my standards, but by everyone over the age of ten. And he needs to stop NOW, (which he actually agreed to me about, and said that he has tried to stop in the past. Maybe he needed me to actually MAKE him stop).

And then if he goes the whole day with out eating his boogers, he gets some sort of positive reinforcement. (usually of the adult kind.... a subtle reminder that he is no longer a child). We shall see if any of this actually works though.