Ashamed, Depressed & Feeling Stupid

busyliving

Hey all,

Don't know if this is the correct place to post, so if it’s the wrong place apologizes.

So I’m in Australia and at the start it was a little tough, but I got over it. But I’ve now been here over 10 weeks and I think I want to go home. I'm finding it hard to get work and I keep thinking of the positives of going home. But before I came over here I could only think of the negatives about home.

I know if I go home that I won't get a job, but that doesn't bother me in the short term, because in my head I think I’ll draw the dole and go to the gym 3 days a week and take up learning a new language...but I don't know if I’m just telling myself this to make going home an easy choice.

I'm not homesick, because I’ve suffered that before when first left Ireland to work a summer job in London...

In my head I just keep thinking that a better life lies somewhere else no matter where I am.

If anyone can give my advice it would be greatly appreciated

Shelga

busyliving wrote: »

Hey all,

In my head I just keep thinking that a better life lies somewhere else no matter where I am.

I can empathise with this bit anyway! Have been toying with the idea of Australia myself. My advice would be don't come home just yet. As you know there is nothing here. Seriously. I'm working unpaid at the moment and it's pretty soul destroying.

Have you tried agencies etc? I hear some of them are ok. How hard are you trying to look for work, has it gotten to a stage where you sort of hope you won't find anything so you'll have to come home? I would imagine it takes about six months to start to feel settled when you move countries like that. Also, if you're on the WHV and come home, that's your one chance gone. Very hard to return to Oz to work after that I believe.

Standard PI response, but have you tried getting involved with clubs or sports teams? It can be tough to make the effort at first but you have to put yourself out there to make friends. Nothing worth having comes easy!

Obviously if you really really hate it and are miserable and have tried everything then come home. Life's too short to be unhappy for any lengthy period of time. I would still give it at least another few months though. Have you family or friends at home who could lend you a little money to keep you going?

Oh and the dole is 100 times worse than my current job. You'll think it's grand for about two weeks, then gradually feelings of failure and misery will set in. Be warned. Plus it rains all the time!

LegacyUser

Busy Living, I am in the exact same situation. In Perth, want to go home, struggling to find work... you know the story. I'm here 5 months and I can't say things have improved since the first few weeks.

All I can think about is going home. I know I will be (and was) happier at home. You hear all the stories of people's trips to Oz and they had a great old time, drinking, travelling, making loads of friends etc etc. This just hasn't happened for me, the main reason being I don't drink. Sadly that's all people seem to do here socially.

My opinion is biased of course but I would say just head home, maybe look to the UK for work aswell. That is my plan anyway, I can see a light at the end of the tunnel but it's not in Australia.

I know I haven't been much help but at least you kow there is someone feeling the same way and please don't be ashamed of yourself.

busyliving

sameostory wrote: »

Busy Living, I am in the exact same situation. In Perth, want to go home, struggling to find work... you know the story. I'm here 5 months and I can't say things have improved since the first few weeks.

All I can think about is going home. I know I will be (and was) happier at home. You hear all the stories of people's trips to Oz and they had a great old time, drinking, travelling, making loads of friends etc etc. This just hasn't happened for me, the main reason being I don't drink. Sadly that's all people seem to do here socially.

My opinion is biased of course but I would say just head home, maybe look to the UK for work aswell. That is my plan anyway, I can see a light at the end of the tunnel but it's not in Australia.

I know I haven't been much help but at least you kow there is someone feeling the same way and please don't be ashamed of yourself.

Well mate if you don't mind me asking, where have you been applying for work? Have you checked out the Western Australian?

I may have work, next week but I’m kind of fearful that I won't be able to do the work to an acceptable level...its manual labour in a wood yard is its going to be tough and I got the work through a mate so keeping my fingers crossed and going to give it a serious go for 3 weeks and save as much as i can and revaluate the situation.

Mate, are you over here with mates yeah?

Mighty_Mouse

Being out the world alone with nobody to rely on is a valuable lesson.
Use this time as a chance to develop your independance.
It seems you had valid reasons for leaving Ireland.
Oz is not forever, why not make enough money to travel, NZ, Indo, Aisa regions are all on your doorstep.

coconut5

Don't come home. How much hassle was it to get the visa, get all your money saved, say goodbye to everyone? If you come home now, all that would have been for nothing. Even if you are miserable there for the year, stick it out. It is character building, the weather will be nice, and you will have cut off your ties with home, so that the next trip you take will go a lot better. But you need to stick it out.

rediguana25

Shelga wrote: »

I can empathise with this bit anyway! Have been toying with the idea of Australia myself. My advice would be don't come home just yet. As you know there is nothing here. Seriously. I'm working unpaid at the moment and it's pretty soul destroying.

Have you tried agencies etc? I hear some of them are ok. How hard are you trying to look for work, has it gotten to a stage where you sort of hope you won't find anything so you'll have to come home? I would imagine it takes about six months to start to feel settled when you move countries like that. Also, if you're on the WHV and come home, that's your one chance gone. Very hard to return to Oz to work after that I believe.

Standard PI response, but have you tried getting involved with clubs or sports teams? It can be tough to make the effort at first but you have to put yourself out there to make friends. Nothing worth having comes easy!

Obviously if you really really hate it and are miserable and have tried everything then come home. Life's too short to be unhappy for any lengthy period of time. I would still give it at least another few months though. Have you family or friends at home who could lend you a little money to keep you going?

Oh and the dole is 100 times worse than my current job. You'll think it's grand for about two weeks, then gradually feelings of failure and misery will set in. Be warned. Plus it rains all the time!

I couldn't have said it better myself....Give it another go...stay positive and see what happens in the next couple of months. It definitely takes at least 6 mths to settle in anywhere...you've got nothing to lose...stick it out you'll feel better for it!! good luck!

busyliving

To all of ye who think i should think about it...hope your happy cause your of the same opinion of my brother....lets see if i'm stil around this time next wext week and we'll judge then