Webcam sex - would you call it cheating?

dark crystal

Just had my friend on the phone in an awful state, after chucking her longterm boyfriend out of the house, having discovered an MSN log detailing a, em, hot and heavy session he had with another girl on webcam.

He swears it was an innocent convo, that turned flirty and eventually into a 'show me yours and I'll show you mine' type session.

She says it's out and out cheating.

What do ye think? Is she overreacting or should she kick him to the kerb like the dog he is??!

orourkeda

depends on who or what youre banging at the time

My name is URL

Of course it's cheating

..especially if you're caught

Raze_them_all

I'd find the pain of penetrating a webcam offputting tbh

m@cc@

dark crystal wrote: »

He swears it was an innocent convo, that turned flirty and eventually into a 'show me yours and I'll show you mine' type session.

She says it's out and out cheating.

What do ye think? Is she overreacting or should she kick him to the kerb like the dog he is??!

At the risk of sounding like a woman, cheating for women is more a mental thing than a physical. He's a silly c*** either way.

Sparks43

Only if you stick your cock in the hard drive:pac:

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Was he using a cumputer?

I hope he had the latest Norton Anti-Virus :pac:

TheZohanS

dark crystal wrote: »

Just had my friend on the phone in an awful state, after chucking her longterm boyfriend out of the house, having discovered an MSN log detailing a, em, hot and heavy session he had with another girl on webcam.

He swears it was an innocent convo, that turned flirty and eventually into a 'show me yours and I'll show you mine' type session.

She says it's out and out cheating.

What do ye think? Should I make a move now that she's vulnerable?

Yes you should.

RachaelVO

Yes it's cheating! You don't have to fcuk him/her for it to be cheating. Could be sexting, telephone sex or horny IM, makes not a sh1t worth of difference.

Basq

"Webcam sex"? :rolleyes:

That's all a bit sad really!

xaoifsx

well i would class that as cheating..its different to porn which everyone is free to look at and its not one2one chat..

RachaelVO

Basq wrote: »

"Webcam sex"? :rolleyes:

That's all a bit sad really!

It is really, bit Lesley Grantham dressed up as Captain Hook sad!

18AD

Would you consider a man and a woman in a room separated by a screen passing notes and pictures to eachother and simultaneously having a ****, cheating?

I don't really know.

m@cc@

RachaelVO wrote: »

Yes it's cheating! You don't have to fcuk him/her for it to be cheating. Could be sexting, telephone sex or horny IM, makes not a sh1t worth of difference.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh2sWSVRrmo

dark crystal

TheZohan wrote: »

Yes you should.

Ah here now, I'm a woman meself....do you think a man would ever use the term 'kick him to the kerb like the dog he is'? :P

PeterIanStaker

If he got his lad out as opposed to just chatting then it is crossing the line, but would the guy have done it if he was in the same room as the girl?

TheZohanS

dark crystal wrote: »

Ah here now, I'm a woman meself....do you think a man would ever use the term 'kick him to the kerb like the dog he is'? :P

Stop being so sexist and go ride your friend.

orourkeda

Did mr hands cheat?

dark crystal

PeterIanStaker wrote: »

If he got his lad out as opposed to just chatting then it is crossing the line, but would the guy have done it if he was in the same room as the girl?

Yes indeed he did get his lad out and judging by the rather graphic convo, he finished hinself off quite nicely too.

By the way, I would definitely class it as cheating, but perhaps something I could get over more so than if he had physically carried out the act with the girl.

The trust would be gone, either way though.

jubella

RachaelVO wrote: »

Yes it's cheating! You don't have to fcuk him/her for it to be cheating. Could be sexting, telephone sex or horny IM, makes not a sh1t worth of difference.

Agreed. It's definitely cheating! How would a guy feel if he found his girlfriend stripping off for some guy on webcam?!

Yeah I'd call it cheating

kfallon

Why cheat on webcam? You can't even give a 'sneaky finger' ffs :pac:

RachaelVO

jubella wrote: »

Agreed. It's definitely cheating! How would a guy feel if he found his girlfriend stripping off for some guy on webcam?!

He'd probably totally flip, but guys and gals have a different view of what constitutes cheating. He probably feels that he didn't shag her so it's ok. She feels (probably - as I would), the he went outside their relationship for something that is intimate.

I'm pretty sure I know what I'd of done with his webcam, and I'm dam sure it would hurt too

TheZohanS

dark crystal wrote: »

Yes indeed he did get his lad out and judging by the rather graphic convo, he finished hinself off quite nicely too.

By the way, I would definitely class it as cheating, but perhaps something I could get over more so than if he had physically carried out the act with the girl.

The trust would be gone, either way though.

On a serious note though, women see emotional cheating like you have here as a much bigger deal than guys...anything physical as in person to person is cheating for most guys.

The aul webcamarooney is kinda like watching a porno. Does your friends fella live near the webcam girl? Like if she lives in a foreign country(or Laois) it shouldn't be a big deal...

RachaelVO

kfallon wrote: »

Why cheat on webcam? You can't even give a 'sneaky finger' ffs :pac:

You're mother effing obsessed with the "sneaky finger" :pac:

dark crystal

TheZohan wrote: »

Like if she lives in a foreign country(or Laois) it shouldn't be a big deal...

Nah, she's apparantly someone he chats to on and off from a shared forum they frequent. She lives in the U.K

kfallon

RachaelVO wrote: »

You're mother effing obsessed with the "sneaky finger" :pac:

And you're getting intrigued, I can tell :pac:

RachaelVO

kfallon wrote: »

And you're getting intrigued, I can tell :pac:

Sssshhhhhh, you're making me blush

no1beemerfan

dark crystal wrote: »

Nah, she's apparantly someone he chats to on and off from a shared forum they frequent. She lives in the U.K

Still doesn't make it right. I'd definately call it cheating.

Scuid Mhór

Hahahahaha how is this even a question?

kfallon

RachaelVO wrote: »

Sssshhhhhh, you're making me blush

Wait til I introduce you to 'Boldfinger' :pac:

Toby Take a Bow

TheZohan wrote: »

On a serious note though, women see emotional cheating like you have here as a much bigger deal than guys...anything physical as in person to person is cheating for most guys.

But if you caught your girlfriend doing something similar with a guy on a webcam, how would you react? I'd probably class it as cheating, or at least definitely something we'd have to 'talk' about (ie, it'd probably result in the relationship ending).

DominoDub

I am neither CAM4 or against it ...!

MidnightQueen

Yup i would call it cheating too. Virtual reality sex like Judge Dredd, LOL would be the same thing as having sex in real life.

RachaelVO

kfallon wrote: »

Wait til I introduce you to 'Boldfinger' :pac:

Oh my... :o:o:o:o:o

Fluorescence

It wouldn't be a relationship-ending offence for me, but yeah I wouldn't be cool with it. I'd probably fume for a couple of days, self-doubt, and then get over it.

KingEnda

there would need to be a bit of contact for cheating. Web cam sex is just having a wa*k with someone watching you
She could get pissed off for a while but he could be doing a hell of a lot worse

Tar.Aldarion

I would consider it very bad.

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RachaelVO wrote: »

Yes it's cheating! You don't have to fcuk him/her for it to be cheating. Could be sexting, telephone sex or horny IM, makes not a sh1t worth of difference.

+1 This!.

If I was in a casual enough relationship this wouldn't matter a fiddlers f*ck to me, if in a loving relationship I'd be very hurt and consider it a betrayal.

tippx

What if your partner joined in would that qualify as a 3 some:rolleyes:

Raze_them_all

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

I would consider it very bad.

What if the other person was Avril Lavigne getting her bits out on screen?

It wasn't me!

Yes, it's cheating. Would he have done it if herself was in the room and expected her to be fine? If not, then he obviously knows it wasn't acceptable too and went ahead anyway.

Tar.Aldarion

Raze_them_all wrote: »

What if the other person was Avril Lavigne getting her bits out on screen?

then she can gtfo

starbelgrade

jubella wrote: »

Agreed. It's definitely cheating! How would a guy feel if he found his girlfriend stripping off for some guy on webcam?!

Horny.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Its only cheating if he pressed Ctrl + Alt + ejaculate.

TheZohanS

Toby Take a Bow wrote: »

But if you caught your girlfriend doing something similar with a guy on a webcam, how would you react? I'd probably class it as cheating, or at least definitely something we'd have to 'talk' about (ie, it'd probably result in the relationship ending).

It depends, if it was with someone on the far side of the world I might be slightly miffed but I'd sit down and talk about it like an adult and find the reason for it, it might even add a new dimension to our relationship. If it was with someone she knew, had met or had planned to meet I'd probably dump her.

A_Border_Bandit

I despise guys who cheat when they're playing on the computer.
It's just not cool like. I mean, you get a quick rush and everything but then you just feel empty inside, you're back to reality man and no amount of

R2, R2, L1, L2, LEFT, DOWN, RIGHT, UP, LEFT, DOWN, RIGHT, UP

will ever fix that.

ArtSmart

cheating? only if you use someone else's credit card.

Fluorescence

TheZohan wrote: »

It depends, if it was with someone on the far side of the world I might be slightly miffed but I'd sit down and talk about it like an adult and find the reason for it, it might even add a new dimension to our relationship. If it was with someone she knew, had met or had planned to meet I'd probably dump her.

If it was a complete stranger on the other side of the world that they would never meet, I'd view it as interactive porn to be honest. It probably would be a dumpable offense if it was someone they knew IRL.

Aishae

an ex of mine 11 years ago did the webcam sex thing with a woman regularly - no i didnt know this till later - they ended up fecking off with her.
so its not just a harmless sex thing like porn.
at the very least youd have to have a very good chat about it as i would see it as a form of cheating (with th potential for the worse forms of chating too)

--LOS--

ye, same as sending dirty texts, emails, being on dating sites on the sly